Hello everyone, I have just finished emptying my parents' house after they died last year. There was heaps of stuff to clear and heaps of stuff to do. It made me think that when I die I don't want to leave a whole lot of stuff for other people (probably my sister) to have to pack up/keep/donate/sell. Now I don't really own much stuff, but I want to have everything in order before I kill myself. I'm a little concerned though that what if I get rid of all my stuff and sell the car etc and then change my mind? Has anyone else battled with this? I guess it means I haven't decided 100% yet. Any thoughts greatly appreciated.
I hear you, i have a 2 bed flat that someone would have to clear out. But if i dont succeed ill have nothing, cant afford all this stuff again so as selfish as it is im just going to leave it all.
Fair enough mate. I was thinking of trying to set up some sort of system where I could pay someone from a special account or something to clear out my storage. Mark everything that needs to be donated to charity and maybe have the handful of things I want to give to people wrapped up and ready to post. Then someone could make a few dollars doing a few errands and tidying up after me.
Ive thought about this. Gave away small things and gifts thst id leave to people that i could without raising suspicion.
Then ive updated my will and listed out further things. At the end of the day someone is gonna have to go through it all bur done what i can to make sure things get to the right people.
Ive half bagged and labeled stuff, but this all seemed like its not worth it. I care about the people i leave behind, but things are hard enough already without worrying about other stuff...
Then ive updated my will and listed out further things. At the end of the day someone is gonna have to go through it all bur done what i can to make sure things get to the right people.
Ive half bagged and labeled stuff, but this all seemed like its not worth it. I care about the people i leave behind, but things are hard enough already without worrying about other stuff...
Suppose its easier because i dont have anyone to give anything to. Maybe in my note i will just instruct my mum to contact the British heart foundation, tbh the landlord could rent it out furnashed its got that much stuff in. I had to move here after my partner commited suicide in March and we had a full 3 bedroomed house then, everything was new 10months prior to that.
Heck i even got a carton of beer and will leave a note saying its to be shared amongst the police and paramedics that find me/have to investigate or remove body etc. Cant be easy on them either.
BurningLights
He killed himself with his own mind
- Jul 2, 2018
- 709
Cleared everything, chucked A LOT, still here regretting it.
I chucked anything I deemed not useful to someone else.
Basically kept anything that may be worth something, I managed to reduce to the point on having it all on my bed, all cupboards cleared etc.
Then I couldn't go through with it, slept on the sofa for 3 nights.
DO NOT THROW anything you may NEED.
keep the basics, enough to scrape by. 1 plate, one set of cutlery, don't be stupid like me and Chuck your razors and tooth brush.
Keep some food in the freezer/fridge
Try and box as much as you can, so if you do need it, you can still get it. Hope this helps .
I chucked anything I deemed not useful to someone else.
Basically kept anything that may be worth something, I managed to reduce to the point on having it all on my bed, all cupboards cleared etc.
Then I couldn't go through with it, slept on the sofa for 3 nights.
DO NOT THROW anything you may NEED.
keep the basics, enough to scrape by. 1 plate, one set of cutlery, don't be stupid like me and Chuck your razors and tooth brush.
Keep some food in the freezer/fridge
Try and box as much as you can, so if you do need it, you can still get it. Hope this helps .
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[NoName]
Student
- Nov 15, 2018
- 146
I'm getting a book on this actually. It's called Get it Together. A book on getting everything ready for when you're about to die. There's a whole bunch of books about this, written for senior citizens mostly.
I know of another called I'm Dead, Now What? That works as a book you fill out for loved ones to know what to do next. Bank account passwords, what to do with your social media, what utilities to cancel, final wishes, etc.
I hadn't thought about a lot of these so I think it will be nice to have it all in one place to learn about it.
Exactly me right now. I already sold my car, got rid of stuffs and transferred most of my money to my parents(I still can ask them anytime, if I need it). My apartment almost empty. I only have queen bed and a little of my clothes left. But, my plan possibly postpone because I can't do this to my family for now. So, I absolutely have to buy everything back which is suck. Keep them in storage is a better idea.
Made4TV
A hopeless hope junkie
- Sep 17, 2018
- 574
Same here. I have the hardest time trying to figure out what to do.
[NoName]
Student
- Nov 15, 2018
- 146
I've given away all the emotionally important things that I didn't need day to day --childhood toys, etc. I know some of the recipients have guessed what I'm up to, but my cover story was good --downsizing with the intent to move into a smaller house-- and so far they haven't caused problems.
The rest of my nice belongings I have labled with colored dots --green and blue for family, red and yellow for friends-- with a letter code (M = mom, etc.), and have made up a key, so that when I'm gone things can be distributed easily. I have also written up a narrative of how to deal with the bulk items --these friends have their pick of my tools, these other friends have their pick of my library.
A formal will will take care of the legally relevant items --bank account, vehicles, property, etc.
I have emptied my dresser and closet and boxed up all my clothes, in such categories as can be easily managed: T-shirts and underwear can be thrown out, shirts and sweaters go to Goodwill, etc.
I have worked as a professional logistical coordinator, so I like making sure all the ducks are in a row. But at a certain point, ending my life is about letting go, acknowledging that I won't be here any more and that I won't have a say in how things are managed. There'll be an emotional mess when I'm gone, and whether my T-shirts get turned into shop rags or tossed into a dumpster will be a pretty minor concern, all things considered.
The rest of my nice belongings I have labled with colored dots --green and blue for family, red and yellow for friends-- with a letter code (M = mom, etc.), and have made up a key, so that when I'm gone things can be distributed easily. I have also written up a narrative of how to deal with the bulk items --these friends have their pick of my tools, these other friends have their pick of my library.
A formal will will take care of the legally relevant items --bank account, vehicles, property, etc.
I have emptied my dresser and closet and boxed up all my clothes, in such categories as can be easily managed: T-shirts and underwear can be thrown out, shirts and sweaters go to Goodwill, etc.
I have worked as a professional logistical coordinator, so I like making sure all the ducks are in a row. But at a certain point, ending my life is about letting go, acknowledging that I won't be here any more and that I won't have a say in how things are managed. There'll be an emotional mess when I'm gone, and whether my T-shirts get turned into shop rags or tossed into a dumpster will be a pretty minor concern, all things considered.
Motherfly
Student
- Oct 24, 2018
- 108
I suggest using a service like 1 800 GOT JUNK?
I work for them and we can empty an appartment or house in an hour or two.
We come, work fast and leave. Its Its really simple. It would cost anywhere between 500$ to 900$.
I suggest referring them to your familly in your note. That's what im gonna do.
If you have any questions, just hit me up.
I work for them and we can empty an appartment or house in an hour or two.
We come, work fast and leave. Its Its really simple. It would cost anywhere between 500$ to 900$.
I suggest referring them to your familly in your note. That's what im gonna do.
If you have any questions, just hit me up.
Thankyou to everyone that has replied. There are some great suggestions there that I hadn't thought of and many things to consider and reconsider. I appreciate it - thankyou everyone. I feel very fortunate to be able to converse with people about these matters in a mature and respectful way.
sadak_the_wanderer
An appropriate painting
- Mar 19, 2018
- 245
I'm not spending too much energy on this. I feel like I don't exactly need to close my Amazon user account and so on. Just going to do the bare minimum.
Made4TV
A hopeless hope junkie
- Sep 17, 2018
- 574
They may catch onto your intentions, friend. Imagine a guy selling almost all his belongings...if you're not terminally ill or moving country, I would be suspicious...just a helpful tip man.
Thanks mate - I meant that I would set it all up before I check out. I would leave a message to someone that would arrive after I'd departed, with details as to my storage location and details. The person would then open up my storage to find everything marked with a destination; either give to a friend or donate to a charity. I would leave cash there so whoever has to do the work can be paid for it.
I see. Sent you a PM or two. Hoping you can get back to me please friend.
