Venting Dont rely on other people for happiness

[TheWorstLife]

it just doesnt work, you need happiness on your own first. so idk i guess i will not be able to find that because i genuinely dont know where to find happiness. its not in other people

 

[Defatigatis]

Discovered this not long ago, shortly before ending a relationship — thought love could save me, make me want to live, but indeed i was wrongly mistaken...

 

[littlecutecorpse]

if it's not in any other person, not even in those i trust, then i'm afraid i'm not sure where i'll ever be able to find happiness either

hell, it feels like all happiness is only fleeting, like there isn't any true joy that will permanently fill the void inside me. i know it's because i haven't found it yet, but again, i don't think i ever will...

 

[Dejected 55]

This statement is a fallacy, though. The way the world is structured, modern society, it isn't possible for most people to be happy without other people. You need money, which requires a job... that means interaction with other people and they must like you to some degree. While you might be able to be "happy" without a friend or a romantic relationship, though we are hardwired to seek those things... it just isn't possible for most people, unless you are independently wealthy, to be happy without the assistance of others... and even if you have the wealth, you still need to purchase things and pay bills... you're dependent on others to provide services and goods you need.

It's just not possible to own a plot of land and pay no further taxes on it and own your home and pay no taxes on it and have water and food that you sustain completely on your own... not for most people... so the "be happy on your own" mantra really doesn't hold up to close inspection.

Then there's that pesky need to love and be loved by someone... and that blows up almost everything when you don't have that in your life.

 

[F@#$]

Don't rely on other people for anything.

 

[MrsT-800]

I am actually relatively happy with myself, I like who I am and how I dress, speak, behave, etc. – I'd change some things, but who wouldn't – but even then, when my husband says, I make him annoyed and angry, among other things, and some call me weird or awkward, and my father says, I am a bitch, ungrateful, childish, the worst daughter one can have, an asshole... no matter how comfortable am I with my sense of self, what can I do? I am beaten into an emotional turmoil that not even my happiness with myself can overcome.

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

i don't need another human for anything other than assisting me with my suicide but they made that a crime. for example yeah someone could do me a favor or if i pay them to shoot me 4 times in the head . but no one is going to do that partly because they made assisting suicide a crime.

the only thing that can make me happy is escaping this hell to the safety of my Death which equals Eternal Non-Existence

 

[schatzbunny]

other people will only take away your happiness instead of giving it

 

[Still here]

True...

 

[Macedonian1987]

Sadly I discovered this too late in my life. I wish I realized this much sooner.

 

[Oreki]

Real

 

[MiaSanMia]

Only problem is that I hate myself so....

 

[vitbar]

It's good advice, but not entirely true. It speaks against a kind of dependance. At the same time a lack of meaningful relationships often leads to unhappiness.