Venting "Everybody is good at something."

[Monolithian]

I'm so sick of hearing it. It's a fantasy land delusion that everybody is good at something. Some people don't contribute anything, aren't good at anything, don't fit into this cute little idea that everybody has a purpose or a talent or a skill.

I have no skills. No talents. I'm not good at anything. Everything I try to do, I'm bad at. It's gotten to the point I don't want to try new things. I don't even want to engage in old things because I am so, so sick of feeling inadequate. I am inadequate. Inferior. Useless. A waste of space. People tell me constantly I'm too hard on myself, but I'm not. I'm sorry I happen to be realistic and not sugarcoat my own shortcomings. It's not a mindset, and it's not a delusion. I'm genuinely just fucking useless.

And I'm so, so tired of feeling this way. I want it to end. I will never be anyone or achieve anything. I will never be able to justify the air I breathe. I hate myself so much, it's unbearable.

I don't even have a right to feel this way. I have a boyfriend, I love him very much. I feel guilty and horrible for saying these things and worse for never being able to tell him about it, but I'm not his responsibility and I don't want to be too much. So I just have to sit here and hate the person he loves in silence.

 

[RainyDays]

I relate to this... I feel worthless

Everything I try to do, I'm bad at, too. I just can't do anything right. If you need to talk, I'm here

 

[Pluto]

 

[♡Sayori_Kinnie♡]

This is VERY relatable ngl >_>

 

[kitkatt]

I'm so sick of hearing it. It's a fantasy land delusion that everybody is good at something. Some people don't contribute anything, aren't good at anything, don't fit into this cute little idea that everybody has a purpose or a talent or a skill.

I have no skills. No talents. I'm not good at anything. Everything I try to do, I'm bad at. It's gotten to the point I don't want to try new things. I don't even want to engage in old things because I am so, so sick of feeling inadequate. I am inadequate. Inferior. Useless. A waste of space. People tell me constantly I'm too hard on myself, but I'm not. I'm sorry I happen to be realistic and not sugarcoat my own shortcomings. It's not a mindset, and it's not a delusion. I'm genuinely just fucking useless.

And I'm so, so tired of feeling this way. I want it to end. I will never be anyone or achieve anything. I will never be able to justify the air I breathe. I hate myself so much, it's unbearable.

I don't even have a right to feel this way. I have a boyfriend, I love him very much. I feel guilty and horrible for saying these things and worse for never being able to tell him about it, but I'm not his responsibility and I don't want to be too much. So I just have to sit here and hate the person he loves in silence.

Capitalism has caused a lot of this I believe everyone puts pressure to be good at something and start making money contributing etc. it's crap you don't have to be good at something to do it and it kills just do the thing if you enjoy it don't deny yourself a small joy if you can help it. I cycle through my little hobbies and sometimes I just do nothing I just recover from how tired the worlds making me. Your feelings are valid and I'm sorry we live in a world where the majority of people believe that you have to contribute to society to be successful. I also relate with not being able to share how you really feel with a partner I've had good partners in the past but It feels impossible to just be myself because I'm scared of being to much. I'm sorry you're going through it right now though :(

 

[Monolithian]

Capitalism has caused a lot of this

Yeah I get why other people feel this way but I'm not gonna blame capitalism for this. The issue expands into my place in society and what I contribute but it starts internally. Capitalism or not it sucks to suck at everything.

 

[sanctionedusage]

i dont think capitalism is all that responsible for the feeling of inadequacy, but i do think the optimistic rhetoric comes directly from capitalism promoting the idea that everyone has a place as a cog in society, especially useless folk. if youre not good at anything, at least that also means youre not good at asking questions, standing up for yourself, demanding meaningful compensation, or otherwise smart enough to make a fuss. capitalism arguably needs these people the most, hence unskilled labor.

 

[kitkatt]

I'm sorry I should've have clarified a bit better this is about my own personal experience I definitely wasn't trying to speak for everyone!

i dont think capitalism is all that responsible for the feeling of inadequacy, but i do think the optimistic rhetoric comes directly from capitalism promoting the idea that everyone has a place as a cog in society, especially useless folk. if youre not good at anything, at least that also means youre not good at asking questions, standing up for yourself, demanding meaningful compensation, or otherwise smart enough to make a fuss. capitalism arguably needs these people the most, hence unskilled labor.

I tattoo so I provide a luxury service but over the last couple years less and less of my clients are able to afford to come like they used to or at all even. I hear lots of people talk about their living conditions as well as financial but this is all definitely an opinion. Capitalism definitely makes use of the idea everyone has a purpose. I just wish it were different. I feel like I'd be much less stressed if I wasn't constantly trying to figure out how to make ends meet on top of being mentally ill is all I'm saying

 

[MrHappyFace]

I suspect that I have borderline personality disorder because I suffer from antipathy sometimes, I believe it is due to internal insecurity or a desire to protect myself from things that threaten me.

Learning new skills can be challenging, but setting up a proper flow and being compassionate towards yourself can help with the learning process. If you give yourself enough support and understanding, you could succeed.

 

[Monolithian]

I suspect that I have borderline personality disorder because I suffer from antipathy sometimes, I believe it is due to internal insecurity or a desire to protect myself from things that threaten me.

Learning new skills can be challenging, but setting up a proper flow and being compassionate towards yourself can help with the learning process. If you give yourself enough support and understanding, you could succeed.

Why on EARTH would I be compassionate towards myself lmao

 

[MrHappyFace]

Why on EARTH would I be compassionate towards myself lmao

Skepticism or antipathy can make a person more critical of things where they feel inadequate or uncertain; it makes them instinctively reject things that could otherwise be beneficial to the individual. Sympathy or feeling compassion for oneself supports the healing process by being able to give oneself sufficient support and understanding to overcome the effects.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

Totally relate.

And tbh this site at times makes it worse. I feel like the majority of people here are so creative. And whether they share their work or not, you just know they are good at it.

Same deal when I was hospitalized once. I Couldn't get over how talented many of the other patients were in regards to drawing.

I don't have a creative or talented bone in my body