Venting He blocked me

[imjustherehi]

My bf we were long distance he blocked me and I can't get over him ); I felt a connection, I don't really to anywhere social so we used to call and text everyday , I miss him so much and bc I couldn't go to him and I got drunk a couple of days ago he blocked me ): I feel so hurt and whenever I try speak to someone else it's just not the same I can't seem to move on. everyday is just loneliness for me. I am hoping to ctb and have plans to in a few days soon and Ik it was just online but he doesn't even care. I am scared if I don't ctb I'll be alone forever and always hurting. Not finding a purpose in life, I am tired of losing people too I am just alone everyday and I have no friends either. I'm trying to stay positive but it's hard. He was the only person I had and now I literally have no one. I just want a good life I'm meant to start work and college this January but I don't think it'll get better I'm scared I won't get over him, and it'll get worse I miss being important to someone. I never had family that ever cared much either, I'm going to be gone and I don't have a way to say goodbye I don't think would care anyway. I just don't know if there's hope

 

[Muse]

I know exactly where you are. I can relate.

 

[Someone123]

It's still worth it to let other people help you.

 

[imjustherehi]

It's still worth it to let other people help you.

I don't know what to do I can't stop missing him. No one else called me or texted me like he did I miss being important to someone. I wish things were different and I could of seen him. It hurts how quick he moved on. And I'm feeling too anxious about the future and too alone

I know exactly where you are. I can relate.

What happened?

It's still worth it to let other people help you.

Idk I thought he would of helped me but he abandoned me

 

[Muse]

All my BF dumped me. They moved on very easily when I was heartbroken. Months of suffering.

The man I am with (or not really because he has a wife) decided to ignore my messages today. The reason is I said to him that I wasn't feeling well about our relation and wanted to talk about it. He just said I am surprised you didn't dump me earlier, I won't leave my wife, be comprehensive about that or never talk to me. He's online but doesn't answer me and doesn't even read my messages.

It feels like hell. I love that man so much. But I think he doesn't love me.

 

[Someone123]

I do think deleting your account is probably not going to help- other people, at least a couple, have been sending csring messages- even if it's not the same connection it can help= I hope you'll come back, but best of luck either way. :)

 

[FuneralCry]

I can imagine it must be painful to be in this situation. I know loneliness can be dreadful for many people. Some people can be so disappointing. I'm sorry you are going through this. Whatever happens, I wish you the best.

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

I had a very similar experience happen to me in recent months. I know how much it hurts. :( I'm sorry it happened to you. (and my situation was all text/phone calls/email as well, though I did know this person IRL from years ago. We got back in touch after 30 yrs last June, things progressed and then in October I noticed a change and now it's pretty much rare interaction we have, if any. Currently I've not heard from him at all in days, but the emotional closeness I felt we shared those first few months disappeared around Oct so it hurts to interact with him now. Oh and he'd claimed when we first reconnected his marriage was "dead" and he'd talk like he was getting back into the dating world, etc etc...come to find out he's still VERY married and is apparently not anywhere near 'dead' like he'd claimed since his wife posts many pictures of them on recent weekend getaway trips, or posts about something he did for her, that kind of thing. So I feel stupid for being gullible. And also because I'd developed feelings for him only to find out it's another joke on me...)

Anyway, I'm sorry for your pain. Relationships and romance seem to only be a way to introduce more pain and suffering and misery into one's life.

 

[Blue_mist]

He blocked you because you couldn't go to him? He is not your boyfriend he was using you. Being lonely and having your autonomy and dignity is more important to your well-being than being desperate for a partner ( some people choose to be in abusive relationships out of fear of loneliness which i find it absurd) . You will find your soulmate one day, in the mean time, be careful there many bad people out there.

 

[Crazy4u]

what happened to the OP? name is crossed

 

[Snake of Eden]

You will find your soulmate one day, in the mean time, be careful there many bad people out there.

i disagree with statememts like this as it can be dangerous giving false hopes. There are no guarantees in life other than suffering and death.

 

[Chinaski]

i disagree with statememts like this as it can be dangerous giving false hopes. There are no guarantees in life other than suffering and death.

Tbf l don't think suffering is a guarantee, many people get by just fine with a degree of suffering so scant it's outweighed by their otherwise positive experience of being alive. I do agree though that upbeat clichés should be swerved, there is no inevitability about finding one's "soulmate" for any of us.

 

[Blue_mist]

i disagree with statememts like this as it can be dangerous giving false hopes. There are no guarantees in life other than suffering and death.

Ok as you like, they will never find their soulmate

 

[Justsogone]

Banned?

 

[Snake of Eden]

OP was breaking the rules so they were banned as a result

 

[Justsogone]

OP was breaking the rules so they were banned as a result

What kind of rules did he break?

 

[Snake of Eden]

What kind of rules did he break?

We cant divulge specific details about members. Members are only get banned after breaking the same rules after multiple warnings.

 

[Sherri]

We'll call me a romantic but 5 years ago I thought I had lost the love of my life and it was game over for me. 2 years ago a new guy showed up online , not on this site , we met, and we are dating for 2 years now. So second chances do exist. I'm living proof of it. I did everything to push him away and he is still here lying next to me while I right this. And has no mental problems like me. Just took me the way I am. I'm a romantic at heart, and I would like to believe we all have someone out there to loves us even with our faults. When it comes to online dating though make sure the few dates are in public places. He knows I'm a frequent user on a self help page here but don't even ask it's name or gets near it to peak a boo.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Tbf l don't think suffering is a guarantee, many people get by just fine with a degree of suffering so scant it's outweighed by their otherwise positive experience of being alive. I do agree though that upbeat clichés should be swerved, there is no inevitability about finding one's "soulmate" for any of us.

Even if we somehow end up finding them and them finding is, it doesnt mean that somehow all the conditions will be adequate to pursue happily ever after with them. People are especially extremely delusional to when it comes to romance, love and marriage. There is so much superstition and false myths being propagated around about that subject specifically this day.

 

[StarryStarry]

All my BF dumped me. They moved on very easily when I was heartbroken. Months of suffering.

The man I am with (or not really because he has a wife) decided to ignore my messages today. The reason is I said to him that I wasn't feeling well about our relation and wanted to talk about it. He just said I am surprised you didn't dump me earlier, I won't leave my wife, be comprehensive about that or never talk to me. He's online but doesn't answer me and doesn't even read my messages.

It feels like hell. I love that man so much. But I think he doesn't love me.

Been there done that - this is a no win situation for you - a great win for the guy. You deserve someone who will be with YOU - not have to leave to go home to his wife and kids. Obviously he has some real issues - one of them being playing with your feelings. New Year - clean out the old (yes it will hurt and be uncomfortable short term) and do something great for you (vacation?) You are worth so much more than being someone's play toy. I say this with love and respect. I've been there and learned the hard way.

 

[Someone123]

OP was breaking the rules so they were banned as a result

This is sad to see- I wish we could have worked things out with this person since there were some signs she had a chance to turn things around and she is so young. I do wish a solution could have been worked out since this is a place of last resort for some people.