Here is my method. Will there be a search party?

[Kali Yuga]

It will be at least a month before anyone tries to contact me. I'm only in contact with two people these days who reach out over message every now and then for what I believe to be welfare check ins. They obvs know I'm not in a good place.

I planned on going far out in nature and burying myself in own grave. I really don't want to be found. I value privacy and even though I'll be gone, it embarasses me to think of the possibility of being a missing person and having search party, or news or have my life investigated.

I plan on leaving a delayed note to confirm suicide with wishes not to be found. Because if I am found, it will be even worse, because there could be attention on me now and I'd be decomposing. I imagine they could find my body if they really wanted to with dogs and what not.

Does anyone know if police will try locate a body even if a leave a note and close all my accounts and obviously have gone off to die.?

Will my family have to contact police after they get my note even though I request not to be found or looked for?

Will it be better to just get it over with and alert police so a death certificate can be issued for my family and funeral arranged so everyone can move on. I do not want this, a funeral. I do not even want my body to have to be identified. I just ideally want my death to be accepted without a body having to be investigated and identified.

The thought of having anyone view me makes me uncomfortable but I understand it may help with the grieving process. Arrrrgh I just want to disappear. I know the ocean is ideal but I'm not gonna drown or buy a boat. I just don't want to become the "talk of the town" and have my whole life judged by peering eyes. Even the police looking in to my life feels invasive.

 

[dreamingofsh]

I feel this depends on a lot of factors - country and local laws, if you believe your family will respect your wishes, there's the chance that the police might think you have been murdered and suicide is a cover story (even if this is extremely unlikely, it depends on your countries laws.) I am not trying to say this to scare you, but I wouldn't doubt it if they look for your body. I feel the best course of action is to leave the location of your body so the police can find it and not have to mark you as a missing person. The rest is up to your family honoring your wishes to not be bothered again. However this is just my view on things, don't let what I'm saying stop you from doing whatever you feel is right. The situation your in is really tricky, I hope you can figure it out.

 

[Kodokushi]

Unfortunately, yeah, I think so. If someone would make a request that you're missing - police must respond

 

[Kali Yuga]

Thanks. I live in Australia. I've been trying to research up on it but there's limited information.

I read one case in the UK where a search party of a girl who left a note before going out to sea to CTB. They still looked for her. The community even joined in. This I definitely do not want. Having friends following their nose to a rotting corpse is not how I want to be remembered.

Alternatively, I could just do it in my car with delayed email to police and nip it in the bud so to speak. Then I believe a next of kin will be notified and have to identify my body. Then the funeral process after coroner inspection. I don't want to have my body viewed by anyone. Not sure exactly why… but I just want to take care of my own burial my own way and fade out of existence drawing minimal attention.

I guess i treat my death like my life… run. Hide. Avoid. Isolate.

 

[september]

Last line is very relatable here.. I'm sorry things have ended up this way for you.

I think delayed email to police may be your best bet if you know your family/people who know you will definitely try putting out a search party. They will look for the body if its in their interest, even if you tell them not to. You could also additionally send delayed mails/messages to anyone who may notice before the police do, just wanna make sure it gets sent a little after.

Unfortunately it isn't too easy to just make your body disappear and everyone forget - some talk is bound to happen especially in less metropolitan areas; most you can really do is just try your best to not make it into a big scene where multiple people see a lifeless body. I hope you can get everything figured out

 

[WorthlessCoward]

Why have a search party when you can have a rave party

But seriously, of course they're gonna try to find it, do you know how contaminated the soil of a graveyard is? They can't just let bodies rotting in parks and wild places rotting the ground. Granted is mostly the formaldehyde and the coffins but the human body nowadays also as a crapload of pollutants. Shouldn't have eaten all those maccas

 

[dimstar]

Delayed email seems like a great idea. I was recently thinking of lining the back of my car with a tarp and taking sn there. Would it best to park close to a police station or a hospital? I would leave plenty of time to for sure be gone but who would be less traumatized and where would my body be taken? Hospital or police station? Not sure if morgues are separate or kept in one of those.

 

[H.O.Xan]

Australia? Best believe cops will b on ur dead ass even if u don't wanna b found

 

[Kali Yuga]

Last line is very relatable here.. I'm sorry things have ended up this way for you.

I think delayed email to police may be your best bet if you know your family/people who know you will definitely try putting out a search party. They will look for the body if its in their interest, even if you tell them not to. You could also additionally send delayed mails/messages to anyone who may notice before the police do, just wanna make sure it gets sent a little after.

Unfortunately it isn't too easy to just make your body disappear and everyone forget - some talk is bound to happen especially in less metropolitan areas; most you can really do is just try your best to not make it into a big scene where multiple people see a lifeless body. I hope you can get everything figured out

thanks for advice. For so long the plan was a delayed email to my sister. after a time i estimate she may start to worry and maybe try to contact police. This could be a while as I have been known to go off grid but will be hard to time before police contact. and im not sure if my sister will then have to contact police for legal reasons etc.

I dont speak to any other family. I've gone several years with no contact from parents. I have one friend left from all the friendships ive destroyed or abandoned (bipolar). if it wasnt for them 2 people, I could easily disappear.
Maybe im just clinging to an unrealistic fantasy that i could disappear with no consequences... no grief to others. no shame and embarassment to myself. no shock. It's gonna be obvious though when my sister gets all my lfe saving one random bank transfer later. i guess i hope it would soften the blow of any grief and shock caused.

Why have a search party when you can have a rave party

But seriously, of course they're gonna try to find it, do you know how contaminated the soil of a graveyard is? They can't just let bodies rotting in parks and wild places rotting the ground. Granted is mostly the formaldehyde and the coffins but the human body nowadays also as a crapload of pollutants. Shouldn't have eaten all those maccas

lol yeah maccas is pretty much SN level of poison.

We're animals though and designed to die, decompose etc. as long as there is no chemical or poison in body, it will run its course in the ecosystem no different than a dead animal.

Delayed email seems like a great idea. I was recently thinking of lining the back of my car with a tarp and taking sn there. Would it best to park close to a police station or a hospital? I would leave plenty of time to for sure be gone but who would be less traumatized and where would my body be taken? Hospital or police station? Not sure if morgues are separate or kept in one of those.

I've thought of this too... going out in my car in a police station or morgue. but theres still civilians that use their carparks. I've decided im going in the bush where no one can find me unless they're looking or i tell them. That way its only professionals in the death industry. Maybe I'll leave a note or tip for them or something for them out of respect... i dunno. I even thought about doing it in the passenger seat so the person can 4x4 out of the bush in my car as it will be very difficult to tow out. and maybe even wearing an adult nappy or something for post death business. pretty weird to think about. this of course is if i go with the option of telling police and being found. otherwise its all left to nature in the "tomb" ive dug

Australia? Best believe cops will b on ur dead ass even if u don't wanna b found

what makes you so sure? I've tried to research and could only find some stuff about them using cadaver dogs for murder case missing persons in NSW.