Has anyone else been stalked?

[IsThisTheEnd?]

Stalking has left me in a agitated state and can't switch off for years.

just wondering if anyone else has anything like this?

 

[Giraffey]

Absolutely. My abusive ex-partner has been stalking me for more than two years, she has a personality disorder, is a classic narcissist and appears to still be obsessed with me. It affects many aspects of my life, I have to live and work under a pseudonym and publish research under a nom de plume. I've written about it more extensively in other threads, but you have my deepest sympathies, even when the stalking 'ends' you live with the constant fear that it will begin again.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Yes? Idk but I got a Trojan on my laptop and then text messages a few days later from a no reply number. People think I'm paranoid and the 2 have no connection but I know more about the situation then they do. Someone did it on purpose.....

 

[Kramer]

I wish women stalked me on social media.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

No, but I did threaten my ex-wife with it

Well that's not very nice. What did she do to cause you to make such a threat?

 

[woxihuanni]

By an incredibly ugly pedo, yes. Also been raped. I miss both things compared to what my husband has been doing to me.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

A lot of things. Ultimately though, she refused to give me closure for her own selfish gains, so I had to turn the situation up to 11 to move on with my life. I regret nothing.

What do you mean by "refused to give closure"?

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I moved back to my home country, we divorced and we never had a breakup conversation. For me to move on I needed her to tell me that she didn't love me or at very least have some sort of conversation. She is a very passive aggressive person and wanted to keep me hanging on so she refused to engage with me for about 3 months. When you're married to someone, your lives are very interconnected regardless of how happy or otherwise your marriage is. It was cruel for her to refuse to stop engaging with me entirely and even when I eventually got my closure, she dangled the good ole, "well there might have been a chance for reconciliation before... but not now" at me. This is the tip of the iceberg, of course. So, a long story short, I regret nothing. Stalking her was the least of my threats. I also told her I would commit serious resources to ruining her career. I absolutely meant it, too. Fortunately though none of that needs to happen. We said our piece and now I can move on to the grave or otherwise. Horray?

Thank you for reminding me why being single is not such a bad thing after all.

What was the reason you got divorced?

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

You're welcome, I suppose? Even if it seems heavily steeped in judgement.

The TLDR version is that she cheated on me and then we divorced because our marriage didn't work. Here is the long version if it interests you: https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/rage-megathread.27811/post-927180

Was she supporting you financially while you were married?

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

That isn't how marriage works. She made enough money to support us both, if that's what you're asking. She has/had a very good job.

Okay.

 

[MichaelNomad123]

Some self-righteous horseshit, right here. I regret this conversation. Gonna delete the rest. Cheers. Have a good morning.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Some self-righteous horseshit, right here. I regret this conversation. Gonna delete the rest. Cheers. Have a good morning.

Nice talking to you too.

 

[Ren Elsie Jewelria]

I wish women stalked me on social media.

I was actually stalked by an ex-gf few years ago. And I don't mean sending PMs on social media, which I didn't and don't use. I mean real threats of sending over thugs, sending over police (her family member in the police). She never did, but it was no fun. Anyhoo, what I really wanted to say is that not only women have stalkers.

 

[Kramer]

I was actually stalked by an ex-gf few years ago. And I don't mean sending PMs on social media, which I didn't and don't use. I mean real threats of sending over thugs, sending over police (her family member in the police). She never did, but it was no fun. Anyhoo, what I really wanted to say is that not only women have stalkers.

That's nuts

 

[Deleted member 1465]

Kind of, but not seriously. A girl I met on an excavation wouldn't leave alone for years afterwards. Calling, emails, coming to visit etc. She was harmless and TBH I felt sorry for her but it was a little unsettling.

 

[Frauw]

Not really stalked but I had a friend who notified me of another friend who was wearing my clothes and taking pictures of himself in them when I wasn't around. Strange world.

 

[StateOfMind]

Definitely experienced some stalking by a previous romantic partner and the police.
I tend to get involved with women that have affiliations with the authorities.
Very bad idea lol
Always do your background checks before getting into any kind of relationship!

 

[woxihuanni]

Definitely experienced some stalking by a previous romantic partner and the police.
I tend to get involved with women that have affiliations with the authorities.
Very bad idea lol
Always do your background checks before getting into any kind of relationship!

I think your best bet would be to move to a nice village and find a nice girl from there.

 

[Symbiote]

Met a girl in my first stint at the psych ward when I was a teenager. She would stalk me after I got out for an entire year, leaving messages, and eventually showed up at the house one day. All I did was play Pokemon Snap in the common room with her ONE TIME and she was instantly obsessed. Luckily she found another person to obsess over and I became an afterthought.

 

[Ghost2211]

Yep, ex won't let go of his fixation on me, so he reads my posts. Doesn't bother me. I don't say anything that can get me in trouble, and he gains more insight than he likely wants. I won't live in fear. He didn't take my ability to speak openly. I just word things more carefully. Stalkers are seriously sick people.

 

[TooConscious]

I feel I know too much about the system we're enslaved and I wonder if I'm schizophrenic, delusional, or something/people are genuinely following me around making me aware of them to mess with my head. I don't know why they bother because they know they beat me years ago it just shows what Bullies the sick bastards are.

 

[MrBlue]

Not properly. When I was around 14/15 a guy with autism developed a crush on me, and the main way people bullied me was by manipulating the poor lad to escalate with said crush. Stuff like following me around, trying to corner me, confessing his love to me, grabbing me occasionally, etc. I still regret lashing out at him and not the people encouraging him, and I had a stint where I said some pretty messed up homophobic shit which I still feel guilty about.

 

[Gnip]

Thank you for reminding me why being single is not such a bad thing after all.

On my parents anniversary, I celebrate being single, on Father's Day, I celebrate being childless, and if I'm still alive when either of those dates rolls around again, I may select that date to undergo a no scalpel vasectomy. (I've been thinking about getting sterilized for years, but it just occurred to me now exactly when to finally schedule such a procedure.)

 

[Mm80]

No.
I once got so lonely that i actually put an advert in my local jobcentre for a stalker.
Got nothing back.
Im sorry to anyone who has been stalked, it sounds horrible.

 

[Antigonish]

Yes, too the point you almost forget about them
Basically hiding in my room not wanting to go outside. But now I realize, I was probably paranoid. But i still dont like going into places like grocery stores alone, or have people stare at me and not say anything.

 

[Soul]

I was stalked by a relative once. She ended up trying to steal my identity to get a job. It was crazy and awful.

 

[k75]

Yes, twice.

As far as I know, one of them (an ex) is just biding his time and will show himself again. At this point, I don't think he's dangerous, just very obsessed. I don't feel like I'm ever very hidden from him, because he knows who my family and friends are, and that's how he managed to find me last time. My social media is private, but he kept hitting up friends of friends, searching, until someone led him to me. But even if I deleted everything, I doubt I'd be safe. He's shown up on my doorstep in the middle of the night, when I was visiting someone in a town I don't live in before. How??? I'll never know.

The other was a true psycho, a neighbor who would follow me around for years. Among many other things, they would hide wearing camo taking pictures of me going to work and kill animals and leave them hanging where I'd see them, like threats. There were guns. I was constantly terrified I'd come home to find everyone in my house murdered one day. One reason I moved across the country was to try to be safe from that situation. It was awful. Despite all the evidence and harassment, I couldn't even get a restraining order against them. I think it's over as long as I'm here, but I don't dare go back there. Part of my PTSD stems from that. I hate that they have that much hold on me still.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

Being stalked sounds absolutely terrifying. I got followed home once by two men and that was awful. I had to make a run for it.

 

[CalmStrikeofMercy]

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Yes, twice.

As far as I know, one of them (an ex) is just biding his time and will show himself again. At this point, I don't think he's dangerous, just very obsessed. I don't feel like I'm ever very hidden from him, because he knows who my family and friends are, and that's how he managed to find me last time. My social media is private, but he kept hitting up friends of friends, searching, until someone led him to me. But even if I deleted everything, I doubt I'd be safe. He's shown up on my doorstep in the middle of the night, when I was visiting someone in a town I don't live in before. How??? I'll never know.

The other was a true psycho, a neighbor who would follow me around for years. Among many other things, they would hide wearing camo taking pictures of me going to work and kill animals and leave them hanging where I'd see them, like threats. There were guns. I was constantly terrified I'd come home to find everyone in my house murdered one day. One reason I moved across the country was to try to be safe from that situation. It was awful. Despite all the evidence and harassment, I couldn't even get a restraining order against them. I think it's over as long as I'm here, but I don't dare go back there. Part of my PTSD stems from that. I hate that they have that much hold on me still.

Yeah...same.

 

[WrongGuy]

i guess