Having a micropenis is a major defect and hinderance to my life as a man, people lie and say to me il find a woman who will accept me .i GIVE UP NOW.

[Final-push123]

Damn I feel you, being unable to fulfill a burning desire especially one such is this is a special kind of hell.

It's even worse when everyone you talk doen play your pain or desire.

I wish I could tell you something to make it better but unfortunately I cannot.

If it any small comfort, more men the ever are not getting laid at all. So you are not alone in this feeling

It's chad or bust out here

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

Damn I feel you, being unable to fulfill a burning desire especially one such is this is a special kind of hell.

It's even worse when everyone you talk doen play your pain or desire.

I wish I could tell you something to make it better but unfortunately I cannot.

If it any small comfort, more men the ever are not getting laid at all. So you are not alone in this feeling

It's chad or bust out here

yeah i guess u right mate.

 

[Iva]

and fuck off with your advice " its just a penis , its just sex, relationships are over rated"

I understand you completely. They botched my circumcision as an infant so I can empathize with how much this hurts you. I think about my circumcision every day without fail and it never gets any better and I never feel any less shitty about it. Even after being with women I still feel inferior to the other intact men she's been with and I know I can never do for her what they can do for her because my private parts have less than theirs. I live in a country now where circumcision on boys under 10 years old is illegal, so I am even more of an outlier here in the balkans. Fuck being born in the US. A parent is a PARENT, not god. They shouldn't have the authority to mutilate me fifteen minutes after I've touched down on the mortal realm for the first time. To my parents, my circumcision is a "Oops, sorry. We didn't know you wouldn't want it." while they move on with their lives and I am stuck obsessing over my thoughts of emasculation. Enough about me though, sorry, I feel bad about writing a whole paragraph about myself and hijacking your post.

It's important for a man to be proud of his genitals because it's very much tied to his masculinity. I wish I knew the words to say to help you. Maybe just me saying I understand is enough-- I don't think you're in the wrong to feel this way. Don't ever let someone try to minimize your struggle or tell you to "get over it." Women who will judge you for your genitals are superficial and not worth your time. How they feel about YOUR body should be irrelevant. What really matters is how it makes YOU feel. If you feel sad or insecure about it, don't let anyone try to tell you that you aren't entitled to those feelings.

I wish I could help you more. I hope you find the peace you're looking for.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

I understand you completely. They botched my circumcision as an infant so I can empathize with how much this hurts you. I think about my circumcision every day without fail and it never gets any better and I never feel any less shitty about it. Even after being with women I still feel inferior to the other intact men she's been with and I know I can never do for her what they can do for her because my private parts have less than theirs. I live in a country now where circumcision on boys under 10 years old is illegal, so I am even more of an outlier here in the balkans. Fuck being born in the US. A parent is a PARENT, not god. They shouldn't have the authority to mutilate me fifteen minutes after I've touched down on the mortal realm for the first time. To my parents, my circumcision is a "Oops, sorry. We didn't know you wouldn't want it." while they move on with their lives and I am stuck obsessing over my thoughts of emasculation. Enough about me though, sorry, I feel bad about writing a whole paragraph about myself and hijacking your post.

It's important for a man to be proud of his genitals because it's very much tied to his masculinity. I wish I knew the words to say to help you. Maybe just me saying I understand is enough-- I don't think you're in the wrong to feel this way. Don't ever let someone try to minimize your struggle or tell you to "get over it." Women who will judge you for your genitals are superficial and not worth your time. How they feel about YOUR body should be irrelevant. What really matters is how it makes YOU feel. If you feel sad or insecure about it, don't let anyone try to tell you that you aren't entitled to those feelings.

I wish I could help you more. I hope you find the peace you're looking for.

thank you so much and im sorry about your struggles as well. Bless you my friend.

 

[Iva]

Oh, come on. At least that you have a dick, trans men do not even get to have one most of the time.

This is basically like saying "Don't be sad, someone else on the planet has a sadder life than you!" and it isn't nice.
You're totally minimizing his struggle. That "Oh, come on" is so unnecessary and it comes off as immature and unsympathetic.
Why would he care about a penis-less trans man? He's talking about his own genitals and he's enduring his own struggle. The plights of trans men are plights, without a doubt, but they have nothing to do with what HermitLonerGuy is going through and I'm sure you being all like "how can you feel bad when other people have it worse than you" is probably not helping him whatsoever.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

This is basically like saying "Don't be sad, someone else on the planet has a sadder life than you!" and it isn't nice.
You're totally minimizing his struggle. That "Oh, come on" is so unnecessary and it comes off as immature and unsympathetic.
Why would he care about a penis-less trans man? He's talking about his own genitals and he's enduring his own struggle. The plights of trans men are plights, without a doubt, but they have nothing to do with what HermitLonerGuy is going through and I'm sure you being all like "how can you feel bad when other people have it worse than you" is probably not helping him whatsoever.

yeah exactly that type of advice " but you shouldnt be sad! theres starving people in the world! it could always be worse!"... smh

 

[Document6105]

Here's my perspective on things.
I'd prefer having a micropenis, especially as I was younger.
That hormone thing male teens get, which causes you to have random boners?
It's really, really horrible if you're well above average size.
You can't hide your erection anywhere.
When you get one, it's at an inopportune time where you can't for example, sit down behind a desk and hope no one sees it.
Not to mention the sexual harassment from women you have zero interest in interacting with.

As I've grown older, I've lost all sex drive, largely due to severe depression.
I never desired to have a partner, and from what I've read online, you'd get similar feedback based on your dick size, so I lucked out.
"Sorry, that's not going inside me."
"I'm not having sex with that."
"Seven inches is the maximum a woman can take."

Now, if length isn't the issue, and you just have a "stick", bad partners will find ways to complain about that too.
Too girthy? Outright refusal, and when you're above average, you're likely too girthy.

So I suppose what I'm saying here is.
Men get discriminated on a lot of things.
Penis size is the last of these issues.

All you can do is learn to accept yourself.
You are who you are, and if your sex partner doesn't like it, they can fuck right off.

Sex isn't the end-all-be-all a lot of people make it out to be.
And good sex does not in fact even have to have penetration.
You don't need a penis to have good sex.
There's plenty of other ways to experience pleasure than just in-and-out action, which is all porn will show you.

 

[Octavia]

This is basically like saying "Don't be sad, someone else on the planet has a sadder life than you!" and it isn't nice.
You're totally minimizing his struggle. That "Oh, come on" is so unnecessary and it comes off as immature and unsympathetic.
Why would he care about a penis-less trans man? He's talking about his own genitals and he's enduring his own struggle. The plights of trans men are plights, without a doubt, but they have nothing to do with what HermitLonerGuy is going through and I'm sure you being all like "how can you feel bad when other people have it worse than you" is probably not helping him whatsoever.

My point was that OP might be attaching too much of his masculinity and worth to the size of his thing. A lot of trans men are highly masculine without even having a thing, so OP having a compact one does not prevent him from being masculine.

I feel like many men are more obsessed with size than their potential partners. Yes, some women care very much about sizing, but they tend to be quite superficial. I do not believe that most women care as much about size as you think they do.

 

[Fwompje]

My point was that OP might be attaching too much of his masculinity and worth to the size of his thing. A lot of trans men are highly masculine without even having a thing, so OP having a compact one does not prevent him from being masculine.

I feel like many men are more obsessed with size than their potential partners. Yes, some women care very much about sizing, but they tend to be quite superficial. I do not believe that most women care as much about size as you think they do.

It's not about whether or not it is objectively logical, it's about his feelings and validating those. Playing it down is everything but helpful and doesn't change a thing in someone else's experience.

These are things you can say to yourself to feel better, when said to others it just hurts. Just letting you know.

 

[HermitLonerGuy]

It's not about whether or not it is objectively logical, it's about his feelings and validating those. Playing it down is everything but helpful and doesn't change a thing in someone else's experience.

These are things you can say to yourself to feel better, when said to others it just hurts. Just letting you know.

my sweet lil bro .

 

[Octavia]

It's not about whether or not it is objectively logical, it's about his feelings and validating those. Playing it down is everything but helpful and doesn't change a thing in someone else's experience.

These are things you can say to yourself to feel better, when said to others it just hurts. Just letting you know.

Very well. I can understand how someone may have body dysmorphia with how men appear to have an obsession with phalluses, but ending oneself just because of having a smaller thing seems like an overreaction.

Now, this is not the recovery section so I would not be writing too much, but I think that it would be unwise to retire early in this case. And judging by the tone in the original post, it kind of looks like a rash decision and not a well thought-out one. Of course, what they do with their life is their own decision to make, but I personally find death to be an unadvisable solution here.

 

[Fwompje]

Very well. I can understand how someone may have body dysmorphia with how men appear to have an obsession with phalluses, but ending oneself just because of having a smaller thing seems like an overreaction.

Now, this is not the recovery section so I would not be writing too much, but I think that it would be unwise to retire early in this case. And judging by the tone in the original post, it kind of looks like a rash decision and not a well thought-out one. Of course, what they do with their life is their own decision to make, but I personally find death to be an unadvisable solution here.

That's assuming that it's the only reason

 

[Octavia]

That's assuming that it's the only reason

OP seems to be mainly concerned with his sizing issue and the post did not hint a anything else, but I suppose that it is possible that something else is going on.

 

[BornToFail]

Here's my perspective on things.
I'd prefer having a micropenis, especially as I was younger.
That hormone thing male teens get, which causes you to have random boners?
It's really, really horrible if you're well above average size.
You can't hide your erection anywhere.
When you get one, it's at an inopportune time where you can't for example, sit down behind a desk and hope no one sees it.
Not to mention the sexual harassment from women you have zero interest in interacting with.

As I've grown older, I've lost all sex drive, largely due to severe depression.
I never desired to have a partner, and from what I've read online, you'd get similar feedback based on your dick size, so I lucked out.
"Sorry, that's not going inside me."
"I'm not having sex with that."
"Seven inches is the maximum a woman can take."

Now, if length isn't the issue, and you just have a "stick", bad partners will find ways to complain about that too.
Too girthy? Outright refusal, and when you're above average, you're likely too girthy.

So I suppose what I'm saying here is.
Men get discriminated on a lot of things.
Penis size is the last of these issues.

All you can do is learn to accept yourself.
You are who you are, and if your sex partner doesn't like it, they can fuck right off.

Sex isn't the end-all-be-all a lot of people make it out to be.
And good sex does not in fact even have to have penetration.
You don't need a penis to have good sex.
There's plenty of other ways to experience pleasure than just in-and-out action, which is all porn will show you.

I never got this. I mean, most straight men are going to want to have sex at one point in their life. Even if it isn't a lot. No one wants to talk about it because it is embarrassing but let's not pretend like sex isn't a huge part of life for some men, hell even most.

Have you ever seen catfish or gone a dating site? Seen those men who lust after women that are clearly fake or "out of their league". That isn't because they are dumb, that is because they want sex and have never had much of it. Some of the people on that show are intelligent, and well established.

I'm saying all of this to help you realize how big of a role sex will play in a man's life. It isn't really something small that people make it out to be.

If someone wanted a best friend, would you tell them "just work on yourself" or "friendships aren't the end-all-bell"

I hope this post makes sense.

 

[terminalending]

I'm not sure if this is what you want to hear or if this is gonna sound as empathetic as you want me to be, but I hope you do consider my words. Maybe you should stop centering yourself and the purpose of life around sex. And also consider that maybe sex is not something worth killing yourself over. I don't want to be inconsiderate and invalidating, and I don't know your life and your feelings, and maybe you want to ctb for other reasons. But sex, it is not something anyone is owed. I know this will sound shallow, but sex toys may be of use. And one day, maybe you'll meet a woman who will do. It isn't inhumane to live without sex. What makes you idealise sex so much? Do you believe life is not worthy due to lack of sex? I genuinely wonder why you seem to put sex on a pedestal. Is temporary pleasure all that of worth in your eyes? Maybe your life lacks other stimulation. From my point of view, maybe your real problem is your idealisation of sex. Maybe, if you give the idea of sex and dating a break, you'll find life more enjoyable. It is of course easier said than done, though.

 

[Document6105]

I never got this. I mean, most straight men are going to want to have sex at one point in their life. Even if it isn't a lot. No one wants to talk about it because it is embarrassing but let's not pretend like sex isn't a huge part of life for some men, hell even most.

Have you ever seen catfish or gone a dating site? Seen those men who lust after women that are clearly fake or "out of their league". That isn't because they are dumb, that is because they want sex and have never had much of it. Some of the people on that show are intelligent, and well established.

I'm saying all of this to help you realize how big of a role sex will play in a man's life. It isn't really something small that people make it out to be.

If someone wanted a best friend, would you tell them "just work on yourself" or "friendships aren't the end-all-bell"

I hope this post makes sense.

I don't believe I said having a sex drive is bad. For most people it's healthy.
What I was going more for was this: While sex can be important in your life, don't strive to make it the only important thing.
When dating, or seeking partners in general, you should first and foremost make sure that the partnership is healthy.
Nobody likes rushing exclusively towards sex, and doing so will likely only get yourself labeled an asshole.

For a teen mind, this is hard/impossible to comprehend, but so are everything else.
As you grow older, and your brain matures (~25 years old), you'll hopefully start focusing on what matters.

Ask yourself this: Do you think most women like receiving dick pics during the first 10 messages?
The same applies to men as well, albeit men tend to get ridiculed for saying so.
While the percentage of men who don't want pictures of the opposite sex' genitals is likely lower, that percentage is still very real.
The problem in many things is the double-standard, and societal role men have been put in the last ~100 years.

 

[Jezzibell]

I haven't had sex in decades. I'm sure I was a nymphomaniac at some point. But I'm lucky that I have zero sex drive. I'm unwell and malnourished. You can get an operation. Oh. I just remembered, I had a boyfriend who was really small. His previous girlfriend had made him use a penis enhancer before sex. It made him feel inadequate and emasculated. She did a lot of damage. I can only imagine your frustration. I'm sorry that you have to live worrying about disappointing others. Fuck others although that doesn't help you. Xxxx

 

[Aisley]

I'm married to a man who hates sex. If I could do it over again, I would change a few moves, looking back, but it's too late now. It's been about six years since we last had sex. By the time I'll be out of this, I'll be in my fifties, and it'll be too late to do anything about it. I really try to not think about this shit most of the time, but your post broke my heart. Thinking that I'll never have sex again makes me want to die. Makes me wonder what I'm waiting for, outside of the responsibilities I've created for myself. When those are up, I'm done. Firing up the bbq and done. A life without sex isn't for me. And people here (here, of all places) rag on the importance others put on sex, but man, it's everything. It's life. For me, anyway. I feel you, at least in some way.

I want to add, that I would trade my husband's dick as it currently is, for a micro dick if it came with a sex drive. For what it's worth. Cuz that fuckin thing's useless to me where it is right now, you know?!?!

 

[lachrymost]

[..] If someone wanted a best friend, would you tell them "just work on yourself" or "friendships aren't the end-all-bell" [...]

This! Also, I assume it was a typo but "end-all-bell" sounds really cool and sinister.

Sex is one of the most important things in life for most people, isn't it? Whether in a superficial way or not. It can be about love and intimacy. Sexuality is central to identify for many. I really dislike when people trivialize the importance of it. It's unavoidable, too. Almost every song is about it. How the fuck are we just supposed to ignore it?

It's not that people who are naturally asexual are deprived necessarily. There are downsides to sexuality too. But if you're longing for sexual intimacy and you can't have it, or you have hangups that prevent you from enjoying it, I'm immensely sympathetic. I really feel for incels (who don't subscribe to the terrible associated ideology).

I also feel for men with small dicks, because it's the subject of ubiquitous mockery. Usually when someone is opposed to bodyshaming in general but has some exception, it's for mocking penis size. I call it out every time.

I know there is certainly someone out there who wouldn't mind, or even some fetishist that would be into that, if that would work. (Someone attracted to trans men might work too.) I'm a bi woman and I would date someone with a micropenis no problem. But then I'm not crazy about penetration anyway.

But finding this person could be impossible and an exercise in humiliation, I know. And it sounds like you may not have inner peace about it either way. Man, it utterly disgusts me, this kind of iniquity in life.

 

[compassionexitneed]

But in my experience ive had to face constant constant rejections over and over.

mocking and ridicule.
This is INHUMANE to force a man to live like this.
Please fuck off with you bullshit advice use your hands and mouth bleh im not a lesbian a man fucks! a DICK is DESIRABLE.

Fuck off with your shit, im sick of all the copes.

I am even disgusted by it myself, so i dont blame the woman for bowing out.

Its not a life worth living trust me i experience this everyday. its why im 35 and single.
No woman can be happy with this long term, imagine a legit pinky size and girth penis for a husband.

i am gonna avoid dating from now until i die, i dont wana get hurt anymore 200+ times all the time .

i DONT WANA BE A DISSPOINTMENT.

the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results .

and fuck off with your advice " its just a penis , its just sex, relationships are over rated"

A healthy mind requires you to be happy with your body and sex life.

no man should endure this for life.

IM SICK IM SICK IM SICK IM GIVING UP AND IM DONE, PLEASE NO BULLSHIT COPING ADVICE ANYMORE YOU CAN EXPRESSE SYMPATHY.
IM ORDERING MY SN NEXT WEEK THANK YO

 

[compassionexitneed]

If you are still here , I am with you in such deep pain im in the same place . But as a woman just know that for a large percentage of us the penis isn't that pleasurable anyway and it's not really that great to look at either , it is the hands and mouth that are the best and most satisfying , so if you have other things to offer in terms of looks and personality I would think u can still find someone , maybe just find someone with another insecurity to make u feel a little better

 

[ggetout33]

If I may ask yall, how small is too small? I'm afraid of sending pics but I've been worried if I'm too small and I wanna put it all to rest, one way or another.

 

[Aisley]

If I may ask yall, how small is too small? I'm afraid of sending pics but I've been worried if I'm too small and I wanna put it all to rest, one way or another.

The answers (and there would be many) to that question can only ever be subjective. But I used to regularly screw this guy with a two inch dick. He would have to lift his huge belly to show it off, but he did, bless him. He really owned it. And I came frequently with him, cuz he had to really get in there and grind, you know? God, sorry to everyone who's offended by such details, but dicks are the topic here. Anyway, he did all right with what he had. Looking back now, what I appreciate most was the absolute hedonism he embraced, but it doesn't do him any good, does it? Btw, I didn't drop him because of his dick, I just abhorred the idea of relationships, and he very much didn't.

 

[Vizzy]

If I may ask yall, how small is too small? I'm afraid of sending pics but I've been worried if I'm too small and I wanna put it all to rest, one way or another.

When your penis is flaccid, size doesn't matter.

Penis Size only matters after erection, average length of an erect penis is between 5.1 inches and 5.5 inches so anything less than this size will be considered below average.

In adults, a penis that measures 3.67 inches or less when gently stretched is a micropenis.

 

[LittleJem]

I found one specialist dating site - don't know if you've seen it, hope you don't mind me posting it… It does look legit:

Small penis dating site : Dinky One

Small penis and micro penis online dating site. For men with a small penis and people who prefer it that way.

dinkyone.com

 

[ggetout33]

I found one specialist dating site - don't know if you've seen it, hope you don't mind me posting it… It does look legit:

Small penis dating site : Dinky One

Small penis and micro penis online dating site. For men with a small penis and people who prefer it that way.

dinkyone.com

I'm sorry but when I saw that site I almost bursted out laughing. If I turn out to have a micro I'll just CTB, no way I'm getting caught dead on that site.

When your penis is flaccid, size doesn't matter.

Penis Size only matters after erection, average length of an erect penis is between 5.1 inches and 5.5 inches so anything less than this size will be considered below average.

In adults, a penis that measures 3.67 inches or less when gently stretched is a micropenis.

Does weight matter? I have gained a bit of weight and that could've screwed with my length.

 

[Quinnalyn]

But in my experience ive had to face constant constant rejections over and over.

mocking and ridicule.
This is INHUMANE to force a man to live like this.
Please fuck off with you bullshit advice use your hands and mouth bleh im not a lesbian a man fucks! a DICK is DESIRABLE.

Fuck off with your shit, im sick of all the copes.

I am even disgusted by it myself, so i dont blame the woman for bowing out.

Its not a life worth living trust me i experience this everyday. its why im 35 and single.
No woman can be happy with this long term, imagine a legit pinky size and girth penis for a husband.

i am gonna avoid dating from now until i die, i dont wana get hurt anymore 200+ times all the time .

i DONT WANA BE A DISSPOINTMENT.

the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results .

and fuck off with your advice " its just a penis , its just sex, relationships are over rated"

A healthy mind requires you to be happy with your body and sex life.

no man should endure this for life.

IM SICK IM SICK IM SICK IM GIVING UP AND IM DONE, PLEASE NO BULLSHIT COPING ADVICE ANYMORE YOU CAN EXPRESSE SYMPATHY.
IM ORDERING MY SN NEXT WEEK THANK YOU.

I'm so sorry life sucks as a female my sex life is very important to me so I can't imagine

 

[BornToFail]

This! Also, I assume it was a typo but "end-all-bell" sounds really cool and sinister.

Sex is one of the most important things in life for most people, isn't it? Whether in a superficial way or not. It can be about love and intimacy. Sexuality is central to identify for many. I really dislike when people trivialize the importance of it. It's unavoidable, too. Almost every song is about it. How the fuck are we just supposed to ignore it?

It's not that people who are naturally asexual are deprived necessarily. There are downsides to sexuality too. But if you're longing for sexual intimacy and you can't have it, or you have hangups that prevent you from enjoying it, I'm immensely sympathetic. I really feel for incels (who don't subscribe to the terrible associated ideology).

I also feel for men with small dicks, because it's the subject of ubiquitous mockery. Usually when someone is opposed to bodyshaming in general but has some exception, it's for mocking penis size. I call it out every time.

I know there is certainly someone out there who wouldn't mind, or even some fetishist that would be into that, if that would work. (Someone attracted to trans men might work too.) I'm a bi woman and I would date someone with a micropenis no problem. But then I'm not crazy about penetration anyway.

But finding this person could be impossible and an exercise in humiliation, I know. And it sounds like you may not have inner peace about it either way. Man, it utterly disgusts me, this kind of iniquity in life.

Thank you very much, lol. It does sound cool, I was sleepy when I wrote that, lol. I can't edit it now, embarrassing. I'm not saying this to be hurtful to anyone, because I believe most people can find someone, but it could be very hard, you'll have to search and search, put yourself out there, try new things, and honestly lower your standards. I hate saying that but it is true for a lot of people. It can be heart breaking to do this, and you'll have to decide if it is worth the pay-off.

 

[Aya&Dazy]

How is your research on operation? Maybe it's not a bad idea.