Discussion Have you failed in life ? Additional: brain types

[Nx7]

Early on when I was a teenager, I had already failed but just didn't know. A stupid brain with stupid diseases. I wish I had known the work of Dr. Daniel G. Amen years before or that my family had somehow knew back in the early 2000's that in itself would've have saved my fate.

I also had some concussions when I was a child and on my early teens. Not sure if it has affected me.
My only shot at success and doing good in life was destroyed by myself. A 5 year plan and a dream of a decade thrown away just earlier this year.

After losing everything, seeing everyone going on with their lives and back to a shithole country, I started getting even worse. And my attempts for CTB started then. Everyday in this shithole country is HELL. Too much suffering. I didn't play my cards right.

Regarding the work of Dr.Amen how do many of you rate his work ? Have you heard about it before ? Do you believe if you had gotten a treatment such at one of his clinics which analyzes the types of brains, brain patterns and alternative routes other than just prescribing SSRIs without looking at the brain that you would have been in a better place right now ?

And do you believe you failed in life ? If so, why is that ?

 

[sserafim]

Early on when I was a teenager, I had already failed but just didn't know. A stupid brain with stupid diseases. I wish I had known the work of Dr. Daniel G. Amen years before or that my family had somehow knew back in the early 2000's that in itself would've have saved my fate.

I also had some concussions when I was a child and on my early teens. Not sure if it has affected me.
My only shot at success and doing good in life was destroyed by myself. A 5 year plan and a dream of a decade thrown away just earlier this year.

After losing everything, seeing everyone going on with their lives and back to a shithole country, I started getting even worse. And my attempts for CTB started then. Everyday in this shithole country is HELL. Too much suffering. I didn't play my cards right.

Regarding the work of Dr.Amen how do many of you rate his work ? Have you heard about it before ? Do you believe if you had gotten a treatment such at one of his clinics which analyzes the types of brains, brain patterns and alternative routes other than just prescribing SSRIs without looking at the brain that you would have been in a better place right now ?

And do you believe you failed in life ? If so, why is that ?

I failed to launch after college and transition into adulthood but honestly I never even wanted to grow up in the first place. I never saw myself as an adult or envisioned myself becoming one. I always thought that I would've died before 18, I never even expected to get this old (I'm 23 now). My parents think I'm a failure due to my failure to launch but I never wanted to enter the workforce anyways. I'm neurodivergent (ADHD and ASD) so I probably also have a stupid brain. I heard about Dr. Amen's work and thought it was interesting, but some people (on Reddit) said it was fake so I don't know.

 

[jessisme]

I have definitely failed at life. I am 46 and live with my elderly mother. I am on disability for mental illness and haven't worked in thirteen years. I have debt for a college degree that I got and never used and have no way to pay it off. I have only had one boyfriend in my life and that was when I was eighteen. It lasted two years. I have not had a date since then. I have never made friends since then. I have had a handful of hookups which consisted of me allowing myself to be used for sex, because I was starved for affection, by people who treated me poorly and whom I never heard from again. I have no car because i cannot afford one. I haven't driven in five years since my last manic episode when I had my license taken away. The only things that keep me going are my loving and dedicated mother and my toy pomeranian. They are the only ones in my life besides my mental health support team who are only there for the insurance money. There is no one else. When my mother becomes too elderly to support me I will be destitute and homeless. I will be left to die of starvation and/or exposure having no one to help me. I seek ctb as a way to avoid this fate. People my age now have jobs. They have cars. They have houses or apartments, neither of which I can afford. They often have children and some of them even have grandchildren. They have discretionary money so they can enjoy some of the good things this life has to offer. I have failed to secure myself any/all of these things. I have failed beyond measure. Despite this I am happy with my life as it is now. I just have to take measures to eliminate myself before that should change.

 

[Aim]

Sorry that you feel this way! <3 i can relate! Life isnt a walk in the park for many of us, thats for sure! <3 Never heard about this method or this doctor, is he famous or something?

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I am familiar wirh Dr. Daniel Amen. I read almost half of his book "Change your brain, change your life". At first it felt like his work was amazing and possibly an answer to my mental problem but I dug deeper and saw that the medical community categorizes him as a snake oil salesman, and I agree.

That is because he makes a lot of wild claims, like the imagining of the brain, but never makes a study comparing his methods to the usual methods. He doesn't defend his research with any proof whatsoever, and that to me is because he knows he doesn't have all of the basis he needs, otherwise he would have published his research and "shut up all the haters".

His service is also not covered by insurance because of the same reason, it is not approved by the medical field since he didn't publish any suitable research. Unfortunately, if something looks too good to be true, it probably is....

 

[Aim]

Hmm, intresting! Not easy to trust him then. But actually i do think i have read somewhere that people are capabel to change their brain (or the way we think, by creating new neuron pathways! But to be able to do so, would both take time and practice!

 

[brokeandbroken]

Early on when I was a teenager, I had already failed but just didn't know. A stupid brain with stupid diseases. I wish I had known the work of Dr. Daniel G. Amen years before or that my family had somehow knew back in the early 2000's that in itself would've have saved my fate.

I also had some concussions when I was a child and on my early teens. Not sure if it has affected me.
My only shot at success and doing good in life was destroyed by myself. A 5 year plan and a dream of a decade thrown away just earlier this year.

After losing everything, seeing everyone going on with their lives and back to a shithole country, I started getting even worse. And my attempts for CTB started then. Everyday in this shithole country is HELL. Too much suffering. I didn't play my cards right.

Regarding the work of Dr.Amen how do many of you rate his work ? Have you heard about it before ? Do you believe if you had gotten a treatment such at one of his clinics which analyzes the types of brains, brain patterns and alternative routes other than just prescribing SSRIs without looking at the brain that you would have been in a better place right now ?

And do you believe you failed in life ? If so, why is that ?

I am familiar with Dr. Amen. While I was in Australia for a semester abroad during the summer before my senior of college. I worked at a medical clinic. She learned under different physicians of his ilk (for instance Dr. Mensah was another). So I got firsthand experience and I believe I got to take part in (online) meetings with her and him as she was bringing his work to her clinic.

It depends. Brain imaging is probably important in diagnosis as different markings we'll say can be predictive or even diagnostic for instance damage to the fusiform gyrus and prosopagnosia. Is it completely true no. It's somewhere between snake oil and settled science e.g. pseudoscience. Patterns are patterns they need more.

Would my treatment have changed? It's impossible to know. Would hevhave taken what I said seriously? Would hehep have he listened to me? Those are things I cannot answer. As I don't know if he loves his job and treating people or if he enjoys money more. That also belies the fact my "cure" is a lawyer not a doctor.

Have I failed? Yes. Ultimately, I didn't fail in my career. It was stolen from me. But I put my energy into the wrong people and never found the right ones. The one part of tragedy that is important is it shows you who cares and who doesn't. And it showed me no one gives a fuck. I went to medical school put a lot of time and energy into people for them in my time of need to do nothing. I failed here. I should've had the right people. Everything else is debatable but I did the right thing I know that much. So yes I failed.

 

[Nx7]

Sorry that you feel this way! <3 i can relate! Life isnt a walk in the park for many of us, thats for sure! <3 Never heard about this method or this doctor, is he famous or something?

Thanks. I appreciate it. You can watch one of his interviews Here
Interesting. I did know about the "snake oil salesman" but I thought it was not such a huge problem

I am familiar wirh Dr. Daniel Amen. I read almost half of his book "Change your brain, change your life". At first it felt like his work was amazing and possibly an answer to my mental problem but I dug deeper and saw that the medical community categorizes him as a snake oil salesman, and I agree.

That is because he makes a lot of wild claims, like the imagining of the brain, but never makes a study comparing his methods to the usual methods. He doesn't defend his research with any proof whatsoever, and that to me is because he knows he doesn't have all of the basis he needs, otherwise he would have published his research and "shut up all the haters".

His service is also not covered by insurance because of the same reason, it is not approved by the medical field since he didn't publish any suitable research. Unfortunately, if something looks too good to be true, it probably is....

 

[Hotsackage]

look up the science of meditation if youre into this. dr richard davidson. last time i checked, i havent heard good things about dr amen. but there is a lot of scientifically backed data on neuroplasticity and meditation

 

[brokeandbroken]

look up the science of meditation if youre into this. dr richard davidson. last time i checked, i havent heard good things about dr amen. but there is a lot of scientifically backed data on neuroplasticity and meditation

Yes the brain is pretty flexible. Especially when young. As you get older it is less so. But yes.

 

[DyingToDie123]

I've talked about this way too much on here but yeah, got a restraining order when I wanted a career that requires a crystal clear background. Big reason for ctbing.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I never heard of Dr. Daniel Amen. But anyway, I failed in life bc my project of a life time failed, too much is broken after years of failures after that and that's killing me. Being not successful in life (business / financial) = failure. Because of that, MH issues, depression is developing.

 

[gbi2]

I don't think I have. What has happened to me is a series of mistreatment by others which has put me in bad positions. When these issues happen, I have always done everything correctly. So I don't know why I have to deal with the mess all the time.

My life should be great, I'm actually happy to live alone, I don't see any family which I'm fine with, have very few friends and they live far away (I was the one who moved away), but I like that. I don't have a desire to be massively rich, just comfortable and I know that with how I have done, I should be comfortable by now. Someone always messes it up by mistreating me or lying to me which ends up with me in a worse position.

I think an ex line manager has just doen something to prevent me starting a new role at the NHS. Soemthing seems dodgy because it was all resting on References, and they've had a reference from my old employer before. We weren't on good terms when I left because he caused my contract to be terminated and hgave me really bad advice, possibly lied and coerced me. While I was there he sent me to occ health and they found out about my previous suicide attempt and included it in the report. He told me he loves conflict and annoying peopel and making them angry, so it wouldn't surprise me if he knows this will send me over the edge. Let's face it we know of the kind of peopel who 'slip the net' in the NHS don't we. And going by how he has behaved, I can see how any concerns anyone raises are quashed as if people just can't believe that sort of thing will happen here..

So yeah, despite wrong choices I've sometimes made, my life should be good. I just can't handle having to deal with the aftermath of me beaing treated like this by someone again. I have no money left, I'm unemployed, unable to do the things I once could so I have no idea what job I can do now, I've sold a load of things which I didn't want to get rid of but I had to. The last 3 jobs have all resulted in me being mistreated, and I want to be clear, I know and people have agreed I haven't done anything to attract the treatment. I just go to work do my job, put forward ideas for improvement, if they get accepted fine, if not I don't care, but I leave anyone else alone, but also encourage them when it helps them.

Nobody I ahve spoekn to for any reason (in chatting, therapy, managers and collegues) have seen my situation with any sense of urgency. It'sll eb liek "Oh maybe next month..." And I go "Next month, I need anotehr job NOIw. I have no money what am I supposed to do!" and they'll go "What you have no money at all", I'll reply "No, why do you think I'm panicking like this, I'm not panicking because I'm down to my last million"

Fiuck, all the spelling mistakes in that and I just can't be bothered to go back and correctit.
See, I can't even own up to a mistake without making notehr mistake.

 

[letmeoutofthis]

yes i failed in every possible way

 

[ijustwishtodie]

How do you define "failing in life"? If you define it as being relatively happy despite working like the majority of people, then yes, I failed in life. If you consider failing in life as failing to be your average human, then yes, I failed in that aspect too even though it was because I was born disadvantaged. Either way, whilst I definitely failed in life, I never asked for life to begin with and I just want to be dead. I don't really care that I failed in life