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DuplicateFeline
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- Jun 18, 2024
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My boyfriend wants to buy me a new a tattoo. I'm not talking about something small, he wants to buy me an entire sleeve, which will cost several thousand dollars. I have found that there are three opinions about this:
1) Take what I can get. He has $30,000 in his checking account, and several hundred in both his savings and retirement fund. This is flawed because I intend to catch the bus in less than two months and even getting a consultation could take that long or longer. Is the tattoo sleeve I've always wanted worth living for? Because I have a date set, and I will not be around to have it finished
2) Someone told me that I should be almost insulted at the idea. I don't have a job, a car, or any significant income. How come he couldn't spend that on keeping me alive? I need groceries! I need to live in somewhere that isn't falling apart at the seams! The place I live in right now has a crazy infestation of gnats, the gutters have fallen off, I spent 10 days in the hospital because my body couldn't tolerate not having a freezer or a stove... But somehow the tattoo sleeve is what he chooses to spend money on??
3) The tattoo should be a reason to stay alive. It is something that I have wanted for years, and the boyfriend is more than happy to provide enough money to make it a reality. So I should take it as a sign that I should keep on going
What are your thoughts? Do you all think that I should stay alive to see the whole tattoo complete, even though it will take so many months and so much money that my boyfriend is happy to provide? Should I refuse because I could use that money to escape my crappy living situation? Should I refuse because I don't intend to live past when we'd have to wait to even get a consultation?
EDIT: I think it might be important to add that we have been dating for 10 years. We aren't married and living together for a multitude of reasons, but it isn't as if my boyfriend of six months is offering this
1) Take what I can get. He has $30,000 in his checking account, and several hundred in both his savings and retirement fund. This is flawed because I intend to catch the bus in less than two months and even getting a consultation could take that long or longer. Is the tattoo sleeve I've always wanted worth living for? Because I have a date set, and I will not be around to have it finished
2) Someone told me that I should be almost insulted at the idea. I don't have a job, a car, or any significant income. How come he couldn't spend that on keeping me alive? I need groceries! I need to live in somewhere that isn't falling apart at the seams! The place I live in right now has a crazy infestation of gnats, the gutters have fallen off, I spent 10 days in the hospital because my body couldn't tolerate not having a freezer or a stove... But somehow the tattoo sleeve is what he chooses to spend money on??
3) The tattoo should be a reason to stay alive. It is something that I have wanted for years, and the boyfriend is more than happy to provide enough money to make it a reality. So I should take it as a sign that I should keep on going
What are your thoughts? Do you all think that I should stay alive to see the whole tattoo complete, even though it will take so many months and so much money that my boyfriend is happy to provide? Should I refuse because I could use that money to escape my crappy living situation? Should I refuse because I don't intend to live past when we'd have to wait to even get a consultation?
EDIT: I think it might be important to add that we have been dating for 10 years. We aren't married and living together for a multitude of reasons, but it isn't as if my boyfriend of six months is offering this
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