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egAbwkOofXrX

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Apr 29, 2024
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I'm almost 27, only been in 2 relationships, both which ended up poorly. Right now I've been with my current gf for about 3 years. At first it was great, now we never get physical or have sex or any intimacy at all. I feel like a roommate. She wants to get engaged this year, and so did I, but she just told me she never wants sex anymore at all, and I have to accept that if I want to be with her then that won't be happening. We both had every plan to get engaged this year, but now I have to decide. Do I want to accept a life of physical intimacy, where I don't even feel certain that my partner LIKES me, or do I go it alone and never find anyone, probably. I have zero self esteem or social skills and can't talk to people for shit. I got semi lucky twice ever with women approaching me first, but clearly that didn't work out either.

How do you go on knowing your relationships days are numbered, the person you did everything for, sacrificed so much, and thought you'd be married to next year doesn't even like you? Seems like it anyway, and I have no hope of finding anyone else.

Why do I have to be me? Fat, unattractive, nerdy, awkward, weird, autistic and have NO social skills or self esteem at all, makes me want to CTB so bad
 
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cemeteryismyhome

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There's much more to life and relationships than sex. For me, I would be perfectly agreeable to her terms. Sex is overrated, in my opinion.
 
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egAbwkOofXrX

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There's much more to life and relationships than sex. For me, I would be perfectly agreeable to her terms. Sex is overrated, in my opinion.
Fair for you but that isn't the case for everybody. Some people feel loved and wanted via physical affection, when you never get it I feel unattractive, unloved, unwanted etc
Why not sex?
I don't know. Maybe I'm too ugly
 
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Angst Filled Fuck Up

Angst Filled Fuck Up

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If it's any consolation, this is probably more common than you might think. In my relationships, the physical side almost always dwindled to virtually nothing after some time, having started out quite intense. I eventually got used to it every time, and would feel less attracted to the person with the diminished intimacy. This basically always culminated in a breakup.

I don't have a good answer for you insofar as "you should do this" but I do know you have to be attuned to your own needs and wants, and think about what you're likely to want in the future too. If this isn't a good fit for you, you absolutely shouldn't get married.
 
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egAbwkOofXrX

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Apr 29, 2024
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If it's any consolation, this is probably more common than you might think. In my relationships, the physical side almost always dwindled to virtually nothing after some time, having started out quite intense. I eventually got used to it every time, and would feel less attracted to the person with the diminished intimacy. This basically always culminated in a breakup.

I don't have a good answer for you insofar as "you should do this" but I do know you have to be attuned to your own needs and wants, and think about what you're likely to want in the future too. If this isn't a good fit for you, you absolutely shouldn't get married.
Feel like if this doesn't work out, I don't even want to date again. Hurts too damn bad when it inevitably goes to shit, and I've started to think every relationship goes to shit. It's not worth it, not at all. Thank you though just think I'm single and celibate if I even survive this
 
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