Father wants to take me to a doctor to check for medical issues since I am saying no to marriage.

[Parnate]

I have been telling my family again and again that I don't want to get married causes of mental issues . My father yesterday said he wants to take me to a doctor to check for any physical issues as I am saying no to getting married.

 

[j.rez729]

uhh, what country? or if you'd rather not be specific, what region of the world?

 

[Parnate]

uhh, what country? or if you'd rather not be specific, what region of the world?

India

 

[j.rez729]

India

I am so sorry, I hope you find a smart way out of the situation somehow, because that is simply wrong what he's doing.

 

[Tesha]

I remember you posted about your situation quite a while ago. I am so sorry that this is still happening to you.

 

[astr4]

not sure if this is the same with south asian countries but ik my asian parents care a lot about the idea of saving face. do you think you could threaten to shame them somehow, if they keep pushing? of course if you're worried about them being violent, that could make things worse… idk, it's such a shitty situation, garbage that parents can do this to their own children.

 

[MetroPunk]

Praying for you from the U.S. This is not good at all. I'm sorry my friend. :/

 

[j.rez729]

not sure if this is the same with south asian countries but ik my asian parents care a lot about the idea of saving face. do you think you could threaten to shame them somehow, if they keep pushing? of course if you're worried about them being violent, that could make things worse… idk, it's such a shitty situation, garbage that parents can do this to their own children.

yeah i don't think honor killings are a thing in India, are they? hopefully not at least.

 

[astr4]

yeah i don't think honor killings are a thing in India, are they? hopefully not at least.

oh no i have bad news for you chief… wikipedia is telling me they are doesn't surprise me, i had desi friends growing up who mentioned the expectation of an arranged marriage, and we were all living in a western country too. those kinds of cultures that trade their children like cattle are always the ones with the honour killings, it's so scary. even in the usa and the uk you hear these stories about how the daughter married someone of a different ethnicity so the family will kill her. the world is so awful and cruel sometimes.

 

[yowai]

Im so sorry, women have it so shitty in India. Best option would be to save some money and leave the country if your parents are too stubborn to change their minds. Maybe there are some organizations that could help, some feminist ones, I don't know... I'd feel so trapped if I were in that situation

 

[Tesha]

I haven't rechecked the poster's history, but from (my admittedly poor) memory he's male and there are sexuality reasons behind the need to avoid being married. But, I may have miscalled this (apologies if I have).

 

[Parnate]

Actually my father is concerned how I will spend my life alone and also many people are approaching him with prospective brides .