Guilt over a loved one

[Aliali1992]

Before i was sure that CBT is the only way, i was very open about my suicidal thoughts with my family and friends as a cry for help. Now i tell everyone that i am fine and it passed cause i don't want any spoilers. My mum though gave me unconditionale love during this phase and told me manytimes that i am the reason she is breathing and she just don't care if i am a success or a faliure. I really think sge won't make it if i CBT and i feel guilt over it.
How do you deal with this? I read a lot of posts about people want to CBT with their family around. How did you get over guilt?

 

[Steamm]

Suicidals only want the pain to go away. If you care about how your family is going to be without you, than I thibk you aren't ready. I know that because I aint ready either

 

[Jean4]

One day, when the pain is greater than the guilt you will know it's time. You won't have to get over the guilt.

 

[faust]

I am a bit more lucky in this case. My parents (mostly mom) were abusive and I have never had a hug from my mother when I was a child. If a flower is not watered, it dies. So I am not feeling guilty towards my family. My gf believed in eternal love, me too. I don't want her to suffer because of me anymore, I am breaking up soon and CTB in summer. I think I am doing the right thing, she would never be happy with me, so guilt is not what accompanies me these days...

 

[Esc9434]

You shouldn't ctb if your mom said that...

Live to only make each other happy. Forget everyone else.

If you have to go, then tell you mom that you love her, thank you for everything, you are in a better place, and move on without you.

 

[Jean4]

I am a bit more lucky in this case. My parents (mostly mom) were abusive and I have never had a hug from my mother when I was a child. If a flower is not watered, it dies. So I am not feeling guilty towards my family. My gf believed in eternal love, me too. I don't want her to suffer because of me anymore, I am breaking up soon and CTB in summer. I think I am doing the right thing, she would never be happy with me, so guilt is not what accompanies me these days...

No offense. How do you know she would never be happy with you. Did you ask?

I asked Stan how he could be happy with a nut such as myself who I am sure drove him nuts. He answered love has no bounds.

 

[faust]

No offense. How do you know she would never be happy with you. Did you ask?

I asked Stan how he could be happy with a nut such as myself who I am sure drove him nuts. He answered love has no bounds.

We see each other every half a year for 2-3 weeks. And it lasts 1,5 years already. Plus she has BPD and waiting is not a funny thing. How long would she have to wait? 3-4 years?

 

[Jean4]

We see each other every half a year for 2-3 weeks. And it lasts 1,5 years already. Plus she has BPD and waiting is not a funny thing. How long would she have to wait? 3-4 years?

I would have. ;)

 

[faust]

I would have. ;)

Anyway, I will have to go...

 

[Steamm]

I am a bit more lucky in this case. My parents (mostly mom) were abusive and I have never had a hug from my mother when I was a child. If a flower is not watered, it dies. So I am not feeling guilty towards my family. My gf believed in eternal love, me too. I don't want her to suffer because of me anymore, I am breaking up soon and CTB in summer. I think I am doing the right thing, she would never be happy with me, so guilt is not what accompanies me these days...

At least you have a girlfriend, someone who cares about you. I'm 28 and have never experienced such thing

 

[faust]

At least you have a girlfriend, someone who cares about you. I'm 28 and have never experienced such thing

She should take care of herself first. Is loneliness one of the reasons you are here?

 

[Steamm]

She should take care of herself first. Is loneliness one of the reasons you are here?

Not the major reason but it's definitely one of them

 

[faust]

Not the major reason but it's definitely one of them

Oh, sorry about that... How do you think, would relationships one in a half a month be hard for you?

 

[Steamm]

Oh, sorry about that... How do you think, would relationships one in a half a month be hard for you?

I think should be fine, since I have nothing, anything is better than nothing, but obviously the more the better

 

[reapandsow918]

I disagree with not being ready to CTB because of guilt. You can still be ready to die but the people you love the most will always be on your mind.