ericwilkinson
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- Jun 25, 2019
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I'm pro-legalization but I realize that drugs can devastate someone financially/emotionally/mentally and even those around them if not used carefully.
Do you have any stories?
Do you have any stories?
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Not having a strong responsible male figure as head of the home really puts kids at risk for all kinds of bad shit. Also because the man's income matters big time usually, can leave the family impoverished. We were on welfare growing up but it just wasn't enough. I recall being hungry a lot, just neglected in general. I know not all single moms are terrible and situations can vary but my mother just wasn't able to meet our needs very well by herself. Plus she happened to be mentally ill. I consider malignant narcissism a mental illness because they are unaware how they destroy those around them. It's the victims of narcissists that end up seeking psych help not the abuser.No. Everyone I've seen who had a life that was destroyed by illegal drugs, were dealt a shitty hand of cards to play with since they day they were born. Their father abandoned them at a young age etc... They never really had a bright future, to look forward to...
Not having a strong responsible male figure as head of the home really puts kids at risk for all kinds of bad shit. Also because the man's income matters big time usually, can leave the family impoverished. We were on welfare growing up but it just wasn't enough. I recall being hungry a lot, just neglected in general. I know not all single moms are terrible and situations can vary but my mother just wasn't able to meet our needs very well by herself. Plus she happened to be mentally ill. I consider malignant narcissism a mental illness because they are unaware how they destroy those around them. It's the victims of narcissists that end up seeking psych help not the abuser.
Not having a strong responsible male figure as head of the home really puts kids at risk for all kinds of bad shit. Also because the man's income matters big time usually, can leave the family impoverished. We were on welfare growing up but it just wasn't enough. I recall being hungry a lot, just neglected in general. I know not all single moms are terrible and situations can vary but my mother just wasn't able to meet our needs very well by herself. Plus she happened to be mentally ill. I consider malignant narcissism a mental illness because they are unaware how they destroy those around them. It's the victims of narcissists that end up seeking psych help not the abuser.
Because some people think that certain things can only be done by men (income, discipline, etc) or are done better by men than by women.Why exactly is a father figure important?
Because some people think that certain things can only be done by men (income, discipline, etc) or are done better by men than by women.
There's a difference between importance of two parents vs importance of a male specifically, so I took that question as "why does it matter if the single parent is male or female". I've also met plenty of women who are more physically and emotionally intimidating than the average male.Nah, two people making money = more money = better life = more opportunities in the future. And a big intimidating father is better suited for disciplining a 16 year old or 17 year old male teen unless the mother takes a lot of steroids. Team work gets more shit down than going solo.
There's a difference between importance of two parents vs importance of a male specifically, so I took that question as "why does it matter if the single parent is male or female". I've also met plenty of women who are more physically and emotionally intimidating than the average male.
Parenting/discipline by intimidation isn't really that great anyway because that just teaches the kids to lie and hide things, and to depend on others for determining how to act, rather than developing their own sense of morals, critical thinking, and capacity for emotional regulation. That's beside the point though, I was just responding to the specific wording of "father figure" vs focusing on the need for a two-parent household regardless of gender.
I miss you already.Not having a strong responsible male figure as head of the home really puts kids at risk for all kinds of bad shit. Also because the man's income matters big time usually, can leave the family impoverished. We were on welfare growing up but it just wasn't enough. I recall being hungry a lot, just neglected in general. I know not all single moms are terrible and situations can vary but my mother just wasn't able to meet our needs very well by herself. Plus she happened to be mentally ill. I consider malignant narcissism a mental illness because they are unaware how they destroy those around them. It's the victims of narcissists that end up seeking psych help not the abuser.
It's called "California sober" lolOh, man. My life was over long before the drugs, and now, after them, it is still over. Now I just smoke weed. Which is technically a prescription.
Drugs don't ruin people's lives. Addiction to illegal drugs can and often does. But, "addiction" (disordered use/abuse) generally doesn't happen except when someone is already not doing well in life (socially, professionally, psychologically).
There are casual cocaine users, for example. The drug all on its own doesn't cause the problem. It is the person seeking to fill a void through the high that is at the core of addiction.
Legalization will increase use, but if the drugs are removed from their black-market context, much of the life-destroying consequences would diminish.
Add to this, imagine if rather than the hundreds of billions spent annually on jailing drug criminals, that money was used to prevent and treat abuse.
Eventually, we will get there. Other countries (e.g. Portugal) has already seen the light.
Well I have two stories one is about my cousin who is 26 now but got hooked on drugs 5 years back. It messed her college degree up and messed her life up. She almost died by a drug debt but somehow survived I was never told directly by anybody in my family they all kept it away from me. I overheard bits and put the pieces together. She wasn't ''successful'' like in terms of being famous but she could of had a better future.
Another story is of a famous person called mac miller. He died on sept 7 2018. By accidental drug overdose. He has been open in the past about the drugs and says how it had taken over his life in many interviews. I did get emotional when I found out he died as I was a big fan of him but I guess that's what happens when you're under that much pressure.
As I was kept out of it I did not know all the details but I did hear she had pills which could be anything but im not too sure.Would you mind elaborating what drugs she took
I am sorry about your cousin's muted prospects, and in a way, I find it touching that your family tried to shield you from her struggles. I'm very glad your cousin survived. RE: Mac Miller, even though I am old enough to have been his mother, I am just getting into his music in the wake of his death. Pretty talented. On the 1-year anniversary of his death, his family/fans planned a memorial at that park in Pittsburgh where he filmed many of his videos. I halfway thought about going, but a) I thought my age would embarrass me and b) I went to go visit an SS'er instead.Well I have two stories one is about my cousin who is 26 now but got hooked on drugs 5 years back. It messed her college degree up and messed her life up. She almost died by a drug debt but somehow survived I was never told directly by anybody in my family they all kept it away from me. I overheard bits and put the pieces together. She wasn't ''successful'' like in terms of being famous but she could of had a better future.
Another story is of a famous person called mac miller. He died on sept 7 2018. By accidental drug overdose. He has been open in the past about the drugs and says how it had taken over his life in many interviews. I did get emotional when I found out he died as I was a big fan of him but I guess that's what happens when you're under that much pressure.
Really? What did Portugal do?Drugs don't ruin people's lives. Addiction to illegal drugs can and often does. But, "addiction" (disordered use/abuse) generally doesn't happen except when someone is already not doing well in life (socially, professionally, psychologically).
There are casual cocaine users, for example. The drug all on its own doesn't cause the problem. It is the person seeking to fill a void through the high that is at the core of addiction.
Legalization will increase use, but if the drugs are removed from their black-market context, much of the life-destroying consequences would diminish.
Add to this, imagine if rather than the hundreds of billions spent annually on jailing drug criminals, that money was used to prevent and treat abuse.
Eventually, we will get there. Other countries (e.g. Portugal) has already seen the light.