Discussion Has therapy ever worked for you?

[freedomfreezerstar]

Yes, if i could get one and a support system I might live or at least feel like living in the wilderness was a more viable option. The thing is just that therapy is kind of like school. You have to put work into it in order for it to be productive. The work is like, finding the right therapist, sliding scale therapists, trauma-informed therapists, therapy homework, workbooks, trusting a therapist, a support system where you can tell someone or something that you are suicidal, etc, mental health systems, etc.

It is very interesting, i think that is why many people go into psychology. Because it can probably be way more effective than it is now and it is massively needed or desired.

 

[babybrie]

Therapy is just pro life brainwashing. I find it condescending and unhelpful. It's not like the therapist is the one who has to endure my suffering so why should I let them try and convince me life is worth living?

 

[watchingthewheels]

Yes, therapy has helped me, in conjunction with a good philosophical base.

 

[bloomingdark]

With my psychologist o had a really good connection the thing is that later on he would disappear and that's when it hit me the fact that i believed that he was my friend, and i was like ,really? He stopped answering to make new appointments and disappeared like nothing, almost four months ago, so I think I was getting better because I thought that someone was my friend and genuinely cared about me , oh boy ...

And my physiatrist always treats me like I'm a child, doesn't say anything at all of how I feel and just intimidates me , i am thinking of going to other one but I don't have money right now

 

[k75]

Therapy is just pro life brainwashing. I find it condescending and unhelpful. It's not like the therapist is the one who has to endure my suffering so why should I let them try and convince me life is worth living?

Is this something you have actually experienced? That's absolutely not what therapy is supposed to be like or what a therapist is supposed to do. And if they are, they need replaced asap!

And there's so many different types of therapy. I have PTSD (among other chronic issues), and my therapist's current role is to try to help me not be so crippled by my fears and nightmares. She's teaching me ways to not completely shut down when I really want to.

There's no pro-life element in it. Everyone's aware that I would rather be dead, and we talk about that but it's not like in a way where I'm being convinced otherwise or being told that my feelings aren't valid. It's more like I feel this way, so what can I try to make it not as bad? My therapist even acknowledges that I have a right to feel like I do considering what I struggle with.

But I am in therapy by choice, and my goal is to not want to die anymore. That probably makes a big difference in the way I experience it. People who are forced don't tend to do well or get much out of it. Anyway, I suspect I'm going to die no matter what I do, but I'm trying for now.

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

therapy made my issues 1000 x worse, never helped... well, actually once I had this therapist I was in love with thus I really enjoyed going to see them, but it didn't actually helped xD

 

[Carrotcake]

therapy made my issues 1000 x worse, never helped... well, actually once I had this therapist I was in love with thus I really enjoyed going to see them, but it didn't actually helped xD

One time I was in a group program, and we had a therapist who was really an insanely beautiful guy. It was very funny because all of us had the same experiences of being distracted by how handsome he was. Obviously this was not helpful in therapy haha.

 

[Trisolaris]

I have been to therapy multiple times and the only time it helped me is when I learned coping strategies like CBT. Pure talk therapy only helped me for a few minutes and then I was back to my depressed self.

 

[Mentalmick]

I was getting better because I thought that someone was my friend and genuinely cared about me , oh boy ...

Yeah it's a right boot to the system when you realise that. You tell someone your deepest darkest thoughts and fears and they expect you not to become at least a little reliant on them? Mentally ill humans don't work like. It just means you never truly trust or really open up to anybody again.

 

[purple꿈]

I haven't gone to any therapy but I'm planning on trying to, or at least my family wants to anyways.

 

[DarkWolf]

I'm on my 4th go at therapy. Ive never lasted more than 6 sessions. I just end up getting so scared I freeze, go mute or panic. It's really sad and pathetic. My current one seems nice and works on a sliding scale so I don't have to pay the full amount since I'm struggling with money. I just don't think she can help me, I've told her I feel like I'm wasting her time and she says that's not how she feels about it. I just can't bring myself to trust anyone. I think it's just too late for me.

 

[LifeQuitter2018]

I have never been to a therapy.
Most people in my country don't even believe in the existence in mental illness. Even if they do, they don't want to talk about it. They don't want to talk about suicide or what leads a person to commit suicide.

If you express some concerns, whether it's personal problem or systemic problems, the most frequent replies you would hear are "Just man up" or "Just deal with it / Just live with it". "Stop faking illness".

 

[WornOutLife]

Therapy is just pro life brainwashing.

I feel the same. I could even compare it to religion because I went to a Catholic school and the experience was quite similar!

 

[myopybyproxy]

fundamental issues with the institution of therapy as a whole that i believe must be remediated before the field can seriously help people instead of flail up against placebo -

money and time limit - one hour once a week is often not enough, and yet it is far too much when you are the one paying for it. a relationship based around a financial transaction is fake at best and transparently callous at worst.

legal concern and liability - or losing their license if the client dies by suicide, this is a bullshit formality which causes clients to often talk in circles and avoid the root of their struggle, reflects the attitude of society which is regressive and also in dire need of fixing

society - not an issue with therapy itself but more so an external limitation as to its usefulness, wherein an hour of talking once a week to go back to the real world which could give less of a shit about you until there is threat of you no longer being a consumer, at which point they scramble to keep you alive so you may continue consuming and eventually become a labour guinea pig for them

there are exceptionally wonderful individuals in the field given these considerations, but they are the exception and by far not the rule. more common is the one that regurgitates useless pinterest quotes and tells you to 'use skills'. unfortunately then there are those who just talk about themselves, and that is not to say self disclosure must be avoided - indeed in the right circumstance it can be beneficial and promote the relationship - but if you are paying them to talk about themselves, run fast and far the other direction.