Failed attempt, and ruined friendships

[Last_sunset]

I have an event currently on, I can't leave and it goes for days. One of the people that I'm with for the majority of the time used to be one of my closest friend. And I was planning on CTB before this event but i couldn't Because of SI. And I can't cope idk how to deal with this I cant sh because it's to hot to wear long sleeves and I have mud activities. The supervisor of the event have noticed the issue or tension whatever it is between me and that previous friend, and are making it even more stressful. I can't fix the friendship mainly because I just can't and don't know how. But also if I do the I have to ruin it again to CTB after the event. What should I do?

 

[MetroPunk]

I apologize, I have a response for you but could you please tell me what SI is? I can't relocate the abbreviation page on here.

 

[Shadows From Hell]

I apologize, I have a response for you but could you please tell me what SI is? I can't relocate the abbreviation page on here.

SI= Survival Instinct

 

[MetroPunk]

oh duh. Sorry. If you're in a moment of extreme stress, I cut everything out that I can cut out and focus on what I need to in order to get myself out of the situation. If you're at this event, maybe just focus on only the event and try not to even think about your friend being there. Or just fake it, fake it, fake it, be as civil with your friend as possible when you have to be around them and get away from them when you can. As for the sleeves thing, you're trying to hide cuts?
can you explain what the event is a bit more I'm not sure I'm understanding exactly what you're going through right now but I would like to understand.

 

[easypeasy]

I have an event currently on, I can't leave and it goes for days. One of the people that I'm with for the majority of the time used to be one of my closest friend. And I was planning on CTB before this event but i couldn't Because of SI. And I can't cope idk how to deal with this I cant sh because it's to hot to wear long sleeves and I have mud activities. The supervisor of the event have noticed the issue or tension whatever it is between me and that previous friend, and are making it even more stressful. I can't fix the friendship mainly because I just can't and don't know how. But also if I do the I have to ruin it again to CTB after the event. What should I do?

My advice is to
1. Focus on the next right thing…the next physical/practical/logical next move.
2. Align yourself with another person or stranger, perhaps a female if you find their energy more calming…or the opposite if that's better.
3. Take any opportunities that arise to accept help, feel better, take a rest. Any windows of relief you are presented with….use them.
4. Focus on the new skills you are learning at this event.

 

[Tig]

Or just fake it, fake it, fake it, be as civil with your friend as possible

Fake it till you make it.
There's no shame in being civil, even if your not friends anymore.
Don't worry about what other think, just be you, just be yourself.

 

[dontwakemeup]

Can I ask why you 2 aren't friends anymore? Of you're OK with sharing?

 

[Last_sunset]

can you explain what the event is a bit more I'm not sure I'm understanding exactly what you're going through right now but I would like to understand.

Essentially it's a very big event country wide. And goes on for 10 days but including the trip there, and back, 12.
Everyday you have to eat with everyone, your expected to sit with them in free time. Throughout the day you have different activities and things to do in a group, and overnight you have to sleep in the same room as 5-7 other people. Unfortunately I'm in the same room and group as this person.

Can I ask why you 2 aren't friends anymore? Of you're OK with sharing?

yeah, it's okay, thanks for asking.
There are two main reasons for not being their friend. 1. They're happier when I'm not there, and whenever I'm nearby they usually.. aren't happy? Idk if it's annoyed, angry, or sad.
2. I want them to hate me and not care when I CTB. Because previously they have threatened to do that as well if I do.

Thanks for responding:) I didn't think anyone would, and thanks for the advice.