Funeral

[beingzettt]

Have any of you saw or attended a funeral recently? How did you feel seeing the crowd and the loved ones of the gone? How did you feel knowing that you're gonna ctb and the scene would be same just the person laying down would be you and your loved ones surrounding you crying?

 

[Quiet Desperation]

I haven't, no. Most of my extended family is already dead. I am sorry for what it will do to my remaining relatives but I have kept myself alive largely for their benefit for many years already and I'm so, so tired of the pain and loneliness. I know it will hurt them but they will get by. I got a good idea of what the reaction will be during my last attempt.

 

[vinie]

I've been to quite a number of funerals during my lifetime as half of my entire family has already passed away. The thought of having a funeral dedicated to me is very uncomfortable to swallow, hence I do not want one. It is not necessarily the depressing nature of sitting around in dark coats and crying under large umbrellas that makes me sorrowful. The main purpose of funerals is what makes me cringe; honoring one's life and legacy. I haven't done anything great in my life, therefore it shouldn't be honoured by a group of people that give zero shits about it. Therefore, unless my parents want closure, I would rather not have a funeral conducted. But hey, I'll never know because I'll be the dead one this time.

May everyone find peace within <3

 

[PandaExit]

I've not been to many funerals recently. I went to one last year that was for a guy I know who died of alcoholism. It actually really upset me, not because of his death but because I was imagining my husband going through the same as his wife. I carry a lot of guilt about the thought of leaving him alone. We're very co-dependent and I think he would cope badly.

The good thing is that you don't need a funeral if you don't want one. My Mum has prepaid for a cremation without a ceremony. I think that's the way I would go too. I don't think there is a lot to celebrate about my life and I don't have many friends. The thought of having barely anyone at my funeral feels shameful.

 

[Pluto]

Really don't want a funeral. Feels very disingenuous. Nobody has made an effort to visit me or support me when I'm alive, and yet they are all going to sit round pretending to care after I'm gone? Throw the ashes and move on to things/people you actually care about.

 

[FuneralCry]

I have not been to a funeral as I do not know many people. When I am dead, I will be no longer existing. The way people react after my death does not mean anything to me. Funerals are for the living. I do not want a funeral anyway, I just want to be forgotten..

 

[deathLiberation]

Have any of you saw or attended a funeral recently? How did you feel seeing the crowd and the loved ones of the gone? How did you feel knowing that you're gonna ctb and the scene would be same just the person laying down would be you and your loved ones surrounding you crying?

Not recently. I have been to 3.
I notice few people really cry for the dead person, others cry because they see the ones alive crying.
It´s a strong feeling of sadness when is someone from your close family, quite weird.

I hate the mood, i even wrote down my funeral schedule with jazz music and homemade cookies. Hopefully people find that notebook and make it happen.

Here is the worst thing about funerals, the kind of people i call... the vultures.

Some people are just waiting to take away all the material possessions the dead person left. It´s like 100% profit for wtv thing that is left.

Made me turn into a minimalist and quit collecting stuff. Im leaving as close to nothing as i can. The person existence is purely made out of their old possessions and as soon as they are gone, then it´s really over. People like "evaporate" from this plane.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I don't think I've ever been to a funeral.
My family was pretty lazy about celebrating holidays or observing traditional ceremonies and events like these (Part of the reason I'm fucked up I realize – there was always an underlying sub text of total meaninglessness - a Disengagement that was Depressing and alienating)…

I don't need a funeral and I'm sure there wouldn't be especially if I killed myself.

An ignominious finale to an utterly pointless and unaccomplished life.

" He was troubled by mental illness throughout but kept it well hidden beneath a spirit of good humor, generosity, and outgoing sociability."

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

Funerals are boring, I avoid them if possible. I don´t want a funeral, I would like to disappear without a trace.

 

[eternalmelancholy]

My last dying wish is not to have a funeral or burial, just a simple cremation with no one in attendance. But I know my insane parents will use this opportunity to milk as much attention and sympathy as they can. I thought about leaving a will expressing my final arrangements but I know my parents will ignore this. Even in death I will be used as a pawn by them. I know I will be gone and it won't matter in the end but it still pisses me off.

 

[stellabelle]

Have any of you saw or attended a funeral recently? How did you feel seeing the crowd and the loved ones of the gone? How did you feel knowing that you're gonna ctb and the scene would be same just the person laying down would be you and your loved ones surrounding you crying?

Last funeral was a relative. One that "took off" for the same reason many relatives have removed themselves from the toxic family.

I felt empathetic towards the young children who were struggling to cope with grief and left to cry in a corner.

I felt empathetic towards the adult relatives who maintained a relationship with the deceased.

I felt offended by the relatives who used the occasion to gain attention for themselves or search for financial gain rather than grieving for the deceased.

I feel similarly about when a parent died. That the family was greedy, immediately attempted to seek financial or material gain and continued to create problems where they weren't necessary, even going as far as vandalizing a residence in an attempt to make it appear that I had done it. They stole ashes. They stole my possessions. They played their stupid little game. They were enabled to do so.

Because they are shit people where a shit system works for shit people like them.

I do not believe there will be "loved ones" who care one fucking bit.

The same as what they did throughout my life.

Using leverage to torment me, manipulate me, lying to destroy my happiness, progress, stability, bribing, conning, and being fucked up in general and persisting to make themselves seem superior to me despite the fact that they are shallow, materialistic, cruel, narcissistic, and rotten to a core.

There's ONE person who would be "bothered" by it. Who IS bothered by it. They KNOW I am struggling to find inner peace. I know they WANT to help, they WANT me to see a "brighter outcome." Maybe a few people do.

But I'm just so angry and dead inside because of the shit people did and continued to do, just to create distress and a sense of worthlessness.

Nobody needs to cry or grieve for my final departure whenever it may be. They will carry on with their cruel laughter and materialistic ways for their "entertainment" and shitshow.

 

[rationalis]

Worst case I would like to be privately cremated, best case body never found.

 

[Rational man]

Have any of you saw or attended a funeral recently? How did you feel seeing the crowd and the loved ones of the gone? How did you feel knowing that you're gonna ctb and the scene would be same just the person laying down would be you and your loved ones surrounding you crying?

Not recently. Since ive disowned my family, im having a direct funeral( bag and flamed)./Only my executor will be present. Why would i care afterwards. When you're dead you'd be gone. Most funerals ive seen are false tears.

 

[beingzettt]

Last funeral was a relative. One that "took off" for the same reason many relatives have removed themselves from the toxic family.

I felt empathetic towards the young children who were struggling to cope with grief and left to cry in a corner.

I felt empathetic towards the adult relatives who maintained a relationship with the deceased.

I felt offended by the relatives who used the occasion to gain attention for themselves or search for financial gain rather than grieving for the deceased.

I feel similarly about when a parent died. That the family was greedy, immediately attempted to seek financial or material gain and continued to create problems where they weren't necessary, even going as far as vandalizing a residence in an attempt to make it appear that I had done it. They stole ashes. They stole my possessions. They played their stupid little game. They were enabled to do so.

Because they are shit people where a shit system works for shit people like them.

I do not believe there will be "loved ones" who care one fucking bit.

The same as what they did throughout my life.

Using leverage to torment me, manipulate me, lying to destroy my happiness, progress, stability, bribing, conning, and being fucked up in general and persisting to make themselves seem superior to me despite the fact that they are shallow, materialistic, cruel, narcissistic, and rotten to a core.

There's ONE person who would be "bothered" by it. Who IS bothered by it. They KNOW I am struggling to find inner peace. I know they WANT to help, they WANT me to see a "brighter outcome." Maybe a few people do.

But I'm just so angry and dead inside because of the shit people did and continued to do, just to create distress and a sense of worthlessness.

Nobody needs to cry or grieve for my final departure whenever it may be. They will carry on with their cruel laughter and materialistic ways for their "entertainment" and shitshow.

Those people will never ever be happy not in this life time, even during their last breath they wont go happily. They will be born again and chase material things, die miserably then born again and attract to material thing, born again and the cycle will go on. There is a special place for people who lived happily without any materialistic attraction and after their death they will attain moksha.

Sorry for bad grammar english is not my first language

 

[stellabelle]

Those people will never ever be happy not in this life time, even during their last breath they wont go happily. They will be born again and chase material things, die miserably then born again and attract to material thing, born again and the cycle will go on. There is a special place for people who lived happily without any materialistic attraction and after their death they will attain moksha.

Sorry for bad grammar english is not my first language

No need to apologize.
Your response is clear and easily understood.

 

[rationaltake]

My last dying wish is not to have a funeral or burial, just a simple cremation with no one in attendance. But I know my insane parents will use this opportunity to milk as much attention and sympathy as they can. I thought about leaving a will expressing my final arrangements but I know my parents will ignore this. Even in death I will be used as a pawn by them. I know I will be gone and it won't matter in the end but it still pisses me off.

I don't know where you are. In the UK I am in the process of making a will and have been surprised at how easy it is. I have asked for direct cremation which means no attendance. I have appointed the solicitor as my executor. Family would not be able to override this. I am also saying that I have intentionally left nothing to family so that they couldn't contest the will. Though I have long since lost contact with family you never know!

 

[ClownMe]

I attended a virtual one recently for a family member that I didn't even know, I can't stand funerals, there's too much virtue signalling at them and it doesn't seem to me like a fitting enough tribute for suffering all those years on this earth. I'm going to request that I don't have a funeral, but I guess it won't matter, I won't be around to see it.