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killerwhale

killerwhale

New Member
Jan 31, 2026
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hey. new to posting on here kinda nervous :)

i have been sh-ing by burning myself with matches for the last six or seven years of my life. i've never truly been interested in stopping because i don't see an issue with it. it's an outlet for me, it doesn't hurt anyone else, and it calms me down so i don't do anything worse. it isn't something i do for attention so most people don't really know about it. plus it doesnt threaten my life, and even though i've had scars since when i very first started, they are small and relatively easy to hide where my underwear cover.

i've known lots of cutters but never any burners, and especially not with matches lol. it was just what i had available back when i was a kid living with strict parents.

i was in therapy / getting medical attention for a while (i don't have the energy for it anymore) and i just always felt so belittled and invalid because i don't cut, and because my sh isn't visible when im fully clothed.

i think i just want to feel less alone in this if there's anyone who can relate, or maybe i just needed to put this out in the world.
 
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Cyc

It's my fight.
Jan 22, 2026
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I can relate. I stopped self harming because I didn't want people to find out, it used to be my main emotional outlet

I used to mainly cut with whatever i could find, whether it be knives or blades, as well as burning myself with a hair straightener

It's sad how other forms of self harm are often invalidated unless they're life threatening :(
 

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