Family pressuring me to get married but I am gay and closeted

[Parnate]

I am closeted gay male, 30 from India. I have avpd, anxiety , depression . I have slightly recovered. My family knows about my mental issues . They are pressuring me to get married to a girl they found via relatives, we have arranged marriages here in India . I have told them I can't get married cause of mental issues , I told them that I want to stay unmarried, but they are pressuring me so much. I can't come out cause I am very uncomfortable about my orientation.
Please help me, please suggest ideas how to avoid this.

 

[juna]

I am so sorry you are in that position. You have no choice but only one, stand up for what you believe in, say No, it is not their life. You will be alone and judged, but if you can go through that dark period of your life, you will be free at-least from that issue forever.

 

[-Link-]

I'm sorry you feel this uncomfortableness with your sexuality.

Personally, I'm bisexual, and I had an awful time struggling to bring myself around to opening up about it with my family. One of the reasons for this was because I too was uncomfortable with myself. To this day, I haven't fully shaken that uneasiness about it. I eventually did tell my family, but it was one of the most difficult things I've ever done in my life. And this was the situation without the added pressures that you're alluding to here, so I know you must be dealing with something awful in your struggle with this.

For yourself, as long as the whole truth isn't an option, I would just stick to the story you're telling them and be unwavering about it. "I'm too unwell to handle a relationship or marriage right now." This is a perfectly reasonable explanation, especially with AvPD being a central issue as AvPD can be an extreme disruptor in forming and maintaining relationships of any kind.

Or as @juna said, you could just flat-out tell them "no" and leave it at that. But if you're concerned about any conflicts resulting from that approach, then I would just keep to the story you're telling them.

 

[AuroraB]

JUST SAY NO. Can you take a job overseas?