Every person in my life only talks to me about themselves.

[wannabesetfree]

And that's if they even bother to talk to me at all.

I can tell when I eventually go that no one will be impacted by my death that much.

Like no matter where I go, no matter who I talk to, no matter what I do, myself and my needs are always just ignored. I'm just a sounding board for other people. This has been this way my entire life and that's part of why I'm completely alone.

I wish I could have a private island or a cabin in the woods somewhere where I can just live a nice quiet isolated life with my pets until it's time for me to go.

I hate everything about modern society and all of the people in it (no offense to you guys on here).

 

[kwalah]

I know that feeling all too well. It's not your fault, it's just that everyone is so self-involved nowadays.
I hope you find someone you can talk to.

 

[EmotionlessWanderer]

Society is only nice and happy to you if you have something interesting about yourself. I learned that the hard way. Pro Lifers can deny it all they want. It's true.

 

[Kyrok]

Having others who can listen to you is very important. I find that others who are suffering often can't listen, while those who are happy are more able to.

I had a horrible day today, but my wife is extra-depressed so couldn't listen. Her issues are worse, so mine weren't dismissed. My best friend, though, listened.

The challenge for us, I think, to find friends who aren't depressed or in crisis.

 

[wannabesetfree]

I know that feeling all too well. It's not your fault, it's just that everyone is so self-involved nowadays.
I hope you find someone you can talk to.

Thank you. I used to have hope but I realized that being optimistic only led to disappointment. Maybe that will change someday, but I doubt it. :(

 

[noonetoo]

And that's if they even bother to talk to me at all.

I can tell when I eventually go that no one will be impacted by my death that much.

Like no matter where I go, no matter who I talk to, no matter what I do, myself and my needs are always just ignored. I'm just a sounding board for other people. This has been this way my entire life and that's part of why I'm completely alone.

I wish I could have a private island or a cabin in the woods somewhere where I can just live a nice quiet isolated life with my pets until it's time for me to go.

I hate everything about modern society and all of the people in it (no offense to you guys on here).

Well then, maybe you should start sharing more about yourself. Be free without holding anything in, including telling them how you feel. If people speak over you, speak louder, we're not taken as seriously if our voices are too low or "shy". On the bright side, at least people trust you with sharing private details of themselves. I can't get people to really talk to me at all, even when I'm doing most of the conversation. It's exhausting.

 

[wannabesetfree]

Having others who can listen to you is very important. I find that others who are suffering often can't listen, while those who are happy are more able to.

I had a horrible day today, but my wife is extra-depressed so couldn't listen. Her issues are worse, so mine weren't dismissed. My best friend, though, listened.

The challenge for us, I think, to find friends who aren't depressed or in crisis.

Hmm...maybe it's possible that people in my life are just as miserable as me but are better at hiding it. Sorry your wife is despressed, but I'm glad you have your best friend to talk to.

 

[kwalah]

Thank you. I used to have hope but I realized that being optimistic only led to disappointment. Maybe that will change someday, but I doubt it. :(

Yeah I wish I could tell you some magic answer for this but I'm probably just as lost as you. If you want an ear though, just to listen, mine's always available. That goes for anyone on here.

 

[wannabesetfree]

Yeah I wish I could tell you some magic answer for this but I'm probably just as lost as you. If you want an ear though, just to listen, mine's always available. That goes for anyone on here.

Thanks so much for the offer. Same goes for you too.

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

And that's if they even bother to talk to me at all.

I can tell when I eventually go that no one will be impacted by my death that much.

Like no matter where I go, no matter who I talk to, no matter what I do, myself and my needs are always just ignored. I'm just a sounding board for other people. This has been this way my entire life and that's part of why I'm completely alone.

I wish I could have a private island or a cabin in the woods somewhere where I can just live a nice quiet isolated life with my pets until it's time for me to go.

I hate everything about modern society and all of the people in it (no offense to you guys on here).

Yaaaaaaaas!

Yeah I wish I could tell you some magic answer for this but I'm probably just as lost as you. If you want an ear though, just to listen, mine's always available. That goes for anyone on here.

Have you thought of cloning your ear and renting the clones out on Ebay?

 

[kwalah]

Have you thought of cloning your ear and renting the clones out on Ebay?

That'd solve some of my issues I guess.

 

[reveriewong]

If people have been sharing with you about themselves as often and for as long as you have implied, then maybe it's because you're a good listener and they feel comfortable around you.

I highly doubt that every person in your life only speaks about themselves. Surely they discuss other things sometimes. Perhaps the main issue is that you feel like your emotional needs aren't being met. If you feel like they're oversharing about themselves, then it's your responsibility to set boundaries and to adhere to them.

If you want to be heard, then you need to communicate what you want to say. Do you express your needs? Do you express yourself? You get to speak too. :)

 

[FTL.Wanderer]

That'd solve some of my issues I guess.

By the way, I hope I didn't come off as snide. I was trying to laugh with you because my life experience with others has been just as you described your own. Always the sounding board, but everyone becomes bored or rolls their eyes or suddenly has to leave the second you begin--just begin--talking about yourself.

 

[kwalah]

By the way, I hope I didn't come off as snide. I was trying to laugh with you because my life experience with others has been just as you described your own. Always the sounding board, but everyone becomes bored or rolls their eyes or suddenly has to leave the second you begin--just begin--talking about yourself.

Nah I definitely didn't take it as such. I can totally relate haha. I try not to understand people anymore when it comes to stuff like that.

 

[406metallicblue]

People don't generally want to get deeply involved in someone elses crisis. It reminds them that their own might be just around the corner, it causes fear, as the set, specific comprehensible person they knew has become elusive to them and doesn't fit anymore into their scheme of rational life. I agree with the existentialists, that hell is other people simply from the point of view that they judge us from a standpoint that has no bearing whatsoever on our visceral reality.