NothingElseMatters
Warlock
- Mar 30, 2020
- 745
Fadeawaaaay
Visionary
- Nov 12, 2021
- 2,158
Not me. But I am a highly social person. I have never been this alone. And losing my girlfriend, looking towards getting older, I don't see anything changing. So there's no point in being here. I'm just wasting space.
I don't think human beings are wired to be alone. Going back 100,000 years humans were not solitary creatures. Our current system of "every man for himself " is biologically wrong.
I don't think human beings are wired to be alone. Going back 100,000 years humans were not solitary creatures. Our current system of "every man for himself " is biologically wrong.
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I am not sure whether life has a meaning. Though I think if they are happy most people see life as meaningful.
In contrast when people severly suffer they see people as pointless.
I think there are two kinds of loneliness. Existential loneliness and profane loneliness. Both can suck very much. I know both. I do not have a solution for it. I try to distract me but this does not work long-time.
In contrast when people severly suffer they see people as pointless.
I think there are two kinds of loneliness. Existential loneliness and profane loneliness. Both can suck very much. I know both. I do not have a solution for it. I try to distract me but this does not work long-time.
solid_snake
Member
- Nov 27, 2021
- 18
Relentless coping. Think about all things that are bothering you and then relentlessly fix all of those problems. Being defeatist about this shit will only make it worse you have to get after it.
Fadeawaaaay
Visionary
- Nov 12, 2021
- 2,158
Like if pointless in whatever company you are in. Why would it be different being lonely?
I enjoy loneliness more than i enjoy being with people. People always have some agenda or they are on drugs.. It's tiring ...
I know i'm better off alone than in a group with people trying to manipulate the situation into their favor - which is always the case anyway
BY THE WAY
What is happiness? Who the f** decides what happiness is ?
^Think for yourself and dont let anyone tell you anythuing else
I enjoy loneliness more than i enjoy being with people. People always have some agenda or they are on drugs.. It's tiring ...
I know i'm better off alone than in a group with people trying to manipulate the situation into their favor - which is always the case anyway
BY THE WAY
What is happiness? Who the f** decides what happiness is ?
^Think for yourself and dont let anyone tell you anythuing else
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TheHatedOne
Death is salvation
- Sep 26, 2021
- 2,028
I'll never be happy being lonely, it's one of the worst feelings ever. They say to distract yourself with hobbies or whatever but not even those work for me. As humans we crave interaction and belonging.
solid_snake
Member
- Nov 27, 2021
- 18
It's not about hobbies. Go do some volunteer work. Help an old lady cross the street. Read some books by Jordan Peterson and build yourself to be a better person. That's what changes loneliness into aloneness.
FuneralCry
Just wanting some peace
- Sep 24, 2020
- 45,477
Life is pointless, the idea that there is any sort of meaning to all of this is a delusion. People may say they have a reason to live, but that is just a distraction from the pointlessness of it all. I also believe happiness does not really exist, humans are never satisfied and what they have is never enough. But anyway, I would rather be alone than be surrounded by people. I cannot stand people and being around others makes me feel worse.
We are a herd animal, and herd animals are in groups, not isolated. Yes you are right.
But loneliness is very individual. Some people like it, some people don't.
Also, it's a difference between CHOSEN loneliness and if you're lonely but cant get company.
I got same thinking. Why stay around something that makes you worse ? I dont get that. But Normal people do this in excess so they get used to the shit and this is my theory - that they just adapt to shittiness and in the end , live around people anyway ... But somehow biology thrives on this , so the survival rate of doing that is optimal.
Because people are creatures of habit - and everything we do , we can get used to. Humans can get used to everything. Its only a matter of repetition.
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NothingElseMatters
Warlock
- Mar 30, 2020
- 745
don't get me wrong, i don't want to be a highly social person, just having 1 or 2 friends i could talk on whatsapp after a hard day of work would be nice, or even a girlfriend, but instead of that i get back from work, zero messages on whatsapp of course and all i do is watch some crap movie then sleep for another long and painful day.
Everyone's different. Some people always need someone around them, some don't. I enjoy my time alone
really I don't think it's possible over the long term- maybe a day or so here and there is manageable. People are designed to talk and laugh with each other, etc. People are designed to be social in so many ways.
AstroV
Member
- Nov 3, 2021
- 75
You don't. You just eventually become numb to it. Although I'm always alone, I rarely feel lonely. It's like being dead inside.
Mocktezuma
Godspeed
- Nov 9, 2021
- 35
Because it is. Kinda vibing being alone although it is dope to share existence with friends sometimes. Enjoying being alone is a skill to learn
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NormaJeane
Member
- Mar 24, 2021
- 648
I believe that no human is happy alone because we are social beings, created to live in groups.
VoidDesirer22
A dream inside a locked room
- Sep 6, 2021
- 673
It is cruel because even having 1 or 2 can feel immensely lonely. I think I qualify for that, but the knowledge of all the people who have decided to leave me is something I continue to drag around like a ball and chain.
Crazy4u
Enlightened
- Sep 29, 2021
- 1,318
Life is definitely pointless. I have never met a lonely person who is happy inside
okaoki
last
- Aug 4, 2018
- 251
When you are being abused being alone for a while can bring relief- but then too much loneliness becomes the worst abuse of all- being alone should just be a short, temporary state until you get together with people who are nicer to you- I wish I realized this when younger.
I've been alone pretty much my whole life, but dont know what it feels like to be lonely. Being alone feels normal to me lol
In my opinion in this situation a person has gotten used to loneliness and doesn't realize how much better life could and should be. For example, laughing by yourself is not really fun, but laughing with others can be amazing- the same is true of most things in life.
FadingSunshine
Nothing lasts forever.
- Jul 8, 2023
- 147
I have friends and had meaningful relationships, but I always valued my alone time more than spending time with others. It just feels like I don't need to be with anyone else, I'm perfectly fine by myself. Plus it doesn't help that I have social anxiety.
