Don't blame yourself

[WhyIsLife56]

I wanted to address this post as way of saying that you don't have to blame yourself for your depression, your problems etc. Because for the most part, everyone was born against their own will. You didn't ask for it. You didn't ask to be born.
It bothers me when people say that their own fault for everything. It isn't.
We all have flaws and shortcomings but most of it isn't our fault. We can't help it that we have those flaws. Why? Cause humans are flawed to begin with. We can't fly like birds. We can't run like cheetahs. Every human is flawed; it isn't your fault.
Humanity in general seems to have too many expectations towards humans in general, due to their own insecurities and flaws. Like when parents project their own wishes onto their children which isn't healthy at all.
Please don't blame yourself.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

If you say that, you have to be consistent and not blame anyone in particular. Because if I blame my parents, well, they won't accept that blame of course and they won't see the mistakes I feel they made. It's a delicate topic....

 

[alizee]

We all have flaws and shortcomings but most of it isn't our fault.

Nothing is anyones fault.

Everything is deterministic with how life transpires. One cannot make a choice that's truly one's own without being effected by the system resided in. All thoughts, actions and what we assume as choices are made from the previous events we experience. Like you said we don't have choice over our birth and nobody realizes that what's to follow isn't any different. Society just conditions everyone to assume we have choice or society wouldn't be able to function for the current oligarchy.

 

[Tearygirl]

I can't blame nobody. So I blame myself. hope i can escape my life soon.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Society likes to tell us to blame yourself for the circumstances you're in. That's why I wrote this post.

 

[Tearygirl]

I am the only terrible person. I have no idea about how to deal with my feelings. So I can't live without blaming me.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

Society likes to tell us to blame yourself for the circumstances you're in. That's why I wrote this post.

Sure that's a big point on the neoliberal agenda; it serves the people who profit from the system. If we'd be the ones on top we'd have to rationalize our guilt as well or become the next Karl Marx.

Philosophy seems to me mostly that: rationalizing your position in life. Aristotle was an aristocrat and his philosophy aristocratic, Schopenhauer had bad luck in life and was a pessimist. The Buddhist monk can't get laid :-p and so renounces 'worldly affairs' etc..

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Sure that's a big point on the neoliberal agenda; it serves the people who profit from the system. If we'd be the ones on top we'd have to rationalize our guilt as well or become the next Karl Marx.

You're making this more complicated than it is.
If you're aware of the antinatalism/eflism philosophy, this statement is meaningless.
Human existence is meaningless existence.

 

[R_N]

It is hard not to blame myself tho. My naivety and trusting others lead me to this point. Wish I was more careful...

 

[WhyIsLife56]

It is hard not to blame myself tho. My naivety and trusting others lead me to this point. Wish I was more careful...

Cause you've been conditioned to blame yourself.
I was naive too but then I realized is that almost everything is out of my control. You can't blame yourself for that.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

You're making this more complicated than it is.
If you're aware of the antinatalism/eflism philosophy, this statement is meaningless.
Human existence is meaningless existence.

Yes I am aware of it but I also am self aware and honest enough to admit that it's the shitty card I've been dealt which is probably the reason for me saying "existence is meaningless" or "non-life is better than life". Because, if I enjoyed my existence, as I used to do, I would have no reason to proclaim that.


But that's OT since we were talking about guilt/ blame.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Yes I am aware of it but I also am self aware and honest enough to admit that it's the shitty card I've been dealt which is probably the reason for me saying "existence is meaningless" or "non-life is better than life". Because, if I enjoyed my existence, as I used to do, I would have no reason to proclaim that.


But that's OT since we were talking about guilt/ blame.

Enjoying your existence is more based your body and mind wanting to survive. Your body and mind tricks you into thinking it enjoys life. But yeah that's another can of worms for another post.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I definitely blame my circumstances for the majority of what has happened in my life. Most of it has been out of my control (trauma, mental/physical issues). However I still blame myself for a bad decision I made. That decision has been a major factor as to why my life is in ruins now and why I will ultimately ctb.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Existence is suffering, bluntly speaking. Any kind of pleasure you feel is a relief of that suffering. I'll make another post about this later.

 

[a.n.kirillov]

Existence is suffering, bluntly speaking. Any kind of pleasure you feel is a relief of that suffering. I'll make another post about this later.

Sure go ahead!

 

[BrokenHopes]

I always blame myself for everything. A constant nagging voice in my head that keeps rambling on judging my every move. So I want to thank you for your post.

 

[Pan]

Sure that's a big point on the neoliberal agenda; it serves the people who profit from the system. If we'd be the ones on top we'd have to rationalize our guilt as well or become the next Karl Marx.

Philosophy seems to me mostly that: rationalizing your position in life. Aristotle was an aristocrat and his philosophy aristocratic, Schopenhauer had bad luck in life and was a pessimist. The Buddhist monk can't get laid :-p and so renounces 'worldly affairs' etc..

It would seem that some sort of armed revolution might help address the problem.while an Olympian elite fiddle, Rome burns.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

Sure go ahead!

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/life-and-existence-is-a-burden.28227/

Here is the thread post I made for this topic.

 

[Cevapcici]

Thank you, I really needed this ..

 

[Brick In The Wall]

Existence is suffering, bluntly speaking. Any kind of pleasure you feel is a relief of that suffering. I'll make another post about this later.

This is inherently true. It's why we're always chasing "guilty" pleasures. Always looking for that next fix of dopamine release.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

This is inherently true. It's why we're always chasing "guilty" pleasures. Always looking for that next fix of dopamine release.

At some point, you get bored of chasing it.

 

[Brick In The Wall]

At some point, you get bored of chasing it.

I did a long time ago myself. The dopamine rush becomes less and less effective and you seek more and more to counter it.

 

[WhyIsLife56]

I did a long time ago myself. The dopamine rush becomes less and less effective and you seek more and more to counter it.

I think it's due to our brains developing too fast