Venting help me :( - bbq get together

[mrwonderful]

I dont know these people very well, I have extreme social anxiety/agoraphobia and it has only been 1 hour, not all the guests have even arrived yet. I have been sitting here silently on my phone and I feel like a complete outcast. This is my sister's grad so I would feel like an absolute dick of I just left but in all honesty I just don't want to embarrass myself but I know its gonna happen tonight.

 

[oopswronglife]

Is there a dog? Dogs are always good outs in social situations and happy for the attention. Or if you want to be more subtle, fall down and fake a seizure so someone calls an ambulance and you get taken away. Then you get your escape AND sympathy. Win win.

 

[WinterIsComing]

Can you tell them that you have something to do? An emergency? Or that you forgot something to give you time to breath?

 

[not_a_robot]

All I know is you're making me so grateful that I'm old and unpleasant and nobody wants me around. I had to try to do all that normal shit up til age 25 and it was torture, hated every fucking minute of it. Just be glad you can hide behind your phone and not have to fake being pleasant.
Ugh the awkward party food. I would eat to try to seem engaged and present but its just a sloppy experience with strangers gawking at you. I can't even watch parties on tv without feeling viscerally grossed out at the thought of ever being surrounded by people again.

 

[mrwonderful]

All I know is you're making me so grateful that I'm old and unpleasant and nobody wants me around. I had to try to do all that normal shit up til age 25 and it was torture, hated every fucking minute of it. Just be glad you can hide behind your phone and not have to fake being pleasant.

Some days I wish I could just be grown and nobody would try to associate with me. It would be so peaceful and I could blame work and not having enough time to hang out.

Can you tell them that you have something to do? An emergency? Or that you forgot something to give you time to breath?

It all turned out ok, I had a glass of wine and I started to have casual chit chat instead of being scared to talk in my thoughts.

Is there a dog? Dogs are always good outs in social situations and happy for the attention. Or if you want to be more subtle, fall down and fake a seizure so someone calls an ambulance and you get taken away. Then you get your escape AND sympathy. Win win.

Thank you for the reply but I think that would be a bit too dramatic for me.. lol

 

[not_a_robot]

oh work is no escape.
Work is just more mandatory socialization.
And "friends"?
lol.
Have fun!
Get a helmet.

 

[Orin]

I can certainly relate to this. I never felt comfortable during parties/social events.

 

[azucaramargo]

All I know is you're making me so grateful that I'm old and unpleasant and nobody wants me around. I had to try to do all that normal shit up til age 25 and it was torture, hated every fucking minute of it. Just be glad you can hide behind your phone and not have to fake being pleasant.
Ugh the awkward party food. I would eat to try to seem engaged and present but its just a sloppy experience with strangers gawking at you. I can't even watch parties on tv without feeling viscerally grossed out at the thought of ever being surrounded by people again.

I wish you had a TV show, not_a_robot. I would be hooked.

It all turned out ok, I had a glass of wine and I started to have casual chit chat instead of being scared to talk in my thoughts

I'm so happy you touched it out, and that the event was a success (i.e., that you had a good time). Proud of you.

I wish you had a TV show, not_a_robot. I would be hooked.

I'm so happy you touched it out, and that the event was a success (i.e., that you had a good time). Proud of you.

*TOUGHED it out*

 

[not_a_robot]

I wish you had a TV show, not_a_robot. I would be hooked.

I'm so happy you touched it out, and that the event was a success (i.e., that you had a good time). Proud of you.

*TOUGHED it out*

your new profile pic is HAWT

 

[azucaramargo]

your new profile pic is HAWT

That profile picture isn't me, but thank you. It's the cover poster for the Spanish movie, "Lucía y el Sexo." That actress, Paz Vega, is very beautiful.

touched it out,

*TOUGHED it out*