"Friend" thinks my attempts are manipulative

[DyingToDie123]

I'm in an ongoing conversation with a former friend and it's infuriating.

They said a lot of things but the thing that gets me most is that, they said that with every attempt I make, I'm actively sending the message that if people don't reach out/intervene, I will kill myself, and it's their fault, and that this is manipulative of me.

What I said in response:
- Of course I'm only going to try to kill myself when other people aren't engaging, why would I do it in front of people? That would be cruel, and stupid.
- Sure, if you want to take blame for my ctb, go ahead, but don't assume that I'm blaming you. The fuck?
- Manipulative assumes that I'm trying to get something from them out of my attempt which just factually isn't true, I've attempted plenty of times and have gotten nothing out of it from anybody any time so that would be idiotic of me.

People these days

 

[Saturn_]

Therapy speak and pop psychology are a plague on our society.

 

[painoflife]

So they are making your desire to cbt all about them and you're the manipulative one?
Something isn't adding up here...
Glad you say it's a former friend as that sounds like somebody you shouldn't even bother with anymore. A friend would offer support (not necessarily for your decision to cbt) and not judge you for it.

 

[anhedonya]

I'm so sorry that your ex friend said this to you. You are not manipulative for being in pain and trying to hurt yourself. Like Saturn_ said, these new ways of talking are so awful for our society. Nobody is allowed to have an attempt anymore, that's manipulative because you should've just communicated what you wanted. But if you communicate what you want, you're needy and asking too much emotional labor from people. If you don't get better quickly, then you're dragging the people around you down and insert here all the stuff people say about how they're allowed to drop their friends for being too depressing to handle or whatever.

It's just so messed up. I really wish you had people that understood and wanted to help you. I can't imagine what you've gone through with the court stuff and then being viewed this way by people who are supposed to care about you. I don't think you're manipulative, for what its worth. I don't think anything you have done in the past few weeks has benefitted you or given you what you were looking for, thus, it's the exact opposite of manipulativeness, as you said. You gain nothing. And why is wanting people to reach out so bad? We're supposed to check in on our friends and care about their ills.

 

[socrates]

OMG the projection. They are one trying to manipulate you. They are doing a crap job, but still.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

It's so presumptuous for them to assume that your ctb attempt is because of them. They're not the center of your world