Hating parents, would it make you better/happier if they died?

[NeverGoodEnuff]

Assume there is nothing to inherit.

I posted this question in another thread but have decided to post it as a stand alone.

 

[FocusExpert]

If my mother dies, it would make life easier, perhaps.

 

[WornOutLife]

If my mother dies, it would make life easier, perhaps.

Same here. I hate to think this way but my mother suffers from schizophrenia and is very agressive (verbally) and thinks everybody is her enemy. She doesn't even wanna see a psychiatrist again and sending her to a psych ward is extremely hard in Argentina.
Anyway, she's not the only reason why I wanna ctb.

 

[stygal]

If my dad died when I was still younger it would have been far less pain for me and my mom. But then he went away to start over and now I don't care anymore. In fact I want him to live a long and painful life now and get very sad by the thought that I ctb'ed before him (if he even finds out about it).

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

i've had some turmoil with my mother in my earlier years but i love her to death and i couldn't live without her

 

[Neowise]

I don't know... I usually think that my life would be better without my mother in particular. I guess I would get more freedom to do what I want. I am 25 and she treats me like a 12 year old. She is a narcissist and the mental abuse is the reason I became the loser I am now. Maybe my life would be better without her, but for some reason I feel bad saying it out loud.

 

[Starseedchip]

As bad as it sounds if my mother had passed when I was younger it would have improved my life. Her influence and the decisions she made have had devastating effects on my life. Unfortunately now I'm in a situation in which I am heavily dependent on her. Her passing now would only worsen my quality of life.

 

[Steamm]

No, I love my close ones

 

[Tired_Tired]

I would suggest to change the title if no God, your life will be better. If you believe the God. God create human beings and universal.

 

[Mentalmick]

If my father had died when I was young then my mother would of had an infinitely happier life which in turn might of made me a happier person.

 

[Noriv159]

Don't know my parents that much to give an opinion. I just want to die myself personally. Nothing changes much if they're gone before.

 

[Cherrypea]

I used to think when my mum died I would be free, no longer tied to someone like her. But she died 6 years ago and I grieved her like a normal person and miss her a bit.

 

[TheSomebody]

They don't need to die, I just need to stay away from them

 

[UiopQwerty]

I hated much my father. But he died last year from a bleeding in the throat. Caused by excessive drinking of laboratory alcohol.
Since a few year back I started to hate my mother... When she divorced she gave up on many things, me and my sister and brother werent that interesting.
Heh. I didnt even get a greeting on my name day or christmas day. Same with sister and brother. (I dont hate them. They have had same shit from our parents...)

In general I have noticed that people that are close to you seem to distant themselves when they see that you arent OK.
When I had a relation, job, income, plans, and a superficial lifestyle people came to me, called me...
All social exchange disappeared when "they" knew about depression and pain...

 

[Ghost2211]

My mom was horrible. Her death didn't help. I still cried when she died, and it was hard to process all of the abuse and pain. I couldn't tell her what a pos she was, and how it effect me and my relationships and life. It didn't take the pain away. I'm not sad about her anymore, and in a lot of ways I'm glad she's dead. It doesn't fix anything though.

 

[Chupacabra 44]

I used to think when my mum died I would be free, no longer tied to someone like her. But she died 6 years ago and I grieved her like a normal person and miss her a bit.

Sorry that your mom died.

I think those thinking they would be happier at the demise of either or both parents would have this reaction more often than not.

Careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

 

[UiopQwerty]

My mom was horrible. Her death didn't help. I still cried when she died, and it was hard to process all of the abuse and pain. I couldn't tell her what a pos she was, and how it effect me and my relationships and life. It didn't take the pain away. I'm not sad about her anymore, and in a lot of ways I'm glad she's dead. It doesn't fix anything though.

Same here. The only one who came to see me and my wife back in the days were my father. He came with a shopping bag with groceries.
The rest of time he was a manipulative drunk...
My mother told me straight to my face that she though my wife was bad and evil. One time she came to visit during 8 years.

I was beaten in 2001. I ended up in hospital for 9.5 months. It was my fault according to her. However, she came to identify me when I was unconscious with the police and the ambulance. I had lost my wallet and cell phone.

 

[livefreeorpeace]

Assume there is nothing to inherit.

I posted this question in another thread but have decided to post it as a stand alone.

I was estranged from my mother for 10 years, she was by all accounts, not a good person. I couldn't fucking stand her, I wished for years that she would die. Fast forward to about 3 years ago, I get a call from my stepfather telling me that she has cancer and she's terminal. I asked to speak to her on the phone after he told me that, and she did not sound good at all, brought me to tears actually. He asked me if I would help him out with her, because he had to still go to work and such, and we all knew that she didn't have that much longer to go. I agreed, I ended up spending each and every day of the last three weeks of her life with her (I certainly did not owe her that) then she passed. Am I better off with her? That I can't say, it had been so long since she had been a part of my life anyhow, that it would be tough to say yes or no for sure. Am happier now that she's gone? Not at all, I actually miss her. Why do I miss this nasty and malicious person that I didn't even care to have be a part of my life? Couldn't tell you, my best guess is that it was easier to: hate her, resent her, wish she was gone. But now that she is, I don't take any great joy in it.

 

[Nexuno]

My mom was horrible. Her death didn't help.

Same here.

 

[Going Home]

Any family that says, "I don't care what happens to her. I hope they get her." They can kick rocks. Who needs them.

 

[Frauw]

Indifferent whether they live or die.

 

[fly away]

My father is a raging narcissist and my mother has Alzheimer's. My poor mother but he's her caretaker. Karma.