Have you chosen where you want to die and where you won't be discovered for hours?

[KimKevorkian]

When I spoke to my parents about looking into medically assisted suicide if my illness got to a certain point, they agreed to support me. When I said I wanted to set a standard for when I would look into it, specifically urinating myself, they shut down talks. My mom once asked if I decided to go on my own, how she would feel about us doing it together. But that urinating myself wasn't where we should draw the line. Well, I'm losing bladder control now and struggling to eat from the tremors so the physical pain I'm in outweighs the trauma of what I'll leave behind. I appreciate your sentiment towards my mother though.

Oh boy. I want to understand this, Who asked whom how the other would feel if you did it together? Also, I don't understand why a specific symptomatic marker would shut down the discussion. Well, maybe I do. I know with my mom, it got too real and painful for her to hear talk of my unhappiness in this world. At the end, she wanted us to ctb together. But I didn't have any means by which to do it, and still had (and have) many things to straighten out beforehand. So, did you or your mom suggest tandem exit? If she did, that would suggest she's highly sympathetic to your plight.

 

[ameliacecelia]

Oh boy. I want to understand this, Who asked whom how the other would feel if you did it together? Also, I don't understand why a specific symptomatic marker would shut down the discussion. Well, maybe I do. I know with my mom, it got too real and painful for her to hear talk of my unhappiness in this world. At the end, she wanted us to ctb together. But I didn't have any means by which to do it, and still had (and have) many things to straighten out beforehand. So, did you or your mom suggest tandem exit? If she did, that would suggest she's highly sympathetic to your plight.

She suggested it. I was fine with it as long as she promised to make sure I was gone first. I believe the reason they didn't want to discuss things further is because they thought it was an abstract idea that would happen years from now and didn't want the fear of a symptom they had signed off on developing in the near future. I'm sure my mom knows it's been going on because she does my laundry, but neither of us will bring it up. Interesting that my mother wasn't the only on here to bring up the possibility of tandem exits.

 

[KimKevorkian]

This is a good, very good sign then. If I didn't have all sorts of shit to sort out, I would have done so with my mom. She repeatedly threw that out to me. She knew the world was hell and not getting any better. With climate change alone, we're doomed. I think this makes your act a lot easier. I'm so sorry you're going through the breakdown of your body. Definitely that's part of my thing too. I'm in pain and limited more and more, though I look and seem a very young 57. But it's already impacting me greatly and will only do so more in the future. Fuck that. See ya.