Discussion Does anyone else with BPD get attached to people too quickly?

[Squiddy]

So after me being in the hospital for vomiting blood, I kind of miss the doctor who treated me even though I saw him for like 2 seconds. Anyone else get this way?

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Yes. I do. Not that extreme as you describe, but i attach pretty easy to someone who's nice to me.

 

[BPD Barbie]

Yep, over every single person I meet. I got jealous that my female psychiatrist had a husband and kids, that my friends have other friends, the list goes on. As soon as someone interacts with me I get attached.

 

[SpareWheel]

Is the BPD being discussed here bi-polar disorder, or borderline personality disorder? I only ask as I've seen a few people over the years with one or the other that use BPD to describe themselves.

 

[RileyTanaka]

I used to think I met some criteria for BPD - so I guess this question applies. But honestly, no - I don't feel attached to people as much anymore because I know most of them are not worth the time. As soon as they're done trying to seek me out for whatever resource they're trying to obtain - whether it's emotional or material - and the exchange is done, I couldn't care less. It sounds horrible, but after being disappointed and let down so many times, you start to learn that attachment is a one-way ticket to hell if you're hypersensitive to rejection/abandonment.

 

[nerve]

It only happens with men for me, which probably says a lot about who I am lol. Some guy shows me a sliver of kindness and compassion, even if it's just an occupational thing like a nurse or a crisis volunteer, and the most borderline parts of my brain are like "but why can't we get married??" It's happened a few times with members here too!

I can't imagine how difficult this would be if I actually took it seriously and didn't realize it's just my brain playing tricks on me again.

 

[Squiddy]

Is the BPD being discussed here bi-polar disorder, or borderline personality disorder? I only ask as I've seen a few people over the years with one or the other that use BPD to describe themselves.

Borderline personality disorder

 

[SpareWheel]

Borderline personality disorder

Thanks :) now I understand the context better.

 

[Squiddy]

Thanks :) now I understand the context better.

Yeah usually BD is bipolar disorder

 

[SpareWheel]

Yeah usually BD is bipolar disorder

That's exactly what I've said in the past. Bipolar or bi-polar, only needs the B. So many write BPD though, or at least English people I've seen online do.

 

[Squiddy]

That's exactly what I've said in the past. Bipolar or bi-polar, only needs the B. So many write BPD though, or at least English people I've seen online do.

Yeah idk why they write BPD. Maybe they don't know about Borderline

 

[SpareWheel]

Yeah idk why they write BPD. Maybe they don't know about Borderline

To be fair neither did I til around 5/6 years ago, made friends with a girl that suffers badly with it and got a real insight. Most unhappy person I've ever come across.

 

[GoBack]

I do. I hate this diagnosis. before this I thought I just made friends easily and loved my family. Now I have to question every thought and feeling I have. Cant even be around family anymore I don't trust anyone. Fuck bpd and whoever came up with it

 

[Isisnefert]

Estamos acostumbrados a que nos hieran que cuando alguien es amable lo confundimos con amistad

 

[funeraleveryday]

my BPD isn't like this, I'm a big internalizer and isolator and I shut off to everyone until they give me a reason to love them. but if you show me love and affirm to me you love me then I will go insane if you stop making me feel loved... sometimes it makes me wonder if I'm actually BPD or if I'm just C-PTSD/schizoaffective/attachment injury. but it all exists on a spectrum so I'm likely mostly discouraged BPD who hides and camouflages to 99.9% of the world

 

[CyanideSoup]

I usually cling to people I've just met if they're showing me any form of positive attention. They feel like the most amazing person on the planet and I love them so passionately. If there's any red flags I can't see them because I'm too busy worshiping the ground they walk on. I can get very upset if the tone of the conversation changes because I instantly think I must have done something wrong and I'm and awful person and I don't deserve somebody so superior in my life.