this is an unreasonable dependency on your favorite person
would you give this person the permission to die?
and if so, what would you do in that case (what would you do after?)
would you find the next 'favorite person'?
would you create a fictional 'favorite person' in your mind?
'Unless I can get my favorite person to understand, I won't have permission to die. Without his permission, I don't feel that I have the right to die.'
'if I did something to hurt my favorite person again, then I wouldn't deserve to be allowed to die.'
'I can't intentionally die without him giving me the okay, because I can't do anything without him'
it's unreasonable to expect someone else to understand you, regardless of your opinion about them
'
I don't know how to explain these things to other people'
this is the reason why no one in this world would be able to understand your situation and your suffering
you can never explain every action and every feeling that you experienced every minute of your life
some repeated outcomes have accumulated to form overall opinions, forgetting every minute details
most of your experiences have been eliminated from your memory - you only remember their bitter result
these bitter outcomes constitute your own very specific and subjective history - unlike any other
you are not even able to explain why last night sunset was so beautiful, only for a few very precious moments
and you expect someone else to give you permission to take your life ?
you need to be realistic
this is why i believe that people have the right to not to be judged
another aspect: your life is your responsibility - and this is a huge responsibility
do you really expect this person to take this additional responsibility, on top of their own responsibility?!
would you be able to take the responsibility of another life - would you be able to handle both of these two huge responsibilities? would you be able to handle the grave mistakes and their consequences you impose on this other person?
if you wouldn't be able to accept the responsibility of another life in your hands, why is it fair for you to expect someone else to take the responsibility of your life into their hands?
you don't have the right to judge anyone else, and you have the responsibility to own your life
personal autonomy
doesn't mean independence or
care-free attitude
it means you have the
right and the responsibility to judge yourself
i get that you have enormous respect and admiration for your favorite person, but they don't have the obligation or duty to be burdened by your suffering
thank you for explaining the correlation between the term 'favorite person' and BPD to me - i don't relate
this aspect of Borderline Personality Disorder is extremely concerning: it implies that you don't have personal autonomy (you don't have a sense of self). and i'm so sorry for your suffering - it must be crushing you
(i just realized that my post doesn't sound too supportive, but i start to understand your pain)
Hypothetically, let's say that I use my chosen method: a fentanyl overdose. What happens if I survive? It would mean breaking the promise that I made to my favorite person and having to deal with the fallout. Is it irrational to think that he'd leave me for breaking that promise? Probably. I can't help that I have that fear though. It's not something that I can change.
i'm sorry for what you're forced to go through (i'm reading your posts chronologically)
my remaining concern for you:
if you were given a guaranteed way to die (example: extreme overdose of fentanyl, or nembutal), would you be able to make this decision for yourself? (without your favorite person)
ps. sorry for the initial lecture