Discussion Has anyone else planned their funeral ?

[Lara Francis]

I visited two funeral directors a few days ago.
As I approached the places,i was excited but this was followed by confusion and a sense of guilt for feeling this way.
I questioned wether it was wrong to plan in such detail.
I went ahead anyway and will clearly set out my wishes down to the fine details of my coffin choice,what i want to be dressed in.the headstone wording and the service.
I saw the chapel of rest and asked if i would be in this room all the time or just for viewings but i would be in the fridge in my coffin until ready to go.
I asked about funeral plans and if they were any circumstances in which they did not pay out such as suicide but no was the answer.
When I burried my husband , making all the decisions alone was so painful and i wanted everything to be perfect and spent most of my time being a physical and emotional mess.I would have been very upset if anything had not gone quite to plan.
I would not want this for my loved ones so feel this preparation is sensible and thoughtful but my friends think otherwise.
I would be interested in peoples thoughts.
It feels so right on one level but wrong on other.
I am confused.
Im sure it will give a peace of mind when my time comes knowing that everything is sorted as time is now on a possible count down.
It had to be the strangest conversation i have ever had in my life!

 

[not_a_robot]

Nope. Only planned ways to hide my corpse so nobody finds me at all. If I had my way, nobody would even know I'm alive at all, much less know if I died. I would love a way that just makes me disappear completely.

That was nice to plan though, so your family won't have to deal with it.

 

[inconsequential]

No, but only because much like my mother, I have absolutely no desire for a funeral. I would like a direct cremation with no official funeral or memorial services. I'm currently trying to find out how to keep my bitchy half-sister from doing anything with my corpse.

 

[SinisterKid]

Yep, all paid for, Humane service, no religious claptrap and no wood to burn.

 

[Lara Francis]

Yep, all paid for, Humane service, no religious claptrap and no wood to burn.

Good job

 

[Darkmornings]

I've looked into it. I dont want anyone i know viewing my dead body. No services. No fake ass tears. I want to be cremated. My ashes can go to my mom if she wants them. Another wise throw me in the trash. Idk

 

[Soul]

Same here, in the sense of no service and body donated. Anyone who wants to spend money on me can spend it now, thank you.

You did a good thing, @Lara Francis.

 

[blanketyblk]

No funeral for me. i don't want to be a corpse lying in an empty church or mourners that i don't know to turn up too.. so straight to cremation for me and then to be poured out into the ocean, so my ashes can drift all around the world.. or be fish food. one of the two.. that's my plan

 

[Lara Francis]

I wanted to be cremated but my hubby wanted burial so the plot is for 3 so i want to be with him.i think the service will be short then 2 doves of peace released at the end like what i did at his funeral.

 

[angie]

Same here, in the sense of no service and body donated. Anyone who wants to spend money on me can spend it now, thank you.

You did a good thing, @Lara Francis.

Mines organised and paid for just, pain basic cremation .humanist ceremony , no flowers ,no buffet or cup tea afters either .ashes spread in crematorium garden with my bros and sister .done and dusted

I visited two funeral directors a few days ago.
As I approached the places,i was excited but this was followed by confusion and a sense of guilt for feeling this way.
I questioned wether it was wrong to plan in such detail.
I went ahead anyway and will clearly set out my wishes down to the fine details of my coffin choice,what i want to be dressed in.the headstone wording and the service.
I saw the chapel of rest and asked if i would be in this room all the time or just for viewings but i would be in the fridge in my coffin until ready to go.
I asked about funeral plans and if they were any circumstances in which they did not pay out such as suicide but no was the answer.
When I burried my husband , making all the decisions alone was so painful and i wanted everything to be perfect and spent most of my time being a physical and emotional mess.I would have been very upset if anything had not gone quite to plan.
I would not want this for my loved ones so feel this preparation is sensible and thoughtful but my friends think otherwise.
I would be interested in peoples thoughts.
It feels so right on one level but wrong on other.
I am confused.
Im sure it will give a peace of mind when my time comes knowing that everything is sorted as time is now on a possible count down.
It had to be the strangest conversation i have ever had in my life!

I think your family will take comfort knowing you arranged it and you will be getting it how you would have wanted it .they will have no dilemmas and worries about making the right decisions for you .the decisions are all made ,and made by you .the pressure is off of them id say .1less thing for them to deal with .

 

[mathieu]

I can't afford a prepaid funeral so that's not an option. I guess my family will have to plan it. It's more for their sake than mine, I suppose. What I would like is a funeral that doesn't focus too much on my life, like a catholic one.

 

[TimeToDie]

No plans, though there's not much to plan when I just want the cheapest cremation with my ashes sprinkled upon my property. That would cost about $1,500 and the executor of my estate can certainly afford it as I'm quite generous with her in my estate plan.

 

[WaterUnder]

My cremation is bought and paid for, but not the funeral. I see no need for one, not the service nor a burial. Anything my family wishes to do is up to them. Personally, I don't care if I'm scattered in the woods or in the ocean. Makes no difference to me.

 

[Ladylethal]

My family has the money to pay for a funeral but I don't want them to pay for shit. Not even flowers. Hell they probably won't tbh. It's extremely important to me that if possible they have nothing to do with any services etc. The thought of my mother's fake tears hitting my face brings tears to my own eyes. I'm fine with cremation. I'd like my ashes to be given to two select people possibly. I want to make sure it comes out of my own pocket. I've been saving.

 

[Jynxer]

Nope. But my closest friends know that I want no services, especiallly no god business. And I am to be cremated and my ashes are to be spread (as well as my moms and dads lil earns of ashes that I have) over the same waterfall I spread the majority of my moms ashes in 06.

Nope. But my closest friends know that I want no services, especiallly no god business. And I am to be cremated and my ashes are to be spread (as well as my moms and dads lil earns of ashes that I have) over the same waterfall I spread the majority of my moms ashes in 06.

Urns*

 

[Morphinekiss]

If I ctb before my parents die, they'll do the nice Jewish ceremony, sit shiva, have me buried in the Jewish cemetery where my brother is.

If I ctb after they're gone, my sister will have me cremated and honestly probably just "forget" to pick up my ashes. She hates me that much.

I really don't care either way.

 

[Kringle's Curse]

No plans, all I want is "oh he's gone, throw his worthless ass in the hole and move on".

I'm not worth a well planned expensive funeral. If it were my way, I'd have my corpse tossed into the landfill and covered with garbage.

 

[Oblivion Lover]

Ideally I would like to have my organs donated and my brain to be cryogenically preserved, but I would never be able to afford that, so I'm gonna leave a note to my parents saying that I want to be cremated as I find funerals and cemeteries a waste of time and space. Also, I don't want my body to just rot below the Earth and be eaten by all sorts of disgusting lifeforms that I despise. That sounds too undignified to me.

 

[AsexualBarbieBoy]

No plans but I might send delayed emails to one or two people requesting they do not come to my funeral, as well as a few to childhood friends requesting they do.

 

[Sanguinius]

the funeral istn't for the person which died. It is for the ones who've lost a loved person, they should plan the funeral the way they need it. I think, it may help them to know what I'd like, but just some ideas, what I would find beautiful or what I would find terrible, i.e. I've said to my mother (some time ago, as the time was right etc.), that I'd love it if they'd play a special song I love since I was little at the funeral, that I'd like to be created, and that I'd appreciate it if people would not bring flowers - instead the should give a small donation to the local animal's sanctuary (just some random examples). but they should be the ones that plan it. I'm quite sure I won't notice anything of it. My family will. It should help them, not me - there's no need for helping me then, finally...

 

[Ladylethal]

I'd really like the song Gloomy Sunday to be played for me now that I think about it.

 

[dandan]

I have seen options, set money aside just in case. I either pre pay it or leave money for it, I rather pay but haven't done so yet, as I would be left with almost $0

 

[riverstyx]

I'm not going to bother myself with that. I'll leave that to my parents. Doesn't matter much to me what happens after I'm dead, except that I don't want to become worm food so I'll ask to be cremated.

 

[The_big_b]

Nope. They can dump me in a ditch for all I care, whatever happens after I'm done is none of my concern.

 

[Broken Chimera]

I don't care. The state can pay for my cremation. Either that or leave me for the buzzards.

 

[intheend]

I do not want a funeral, I just want cremation or not to be found at all.

 

[thedutchguy]

Planned it all on paper,
Cremation and where to scatfer the asses.
The will everything

 

[Slenderman]

All I want is to be cremated as I see no point in taking up space (especially) while I'm dead, and it's cheaper. I don't give a fuck about this family's religious beliefs, I never begged for existence and I should be able to at least get to choose what happens with my body after death. I want my ashes to be scattered in our backyard or on a river but I HIGHLY doubt my wishes will be respected.

 

[Suiplastic]

I have a good plan for my the end and no one can find my dead body...

 

[letmeseethedeath]

i want to be cremated and i don't care about other things