Discussion how are your parents?

[slitwristsbleedcold]

have they been kind to you? cruel? neglectful? did they support your life choices? while growing up, did they boost you? could you call them, parents?

me and my parents, are complicated, ever since i was a kid they never really showed affection or love, i was just there, yk? not much to say, many years spent just in silence, in each other presence, so growing up i was always, alone

 

[Vlad Tepes]

The two most mentally ill people on this planet. They can literally not be in the same room together without getting into a fistfight. I have never seen them express the slightest ounce of love towards one another. My mom is literally insane and mentally deficient (among other things she has psychosis and, while she doesnt suffer from dementia, she is functionally indistinguishable from somebody in the late stages of it), while my dad is a severely paranoid sociopath who Im surprised has not been jailed yet. Neither of them have jobs so we had to live in crushing poverty my entire life.

 

[Off_Switch]

The dumbest, most useless people on the face of the planet.

 

[mysticatedwine]

my mother has spent a big part of my childhood homeless and drug addict. she and my father had already broken up when i got born. my mother loved me but couldn't take care of me, so instead i stayed with my dad's new girlfriend (i will call her "K") who raised me. K loved me too and had a more stable situation than my mom, but she was verbally abusive and would start yelling at me for very tiny things. because of this i never managed to love K like a mom and couldn't talk with her about anything. I believe she is part of the reason why I am so anxious around others now and can't bring myself to have healthy relationships. My father wasn't here in the house when I was with K: he quickly broke up with her too and left to find a more stable life. We stayed in contact through skype. He loved me, talked to me and gave me reassurance when i was alone with K. My dad is the best person in my life.

I've cut ties with K in 2021 and moved in with my father. My mother died in 2022. My dad is the only one left and I live in the same city as him now. We see each other every once in a while and it's nice. He is the most reliable person in my life and we talk a lot with each other about many things. He would do anything for me.

 

[unluckysadness]

That's a good question. I have a lot to say about it. I suffered so much because of them and they never really understood my pain. Now I forgive them because they are miserable too in some ways.

 

[divinemistress36]

My dad is a good caring guy. My mom is her own world and doesnt understand all the suffering but I have better parents than a lot of people

 

[purplesky9]

They're been supportive. I've been lucky in that regard but it hasn't really helped me I've still ended up messing up my life and getting myself into the position I'm in now.

 

[pomie]

piece of shit creep cheater abandoner deadbeat and shitty narc emotionally abusive money hungry woman who never could accept shes not living luxuriously anymore and trash talks anyone who tries to be nice to her. They didnt want me and my mom used me to traumadump all her shit on me and parentify me since i was 6

 

[thefinalfavour]

They're been supportive. I've been lucky in that regard but it hasn't really helped me I've still ended up messing up my life and getting myself into the position I'm in now.

Same, I honestly wish my parents had been horrible towards me. One of the main reasons I have been so conflicted in this decision is it feels like I am betraying them, their trust and upbringing.

 

[sakakap]

Honestly they're both good people and it saddens me to read so many people here have shitty parents, no child deserves that :(
Both of them are quite closed off emotionally; I don't think I've ever even heard either of them apologise which has definitely caused some challenges, though I suppose nobody is perfect. The main reason I'm on here is because of the way my peers treated me. There's no way I would've survived this long if my parents weren't as understanding as they are.

 

[LastNite]

Backwards and shit

 

[Ligottian]

Dead. Both died hard deaths in their 80's.

 

[PI3.14]

Boost me while I was a kid? Lol

My parents were neglectful, and verbally and physically abusive. Not to mention that they would treat their kids differently too.

I don't give a fuck about them tbh. I used to try to see the good in them, up until this year actually, but I can't handle their bullshit anymore and no longer give a fuck about them.

 

[Upon a hanging Body]

Once I came out as trans they decided that I didn't exist

 

[shampoo sniffer]

My dad is a good caring guy. My mom is her own world and doesnt understand all the suffering but I have better parents than a lot of people

Sounds like mine.

I get along well with my dad even though we disagree sometimes. My mum has learning disabilities but I still love her.

 

[katara]

The two most mentally ill people on this planet. They can literally not be in the same room together without getting into a fistfight. I have never seen them express the slightest ounce of love towards one another. My mom is literally insane and mentally deficient (among other things she has psychosis and, while she doesnt suffer from dementia, she is functionally indistinguishable from somebody in the late stages of it), while my dad is a severely paranoid sociopath who Im surprised has not been jailed yet. Neither of them have jobs so we had to live in crushing poverty my entire life.

That sounds terrible, probably a lot of drugs involved there. Sometimes I've thought about joining Scientology just to get away from my mom but I don't know if I could ever actually go through with it.

 

[vanillamilkshakes]

They've done all they can honestly; they've never been horrible parents, but I don't think they knew all the effort it takes to be a parent. They've left me to be for much of my life; it's probably better that way.

 

[torturedmind]

I am very lucky because my parents are truly great people. I'm alive today because of them, and when I have thoughts of ctb I feel horrible because I do not want to hurt them. I think it would destroy them. Although me being depressed and barely functioning hurts them, as well. My mom has struggled with depression in the past and my dad has some anger issues. They divorced when I was 20. They disagreed a lot about how to handle me acting out. They took me to a psychiatrist when I was 6 years old. My mom tells me I would say things like "you don't love me" and "I want to jump in front of a car". Sometimes I wish they had not put me on medication for depression at such a young age, but I know they were only trying to help. I can't possibly imagine why I said things like that as a child, but maybe it was for attention. It's just hard for me to believe that depression can begin at such a young age and for seemingly no reason.

 

[uchuunekoko]

My parents are both extremely mentally ill. Until I was in high school, I never really noticed it. My dad has always been really passive when it came to raising me, and my mom wasn't detached, per se, but she wasn't really present enough for me to call her a parent. I think the lack of structure and presence helped me to establish my own sense of self a lot more easily, but it also made me more susceptible to getting in my own head a lot. I don't blame either of them for anything, but sometimes I wish I could've been shoved into a "mold" of a person rather than have this intense feeling of detachment from everyone and everything

 

[MourningFlower]

have they been kind to you? cruel? neglectful? did they support your life choices? while growing up, did they boost you? could you call them, parents?

me and my parents, are complicated, ever since i was a kid they never really showed affection or love, i was just there, yk? not much to say, many years spent just in silence, in each other presence, so growing up i was always, alone

My Mum is dead, has been for 3 years now (Lucky...)


My Dad means well, but really doesn't know what my mind is like, nor does he know that I want to CTB (and I'd like to keep it that way)

 

[The Blackangel]

My father (I call him sperm donor) has thankfully been dead for more than 25 years. He literally beat the shit out of me every day of my life until he finally died when I was 18. He beat me to the point that I started sleeping with a loaded rifle in my hands when I was 12. My mother (I call her egg donor) got her kicks by reminding daily how worthless and useless I am. I remember my 8th birthday she looked me dead in the eye and told me that she wished she had aborted me. I don't know if she actually still alive, and I don't care in the slightest. I cut all of my kin out of my life more than 10 years ago and my life has never been better. They're all as toxic as cyanide. The abuse didn't end in my house. I came from everyone. Aunts, uncles, cousins, peers. It's one of the combined reasons why I've always been meaner than a junkyard dog. I'm also the most misanthropic bitch you'll ever encounter. Hitler valued life more than I do. It's why I keep all human contact strictly online, unless I have literally no choice in the matter.

 

[FoxSauce]

My dad is a chill dude I can actually talk with him also has his flaws too. I know I cant tell em anything but i can be somewhat honest.

My mother on the other hand is difficult to say the least. Ik shes been through tough shit (financial and other things) but ever childhood we meant nothing. Idk about my sisters but we felt ignored?

Ik I wasnt a good little kid back than and tbh incant forgive myself for the misery I caused her but moslty Indont remember happy thing about my childhood.

Like how she would yell and hit us if we didnt do something as exaclty as she wanted. If we didnt do something right she remind us for a while. If we didnt agree or do what she wanted. We were the difficult ones.

Always reminding us she gaves us food and internet and a house to live in. Making fun of us. Insults, threats, threats to kicks us out or foster home. Saying we are lazy and dont do anything. Were not trying hard enough. Or sometimes she would come home unprovoked and start shit.

And if we tried to say no, we were ungreatful and awful human beings for denying something.

Ive tried so many things to try to get close to her but nothing has worked.

I dont wanna tell her this but shes has cause me years or misery and hurt, moslty likely all my mental illnesses stem from her actions. (ofc could be other things)

I dont respect her , that died long ago , I can respect that she sacrificed many things for us she gaves us food , shelter and other things. Ik being a parent isnt easy and I wont fully get it if i decide to have children later on but still I wanna leave and break away from this. My love for her is dying by every year yet comes back idk anymore.

For now I know I have to save some money and leave.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I had great parents. They were separated before I was born, and divorced shortly thereafter. My mom loved me as much as any human could love a child, and although my dad wasn't easily able to convey love in the traditional sense, he showed it in many other ways that left no doubt as to how he felt. They weren't perfect, made some mistakes, but who doesn't, right? There was one thing I wished (now) they would have helped me with more than they did, had pursued more options in obtaining a fix, but it was complicated and I don't hold any grudges. It is what it is. They're both deceased. I don't blame either of them for the place I'm at in life.

 

[Hiro Uchiha]

Love my mama, but if I get reincarnated, I would rather not have her as my mother. We've both caused each other pain and I hate watching her hurt. My father, I have no love or respect for. No matter what anyone say. He never apologized, blamed us even. Never forgiving him even at death. Don't want to get in to too much detail but that man should be in jail.

 

[arcticmonkey]

My mom is a pedophile and my dad... i honestly don't even know what his issue is....

 

[gottacheckout]

Both are dead, Dad almost 12 years Mom almost 7. They weren't good to me when I was growing up, they had their own problems and tbh I wasn't an easy kid. We had a decent relationship after I became an adult. Ironically, of all the kids, step and biological, I was the only one there for them at the end. I'm pleased that we got over it because I don't have any negative feelings towards them. When you get old the weight of things not dealt with gets unbearable.

 

[goodbyengo]

My parents are terrible people with no self-awareness

 

[sanction]

I have complicated relationship with them. I do hate them a lot though, especially my dad

 

[Merocero]

Ruining my life while also not giving a fuck about me when i need them to. I hate my mother.

 

[NutOrat]

Both great people, who gave me a lot of love and care and still do. They just don't know how to help, and hold some regressive views, but it's not their fault. They are people I can never hope to repay, instead I poison their lives by staying alive, and when (not if) I eventually can't go on and ctb, I will destroy them.