Fuck therapy

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After 1,5 years of therapy, I'm giving up. It opened my eyes to some things, but it's been completely useless for my OCD.

I'm angry at my therapist. I kept giving this another chances, but it's just bullshit. She's just taking my sweet money with a smile.

What are your experiences with therapy?

 

[deathisnear]

Therapy was a fucking waste for me, didn't help at all. They don't really care, they just make a lot of money. Only one thing will bring me the peace I need CTB

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I did 25 years of therapy and antidepressants and it was useless

 

[abyss]

I haven't found counsellors/psychologists much use. But I think I need DBT therapy and maybe CBT too instead of sitting and talking about my childhood for 45 mins and it going nowhere. Need to re-wire and re-train my brain to stop being self-destructive but it's too late.

 

[dirtnap]

I tried therapy throughout my life, sometimes it was comforting just to have someone listen to me, especially during isolation periods of my life but often times talking about my issues seemed to depress me more. I never received any useful tools on how to manage my depression or learned any helpful coping skills. Just lots of pressure to go on various medications.
Overall it was a waste of time and money.

 

[thebunny]

i used to love the idea of therapy — of getting help. but when i got them, i realised they weren't really helping solve the issue. they're just sedating me so i couldn't feel anything anymore, which is nice for a while but when you want to cry about something at 2 in the morning and you can't? it's hell. so yeah, fuck therapy!

i'm sorry that your experience with therapy didn't work out. i wish you all the best and that you find peace within yourself. hugs

 

[theboy]

I have spent my whole life in psychologists and therapies. Some did help me but I don't know why the f**** I still feel bad. Now, this does not mean that it does not work. The therapies have scientific evidence and testimonials from patients who found light in their lives through professional help. I suppose that the success of a therapy has many variables

 

[waitingforrest]

Therapy is like a paying for someone to pretend to be your friend. You leave feeling empty and your wallet even more so.

And when therapy and meds don't work, the supportive people begin to lose patience and start to blame you for not getting better, but there is only so much coping, meds, and treatment interventions a person can take before they start to fall apart.
Therapy is great and all, but it's no replacement for the childhood you missed out on, the friends you wished you had, the family that you wanted.

 

[chloramine]

I've actually had a pretty good experience so far. I got really lucky with my therapist though, which is the biggest factor. She doesn't think people should be forced to stay alive against their will and is really honest with me about if she doesn't have an answer. I do feel like it's helped in some ways. Not all of them are things I have words to describe. I still want to die and might, but that's not something I feel I have to hide beyond if I make concrete plans (I wouldn't want to place her in a legally tough spot even if I was willing to say anything). When I said I wasn't comfortable with medication she dropped it and only brought it up again when she was listing more general options to try- I don't feel like she's ever tried to pressure me into anything. Again I understand that I got really lucky and that many people don't find someone like that.

In the past I've had some less great therapists, but I never trusted any of them to the point where they've had the opportunity to hurt me.

Edit to add- good therapists should listen and do more than offer platitudes. They can't solve the problems, but their job is more to guide and help you explore different directions. It's definitely not for everyone and that's okay. Different people can also get different things out of it. A bad therapist is in the position to do a lot of damage so unfortunately it's important to be careful and assess- don't be afraid to get out if something is wrong or sketchy.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I've actually had a pretty good experience so far. I got really lucky with my therapist though, which is the biggest factor. She doesn't think people should be forced to stay alive against their will and is really honest with me about if she doesn't have an answer. I do feel like it's helped in some ways. Not all of them are things I have words to describe. I still want to die and might, but that's not something I feel I have to hide beyond if I make concrete plans (I wouldn't want to place her in a legally tough spot even if I was willing to say anything). When I said I wasn't comfortable with medication she dropped it and only brought it up again when she was listing more general options to try- I don't feel like she's ever tried to pressure me into anything. Again I understand that I got really lucky and that many people don't find someone like that.

In the past I've had some less great therapists, but I never trusted any of them to the point where they've had the opportunity to hurt me.

Edit to add- good therapists should listen and do more than offer platitudes. They can't solve the problems, but their job is more to guide and help you explore different directions. It's definitely not for everyone and that's okay. Different people can also get different things out of it. A bad therapist is in the position to do a lot of damage so unfortunately it's important to be careful and assess- don't be afraid to get out if something is wrong or sketchy.

Kind of unrelated but what are the expenses like for you? Are they good, in your area and stuff like that?

 

[Euthanza]

I live in most religious country, all psychiatrists and psychologists here are 99,99% religious. So, no therapy or consulting for me, even though I'd like to try scientific based evidence therapy, I doubt there's any but only unproven claim, much like every pseudoscience claims science.

 

[chloramine]

Kind of unrelated but what are the expenses like for you? Are they good, in your area and stuff like that?

It's $150 a session which is a little pricy, but I have a decent amount of cash saved up from when I was able to work, so it's something I can afford for now. I don't think I'd be able to justify doing it weekly though (we do once every two weeks).

 

[WhatPowerIs]

It's $150 a session which is a little pricy, but I have a decent amount of cash saved up from when I was able to work, so it's something I can afford for now. I don't think I'd be able to justify doing it weekly though (we do once every two weeks).

I would go myself if it wasn't so costly (and I had a means of going).

 

[Lily (Osako)]

I've never had a therapist actually make much of a difference.
Sometimes it felt good just to get whatever it was out of my system, but there was never really any getting better. Just a temporary reprieve from whatever I had bottled up inside.

 

[chloramine]

I would go myself if it wasn't so costly (and I had a means of going).

I know the price is hard to deal with. There are sliding scale options and stuff, but those tend to have huge wait lists. In terms of the place I actually book a study room at libraries and do it online. As an idea if that's more accessible to you? I know it isn't necessarily and it definitely has its own problems (it's uncomfortable and anxiety due to privacy concerns- although I downloaded a white noise app and that's helped some). Also even if that did help the money part is harder to fix. The shortage of therapists exacerbates everything too. Hopefully one day it's more accessible and helpful to people on a wider scale.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

I know the price is hard to deal with. There are sliding scale options and stuff, but those tend to have huge wait lists. In terms of the place I actually book a study room at libraries and do it online. As an idea if that's more accessible to you? I know it isn't necessarily and it definitely has its own problems (it's uncomfortable and anxiety due to privacy concerns- although I downloaded a white noise app and that's helped some). Also even if that did help the money part is harder to fix. The shortage of therapists exacerbates everything too. Hopefully one day it's more accessible and helpful to people on a wider scale.

Thanks for the advice genuinely. I will try and keep all of this in mind.

 

[brokensea]

I had a terrible experience with my last therapist. It was the first time I'd gone to therapy in 10 years. Our therapy ended a little under 3 weeks ago.

Told him I was depressed and suicidal our first session.

He said a lot of things that he would be here to support me. I didn't have to feel all these things alone. That I could trust him. I could tell him anything. He was even texting me on a daily basis.

I felt a small tiny pea sized bit of hope in my heart.

I had just left an abusive relationship that involved someone lying, misleading me then abandoning me, ruining my chances to ever have children, which increased me being suicidal a lot and had made an attempt already.

I was seeing my therapist virtually. So after a couple of months he says I am too suicidal still and he could lose his license if he continues to see me virtually and I need to see someone in person or go to an inpatient clinic.

I said I am too depressed and can't drive a lot of days which is why I needed virtual therapy in the first place. And I wasn't going to inpatient to be away from my job at home I'd get fired at. He insisted this was what was best for me. I said it's not what's best for me you're leaving me with no support at all because I can't do those things and after promising to be here for me how can I even trust another therapist after this.

He just ended therapy and I was bawling, upset, so angry I was lied to again.

I looked up it isn't true at all he can't see me virtually if I'm suicidal. I did nothing to him. I'll never know why he did this to me and crushed me and left me with no real support to go die.

I cried for 2 days straight. I'm so depressed now even more than before and mostly feel completely dead and emotionless most of the time now.

I could not handle another betrayal from someone else. Someone being controlling and telling me what's best for me and abandoning me.

It's like he didn't even care if I died. He just didn't want to deal with it.

 

[4390101]

my therapist is not working either but i have no clue how to tell her that and to request a therapist chage, i could see another therapist without telling her but i don't have that kind of money...

 

[[HNO]]

therapy is a joke.
imagine paying lots of money that could be spend on healthy food at least per 1 session of one sided chat w/ person who never suffered from any mental illness but anyway knows better, for: 'just clean ur room bro, just take small steps before moving further. just read this book about depression bro'', then at the end they handle prescriptions on drugs you can't even overdose on(antipsychotics+SSRI's). i took this quack poison at developmental age and now i count on my brain structured abnormally so autism and hellish OCD following independently of whether take i'm meds or don't and these drugs literally do nothing with it except make sleepy while i'm already suffering from daily somnolence without meds usage and turning fat, as theirs action causes carbohydrate crave for real.

 

[Szinuus]

I also benefit nothing from it. It helps nothing to cope with my chronic pain.

 

[hamvil]

I did 25 years of therapy and antidepressants and it was useless

I am so scared of spending the rest of my life on anti-depressants which just make me do one wrong choice after the other.

 

[MessedUp.]

After 1,5 years of therapy, I'm giving up. It opened my eyes to some things, but it's been completely useless for my OCD.

I'm angry at my therapist. I kept giving this another chances, but it's just bullshit. She's just taking my sweet money with a smile.

What are your experiences with therapy?

Idk what i think of therapy, its nice to have a therapist to vent to but sometimes i still have the feeling that they dont get it, and iguess im right cause they really wont get it cause they werent there when things happened yk, im lost in my own world with a life which feels like as if its not even mine

 

[FadeOut]

I haven't found counsellors/psychologists much use. But I think I need DBT therapy and maybe CBT too instead of sitting and talking about my childhood for 45 mins and it going nowhere. Need to re-wire and re-train my brain to stop being self-destructive but it's too late.

I might consider CBT therapy in the future. I got fed up with "let's talk about everything BUT your real problem, because when we solve this mythical emotional issue that neither of us has a clue what it is, then you will magically stop washing your hands 15273837 times a day".

I tried therapy throughout my life, sometimes it was comforting just to have someone listen to me, especially during isolation periods of my life but often times talking about my issues seemed to depress me more. I never received any useful tools on how to manage my depression or learned any helpful coping skills. Just lots of pressure to go on various medications.
Overall it was a waste of time and money.

Hey, I also never really got useful coping strategies, I had to nag my therapist about it and she came up with something really abstract or just told me to do stress relief techniques from YouTube

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

To be fair, therapy can be useful if you have a particular issue that you're working on… I Had never fallen in love and my therapist helped me learn how to feel my feelings… Only problem is I fell in Love with somebody who ended up taking advantage of me and betraying me and basically ruining my life but I can't blame my therapist for that… Therapists are simply human beings and if you find a human being with extraordinary wisdom and you can afford it… by All means…
beware antidepressants… Also useful but they are drugs… They can paste over a real problems and allow you to feel good when maybe you shouldn't…

 

[wait.what]

I've had fairly good luck with therapy. It's certainly been more useful to me than psyche meds ever were.

 

[Superdeterminist]

It's completely useless