Funeral

[Avicii]

I know we're all considering suicide but has anyone stopped and thought about their funeral ?? I know Laura Francis our up a post about going to the FD to organise her own I wonder if she went through with it ?? @laurafrancis ??

I've beeb pricing some today emailed some FD's to ask then do they do instalment plans as your looking at £4K just under for a platinum which covers most things including 2 funeral cars on top of the hearse obviously

I mean if I go after my parents then I want a direct cremation plan prices at the sensible price if £1195

 

[Soul]

Here's the thread I think you were referring to:

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/has-anyone-else-planned-their-funeral.17895/

Some of us might also want to consider more natural/eco-friendly styles:

What Is A Woodland Burial? | Natural Burial & Green Funerals | Funeral Guide

Everything you need to know about woodland burial, finding a natural burial ground and arranging a green funeral for your loved one.

www.funeralzone.co.uk

 

[Deleted member 1496]

@laurafrancis ??

Do you mean "Lara Francis"? Though I don't know how this site parses to @someone with a space in their username.

 

[Brainpain]

I have made it extremely clear I want no funeral service or burial. I hope my family respects that. They can do their own memorial or whatever but don't waste a damn cent on me. Throw me in the crematorium and scatter me into a body of water. Or a ditch. Whatever. I have also made it very clear I wish to have my body donated to medical research unfortunately after looking into it I found out they don't take suicides. I may be an asshole, but I have no desire to donate organs, just my corpse.

 

[21Neberg]

I have written in my note that I don't care where they bury or burn me, I don't even care if they dump the useless body in the sea, I just don't want anybody to be there except closest family members.

 

[DrgsorSH]

I have also made it very clear I wish to have my body donated to medical research unfortunately after looking into it I found out they don't take suicides. I may be an asshole, but I have no desire to donate organs, just my corpse.

Wait what the frack ? Why wouldn't they take suicides ?

 

[oopswronglife]

Wait what the frack ? Why wouldn't they take suicides ?

Yeah need some clarification here as well since that is in my legal documents as what I want done since I refuse to pay 4 figures to burn up a corpse. That's absolute robbery and a final insult in my view. Hoping the refusal is not a fact and rather something they say to try and discourage people, while actually accepting the body at the end of the day.

 

[Brainpain]

Wait what the frack ? Why wouldn't they take suicides ?

Not sure why but my local research university's whole body donation program has a ton of exclusions including death by suicide or bodies that's have been dead longer than 8 hours without refrigeration. Maybe check with your local program. Others may be different.

 

[KnightBlade]

My bucket list:

1. I would prefer not to have a funeral or an ad in the paper; and
2. I want to be cremated and my ashes spread in the Mississippi River near Memphis, Tennessee, my hometown.

The idea of my coworkers and family members coming to gawk over my corpse makes me physically ill. I have expressed this in a number of conversations with my family and closest friends. All I can hope for is that someone follows my wishes. My mother will likely skimp as much as possible so she can keep as much of the proceeds from my life insurance policy as she can.

Anyway, I will be dead and will have no say-so in the matter. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. People put on their finery to wail and moan in an attempt to assuage their guilt for how they treated the deceased for about an hour. Afterwards, they go somewhere to feed their faces and gossip about the other attendees as the deceased fades from view and memory. Ugh...even if there were an afterlife and I could attend as an apparition, I still would not be interested in attending.

 

[Brainpain]

Yeah need some clarification here as well since that is in my legal documents as what I want done since I refuse to pay 4 figures to burn up a corpse. That's absolute robbery and a final insult in my view. Hoping the refusal is not a fact and rather something they say to try and discourage people, while actually accepting the body at the end of the day.

This is off Ottawa's whole Body donation program (I do not live in Ottawa but my local one says something similar)

Although bodies donated to the University of Ottawa are usually accepted, the Division of Clinical and Functional Anatomy reserves the right to refuse a body. This decision is seriously considered, but in certain circumstances it is not possible to accept a body; therefore, we recommend that suitable alternative arrangements be made prior to death.
Some of the possible reasons for refusal of a body include:

• Contagious disease
• Death by accident involving major trauma, or by suicide
• A body upon which an autopsy has been performed
• Space limitation in the Anatomy Division
• If organs have been removed for transplantation. The sole exception is the eyes – we will accept bodies from which the eyes have been donated. Please contact the Trillium Gift of Life Network at 1-877-363-8456 for more information.

...I do wonder if it's to discourage suicides. Makes no sense because there's no issue with donating organs to a recipient - maybe check with your local research facility that takes donations.

 

[oopswronglife]

Really I am find with just being chucked in the bin or composted etc. But it seems there has to be one last price gouge to send you off. Yay capitalism!

 

[TimeToDie]

Some of the possible reasons for refusal of a body include:

• Death by accident involving major trauma, or by suicide
• A body upon which an autopsy has been performed

...I do wonder if it's to discourage suicides. Makes no sense because there's no issue with donating organs to a recipient - maybe check with your local research facility that takes donations.

Even if they didn't exclude suicides specifically, most suicides would be ruled out for other reasons listed such as an autopsy which is standard to make sure it's not a murder staged to look like a suicide. Major trauma would seem to rule out the 51% of American suicides that are by gun, plus any other violent methods.

I doubt it's to discourage suicide since who says "Gee, I guess I'll just have to live since I can't donate my body."

When my mother died (of old age) I had to arrange her cremation. The government even fucks you if you get cremated, charging a $300 fee. Yes, they even tax death!

 

[Person]

Possibly an unpopular opinion here, but I've planned out the basics of my funeral and left money aside for it. But I'm leaving everything else upto my parents.
I do this not out of selfishness, but out of love.
I organised, arranged and paid for my husbands funeral. The financial side was an absolute pain. But being able to chose his final outfit, some of his favourite music, the route the hearse would take, writing a speech, ect was my honour. I was able to express my love and devotion for him one last time. It was a painful but cathartic experience that I was grateful for, given the circumstances.
I know many people here feel like no one loves or cares about them, therefore no one would put any effort into the funeral. But for those that do have parents/friends that care, it can be quite a comforting experience, in a sense. Just my thoughts

 

[Avicii]

Assuming the top reason for not being able to accept your body for medical science is if it has to have a coroner look over it and so assume this means suicide

 

[Superfluous]

Do you mean "Lara Francis"? Though I don't know how this site parses to @someone with a space in their username.

If done correctly (type '@'+username and select from dropdown list), BB code.

 

[Jessica5]

Wait what the frack ? Why wouldn't they take suicides ?

So I guess the movie 7 Pounds is completely implausible?

Anyway, I don't find this that surprising. Companies don't want people killing themselves just to donate organs. It's terrible PR.

 

[catwalk]

I don't think about what happens after I die, it doesn't really matter that much to me

 

[Dead beat dad]

I'm dead I'm dead, I don't give a shit I'm buggered to dust by horny necrophiliacs

 

[Pilum Muralis]

Husband and I are Orthodox, and have plots in an Orthodox monastery cemetery. The coffins are handmade by the monks, and is just a plain pine box. No frills. We really have no friends, and I don't have close family anymore, so my funeral will be short and sweet, at graveside, and performed by monks. Then every year, on the day I died, they perform a service for the departed called a Trisagion at my grave. It's hokey, but at the same time, comforting to me.

 

[inconsequential]

I don't want a funeral, because I don't want a bunch of humans pretending to care just because I am dead.

 

[KnightBlade]

I don't want a funeral, because I don't want a bunch of humans pretending to care just because I am dead.

Hear, hear! Totally agree! Plus, my mother will make my funeral a spectacle with her narcissism — all eyes have got to be on her! I cringe at the thought. Thankfully, I won't be there to witness it.

 

[Alchemist]

I couldn't care less about that, it's not like I'm going to see it. Honestly speaking, whatever happens after my death is not my concern, but I heard that funerals are compulsory by law which is dumb.

 

[marconk]

I just don't want anybody to be there except closest family members.

I feel the same, I'm not sure why though

 

[Stan]

I have asked those that could claim my body not to, it then becomes the responsibility of the local borough to provide a funeral which people could attend if they wanted. I will be asking for direct to cremation but have a feeling that won't happen if an autopsy is performed. Its a shame as in some countries there is a tradition of dead on day 1, funeral day 2. I would have preferred it if it was that quick

 

[LastFlowers]

I would like to make a request in whatever I leave behind to opt out of a funeral. No wake, no funeral. No "celebration of life" dinner (I had no life). I don't even want an announcement made in the papers.
It helps to alleviate any hassles of who I do and don't want attending and who I would even want to know of my passing.
There is no one I'm leaving behind who I feel deserves the funeral aspect of the grieving process anyways, besides maybe my mother. (And I definitely don't want nonfamily outsiders there who slip in courtesy of whatever relative.) No one has shown care or interest for over a decade now.

It's not like it's even for the dead person, it ends up being for the ones left behind. Sometimes people use it to garner their own sympathy or to show off (some display of talent disguised as a tribute to the dead). No thank you!
As a child I used to imagine funerals like leaving this world in an open casket, under the stars with flower petals in the hair and beautiful music playing. But there is nothing beautiful about me and I'm requesting to be cremated immediately. I'm just going to have to accept that I won't be having a nice sending off (even though I'm not going anywhere but the stark, empty nothingness) just as I've had to reluctantly accept that my life ended before it began.