I think talking about ctb with other people is a big mistake, it's likely they'll respond in a non desirable way like being selfish, moralist, religious speech, submitting you to a forced hospitalization, calling you selfish, etc, etc.
they'll never understand.
For sure the critics will continue after we're too dead, but who cares?
Suicide makes us more alone, it's us and our method staring at each other till the time is right.
A big mistake I made was to tell a few people (immediate family, two friends) that I was thinking of ctb.
What I've realized is it's not productive to debate about whether we should or should not ctb. Neither side will fully understand the other.
They don't understand why we don't see any other option.
They don't understand why we can't just "move on/move forward". Some things in life, you can't simply "move on". Unless "move on" means ctb.
They might think we're selfish. But they can't see their own selfishness wanting us to live for them.
We're "selfish" and yet they will encourage us to "take care of yourself"/"you need to think about yourself". If, in response, you tell them that eternal unconsciousness is the happiest you will ever be/the best thing you could do for yourself, they won't agree. They will say we need to "find help"/we need to talk to therapists. As if any amount of talking will solve the problem.
My gf does that a lot. She tends to guilt me every time I talk about suicide. I think it's because she has BPD and can't handle the fear of abandonment, and becomes emotional
Probably has little to do with her having bpd. I think it's just a normal/common response from people who care about us but never had their own suicidal ideations. They want to stop us and one of the easiest ways they can think of doing that is guilt trip.
You're right in saying this. Not only because it can get you in trouble, but because it's draining for them. I think it's better to not tell anyone and let it be a surprise. Let them find out when I'm dead. But sometimes I have a moment of weakness, where I just tell a friend or whoever out of desperation. I always hope it will help me, because I've always been told it's supposed to. It never has
Right. Better to just say everything in suicide notes than draining them everyday. It's not helpful to us nor for them to talk about it.
People also claim it's "selfish" to not want kids. This label seems particularly reserved for women who don't want kids.
It's ironic (more like MORONIC) how society seemingly champions individualism and designing your own life, blah, blah, blah - until you design a life they disagree with. Then it's "selfish."
I say this in the nicest way possible... FUCK YOU, society. Fuck you.
It's way more selfish to want kids. When there's already a ton of kids who have no parents, but people wanna create their own "mini-mes".
