Does anyone hate how unrelatable they are to average people?

[OverTheRainbow]

Whenever I talk about my traumas or suicidal thoughts with anyone they go completely quiet and say they don't know what to say. Or even just ignore me. I mean I totally get it, wtf do you say to something like that...


But it just makes me feel so incredibly lonely. My depression, my PTSD, my traumas... They make me so unrelatable to the average person. When I'm sad I just have to keep it to myself or else I'll be isolating myself even more from the people around me. So many people don't feel this way. How I feel is abnormal. I struggle so much with getting my head around that...

Please tell me I'm not alone here. I so desperately want to know...

 

[There Look! Nothing]

Most people are worthless and selfish, they could try to understand but they would prefer not to because they don't want to go through the effort. They're machines driven by whatever instinct guides them to appeasing themselves and rarely think outside of that box. It's easier to just accept being uncomfortable with you and treating you like you mean less. You're like an afterthought in the grand scheme of it, they just cover all of it up with bullshit terms like "I don't know how to respond to that", "well I don't know how to help you, so I don't know what you want me to say" etc all translations of "I actually don't give a shit, you're not being what I want you to be so go away."

That's the big secret, that's the big reason why they act that way. They're just selfish and don't really care.

 

[muffin222]

You're not alone. I could have written this post myself. I also have PTSD due to multiple traumas I endured as a child and in my adulthood. I live with family members, and I've noticed that I almost never get asked, "How are you?" anymore because my honest answer of "Not okay" causes them discomfort. Sadly, I've also experienced people flat out ignoring me when I've discussed my trauma and my pain. I can relate to the lack of support and understanding from people pushing you to isolate even further; I'm in the same boat at this point. It's easier to just avoid people and keep my true feelings locked inside because the bewildered responses I get from other people when I'm honest are too painful. I'm sorry you've had to suffer so much in your life, too. Rest assured you're not alone in this agony. Average people may not understand trauma survivors, but we understand each other

 

[Antigonish]

Everything I say is either abstract or depressing, and always leave people looking at me weird. Crazily unfiltered so I have to stay quiet before I say things I'll regret in the future. But it literally does hurt me to not be honest

 

[OverTheRainbow]

I can't just keep my feelings hidden... I really do feel better when I talk about them with people that I think care about me..

 

[LastFlowers]

I don't even bother with people anymore because they really don't want to make the minimal effort to bother with me. I've tried, tirelessly with some people, it just gets thrown back in my face. And it has happened so much that it causes me to avoid trying to connect or gain understanding from anyone else..I know how it will end, only in more trauma for me. You're not alone. Well.. I guess you are alone, but so am I lol and quite a few other people in similar ways.

 

[GrumpyFrog]

Hey, fellow soul, I'm sorry you're having it so hard.

I don't know exactly what traumas you suffered through, but I can relate to an extent. I had been depressed for years now, and I have my own traumas and PTSD. However, and I'm deeply sorry to say it, I don't know what to say either, even if I can relate. It's not that I don't wish to be supportive, it's that I don't know how, being just a stranger on the Internet. All I can say is that I am willing to listen to your story and I might relate to many things in it, because I know what it's like to be in the dark. But I wish I could tell you how to turn on the light, yet I myself am grasping for that light switch in vain, and even if I find something that helps me, it might not work for you, so I'm sorry.

You aren't abnormal. Even "normal" people that don't have mental issues have their own demons, they just aren't so obvious. Sadly, we all know pain. It's not that people can't understand you, they probably just don't know how to help.

 

[whywere]

1st and formost we are ALL ONE FAMILY here. You are NEVER alone!I too, have had people clam up and/or even walk away when they have found out that I have attempted suicide before. Yep, been there done that. BUT..BUT that is why we are all here. We love, care and support each and other one of our family members here. I know the pain of how some other people react, but you, me, everyone here are all interconnected and we are a loving and caring force. I care and love you alot and you are NEVER ALONE. Love and pece and bright sunny days for you my global family member!

 

[Jon86]

Yes, not being able to relate to my peers or society at large is very difficult. I used to relate to others and share good times with people.

I ended up getting sick quite early in life, nobody my age could relate, they were living it up while I suffered, eventually I became isolated. Now with suicidal depression and super dark daily thoughts, i've grown incredibly lonely as I have nobody to share my life with. It took a long time for the loneliness to really set in but it has now. The anhedonia gotten quite bad, so I cannot escape with movies or games or much of anything anymore, it's mostly just me with my mind all day long, that can be both good and bad. Sports used to be my passion in life, I can't do them like I used to, I am becoming restless, no longer fearful these days just restless.

Life used to be so simple, so easy, beautiful even, then it became impossible, a nightmare, I didn't cause it, I was simply unlucky. I persist because my parents have suffered so much and have always tried despite there inadequacies.

 

[262653]

Yup. I feel the thick barrier separating myself from all but a few people. Can hardly tell how normal (or abnormal) it is because I can't tell if other people are just pretending to understand each other, if they wear more socially acceptable masks.

You know, I was staring at this post for ten minutes maybe, feeling the urge to say something but not finding the proper words. Maybe being relatable is more than just having similar experiences, but also about how well one can articulate personal experience, about being a good storyteller. Also, I believe that people generally don't want to deal with downers.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

You're definitely not alone, but I will say that being ignored would be a lot better than the responses I have gotten in the past. Those responses usually involve someone trying to shove religion down my throat, like it's a magic cure, even though I already tried that drug and was disappointed. It's really sad, but I'm afraid that @There Look! Nothing is right. Most people just don't care, but they don't want to feel like shit, so they give some ambiguous response that they think we can't understand. Even though we can see through their BS, they can dismiss us with their egos still intact.

 

[Iwantoknow]

I been talking about theses things only with one close person in my life and therapist over past years. I feel other people in my life will not be willing or will not be able to talk about topics like this if I bring them up with them.

 

[Meditation guide]

Whenever I talk about my traumas or suicidal thoughts with anyone they go completely quiet and say they don't know what to say. Or even just ignore me. I mean I totally get it, wtf do you say to something like that...

It makes them uncomfortable and they secretly think you are mentally ill. I'm sure you can understand it if you put yourself in their place. They don't want to hear it. They don't want to feel as if you are using them as a therapist. It's putting a burden on other people they don't want and shouldn't have forced on them.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I always feel like each individual trait of me can relate to plenty of people in the world on their own, but together? Fat chance! I've only met one other person who checked off so many similarities that it was like our brains had been cloned! Too bad...the odds of me finding someone who'd agree/relate that much to so many different things just seems impossible to me too.

 

[Sherri]

You're not alone hun, even those people you mentioned are normal, they aren't. I see so many friends updating happy couple photos and family pictures and in some cases I do know it's a facade....maybe we are the tight ones, have you thought about that?

 

[TooConscious]

I just feel like I'm inferior because the stuff people spend their time idolizing celebrities and I see through the corruption of society how we are owned by evil beings who drain our energy. It goes to deep people have to change the self but they'd rather focus on feeble things and call anyone who sees the entertainment industry is mostly corrupt mind controlling paedophiles.

 

[Sherri]

I just feel like I'm inferior because the stuff people spend their time idolizing celebrities and I see through the corruption of society how we are owned by evil beings who drain our energy. It goes to deep people have to change the self but they'd rather focus on feeble things and call anyone who sees the entertainment industry is mostly corrupt mind controlling paedophiles.

Celebrities are in a worst state of mind than most of us are. All the documentaries they self made they are depressed and just cry and look miserable. I don't watch any media, as I dont wanna be brain washed. About hollywood you are totally right, it's full of peados, and that's why many celebrities become celebrities, a lot of them have been abused by them before they become famous. I could name a few, but rather not.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

You are definitely not alone. I feel exactly the same way. I felt like I wrote your post. My depression, traums and ptsd make it very hard to relate to average people. I gave up trying a long time ago because sadly it's not feasible for me to sustain friendships with someone unless they have also been through trauma because my behavior is so "abnormal" according to aversge people. They don't understand why I avoid certain things, places etc. They don't understand being triggered by certain things. Its sad because I so wish I could just forget the trauma. Sending hugs to you. Your definitely not alone here so many of us relate!

 

[Superdeterminist]

Definitely. Although, spaces like this site have really helped to relieve that frustration of feeling like I could never relate to anyone. It's funny though because I find that people's reasons for suicide can vary widely, which affects their relatability (similar reasons = higher relatability). But ultimately we all have the common experience of knowing what it's like to want to quit life; the reasons why may be extraneous.