Father called my mother a coward for shooting herself and speaks badly of her to me

[Tkmiz_Tsukumizu]

My father got drunk a few nights ago after finally meeting him and getting to know him and first time in my life over the last year told me my mother was a cowardly bitch for killing herself. I'm really disappointed and angry considering never speaking to him again is this a bit over dramatic. He was never around most of my life ever and dislikes my mom cause of custody issues I dont want to lose him as my father so I didn't say anything back in defense of her but I feel guilty over it

 

[rs929]

I would stand up for her. But without confrontation. I don't know the story but obviously your mother was in pain. Maybe try to explain that, but without high hopes. Maybe plant a seed in his mind that actually she wasn't a coward bitch. But not having high hopes the tree grows.
Sounds like a middle point between never speaking to him again and just go along with it without saying anything

 

[spiderlily]

I'm sorry you had to hear those words from someone you hoped to act as a father figure. I don't think you are being over dramatic--but if you are still on the fence about it, I would consider bringing it up when he's sober. While being under the influence is no excuse, it's not clear where those words stem from. Maybe like rs929 said, stand up for her and plant a seed, but without high expectations. He doesn't have to like your mother, but a win to me would be acknowledging your mother's pain.

 

[Tkmiz_Tsukumizu]

I'm going to try and speak to him about it and see if we can fix it

 

[WornOutLife]

Many people think individuals who ctb are cowards. I think the opposite: they are the bravest ones. Your mom was very brave.

 

[rs929]

Many people think individuals who ctb are cowards. I think the opposite: they are the bravest ones. Your mom was very brave.

I agree that overcoming SI and doing it requires bravery, but the belief that suicide is the only way out might be false, and temporary.

 

[WornOutLife]

I agree that overcoming SI and doing it requires bravery, but the belief that suicide is the only way out might be false, and temporary.

I never said CTB is the only way out. Well, maybe for some people it is.
I believe there are some other paths you can take. That's why I'm trying to live again. However, this is probably the last chance I'll give to life.

 

[rs929]

I never said CTB is the only way out. Well, maybe for some people it is.
I believe there are some other paths you can take. That's why I'm trying to live again. However, this is probably the last chance I'll give to life.

I know where you come from, but out of context your message could sound like the "cowards commit suicide" fallacy, but the other way around, "cowards go on and live their lives".
If I were FixThe26 I would capture your post and say "see? they glorify suicide!" lol
I think both going against your SI and taking your own life - and on the other hand rebuilding your life from ruins, require courage and bravery.

 

[WornOutLife]

I know where you come from, but out of context your message could sound like the "cowards commit suicide" fallacy, but the other way around, "cowards go on and live their lives".
If I were FixThe26 I would capture your post and say "see? they glorify suicide!" lol
I think both going against your SI and taking your own life - and on the other hand rebuilding your life from ruins, require courage and bravery.

haha you've got a point there!
I bet those fixthe26 will take a screenshot soon!