Does anyone else have NO life? And literally scrolls their phone or laptop all day to make up for lack of social fulfillment?

[Journeytoletgo]

This is my issue due to skin disease I don't go seeking attention or meeting people

 

[Nolan96]

I've definitely been there.
Right now I have a job.

 

[Sherri]

I used to that when I was at my worst , would call ex bfs and friends and all, it was embassing, they would talk with me out of pity, once tge word sorteado out, no one would answer the phones or reply to me even if I could see the message was read. I've cut most friends from my life and now prob have a handful of them when I used to have dozens or more, in the end you will see who matters, if one day I'm healed I won't forget who stood by myself. Having a job helps.

 

[orange]

Yes. I go to uni but I don't interact, most of my classmates don't like me and make it known. I know it can get worse tho, been there.

 

[forgotten15]

I have a job because I have no choice. But other than that I have no life, no friends, no activities in my free time. Just go to work and come home.

 

[dissociation_statio]

I have no job and currently can't work. My big outings involve the grocery store and therapy 3x a week. I don't even know how to find a life at this point.

 

[hungry_ghost]

Yes.

I'm a NEET, and was/am? a hikikomori.

My problem tends to be that I have a wide-range of things I genuinely want to do, but I never have the energy or mental fortitude to truly invest.

And there's also the fact that I am poor, and many of my endeavors would, you know, cost lots of money.

 

[Gordy99]

I have a job because I have no choice. But other than that I have no life, no friends, no activities in my free time. Just go to work and come home.

Same here. It gets boring after a while but that's just my life.

 

[Dead Meat]

No Life, Nobody gives a damn about me

 

[ClownMe]

I'm mainly on my electronics whenever im not sleeping or forced to do something, I hate leaving the house and my depression is so bad that I don't have the motivation to do anything productive.

 

[MiserableInCT]

Too many years ago I quit my job and began working from home. It paid off financially, but socially it has brought a heavy cost. There are no friends. No neighbors. No co-workers. Nobody that I really want to call. Nobody calls me.

 

[Mr2005]

This is half the world now. I'd like to be in the other half

 

[HappyPotato]

I've been in bed all week and that's all I did. I recently deleted all my social media (reddit, Twitter, insta). I'm trying to get out of this though. this has been my life the last couple months, to the point I have terrible terrible eye strain and a popped blood vessel.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

This is how it was for me before I was introduced to my fellowship. Now it's much better. I have a family of Christians around me and no longer lonely. I mean I'd love to have a man again but it's totally ok if that never happens. I'm content with just having these people around. I grew up neglected and rejected by my family so I was messed up. These people helped me recover. I still sometimes wish for my life to be over bc of painful life events that I wish to forget or cannot undo which haunt me but life is at least tolerable now.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

This is all I do too. Phone and laptop, all day every day. Scroll through the same boring stuff over and over. It doesn't even register anymore, it's more like a nervous tic rather than actually absorbing any info.

 

[freedompass]

At risk of being monotonous. Phone/laptop for a crazy number of hours per day. I'm nearly always in my bedroom despite having my own house. I haven't worked in decades and claim disability for severe mental illness. Once a week I go to a support group. Every so often I meet my case worker in a café. Pretty much gave up on friends, no partner, talk to a few people online and that's it. I have no life and have lost interest in acquiring one. I just feel idk. Broken I guess.

 

[headwood]

Same here. YouTube and TV shows all day and all night in desperation trying to distract from and fend off the otherworldly sensations of constant bodily anxiety, discomfort and inflammation that are the result of bacterial infections in my brain and central nervous system. If I don't have a podcast, YouTube video, or TV show going, then PTSD immediately takes over and suffocates me sending me into anxiety, panic, rage, despair. It is disgusting, Lyme has stolen everything from me. The only respite is sleep, but even then my dreams are often traumatic. There is no end in sight, I have no hope, very bleak outlook for my illness, and even if by some miracle the bacteria were eradicated, the trauma that I have endured still lives inside of me and I have no control over the invasive thoughts and unrelenting grief that paralyzes me. I have N and can only wait for the day that I finally have the courage to overcome the mental obstacles that keep me from CTB and ending this suffering.

 

[MiserableInCT]

I have never joined any social media platforms so Book/Insta are not a place I go, but I love TicTok. It is my only chance to see people just out and about being themselves. T.V. people are all fake. Nobody has lives like those on T.V. and I can't relate to any of them. But I find a strange companionship from TicTok.

 

[Life_and_Death]

i dont talk to people. the most i talk to people lately is on a a no registration chat site. its difficult to even want to talk to people when you cant go 2 seconds without your problems sticking out like a red flag. just about every question/topic brings up something depressing for me to talk about

 

[Spiritual survivor]

Too many years ago I quit my job and began working from home. It paid off financially, but socially it has brought a heavy cost. There are no friends. No neighbors. No co-workers. Nobody that I really want to call. Nobody calls me.

I would join a church, or find a bible study fellowship. It did wonders for me. Saved my life and now I have true friends. If u have to ask around to find a private home fellowship that might be a way u can find one. The home fellowships are really nice. Our society discourages this because, these things make u stronger and u get a support network. Everyone needs a support system of nice reliable trustworthy people in their lives.

 

[Bitterman1996]

I play this online game and honestly seek social interaction from there. It's miserable how much I ended up being so dependent on this one online gaming acquaintance even though, in reality they probably won't think much of me...

 

[whatevs]

I have 3% of a life thanks to picking up programming and making myself relevant to a few people that way, but other than that I spend most of my day online, either watching my favourite conspiracy BreadTube channel, or anime, or a show, sometimes reading, and often lurking forums. The rest of time I will be glued to my computer, coding.

Back when BreadTube hadn't been neutered by The Powers That Be you could spend day after day going back and forth in arguments with people all over the world or meeting people that allegedly shared your opinion. I did that for a couple of years. You would get reliable notifications for all interactions. They got rid of that because it made networking very easy.

My loneliness due to chronic illness started 10 years ago when I lost the ability to reenergize and refresh myself with sleep (and became sexually impotent for a few years), so I had to let go of my friends, that had their health intact and kept going at the same pace as before whereas I barely could overcome urges to catch that bus.

Chronic illness has often the ability of letting you exist but not live.

 

[puppet_nihilist]

In terms of social life, that's basically me.

Except for the fact that it doesn't give me any fulfilment. Nothing ever will.

 

[wereqryan]

Does anyone else have NO life? And literally scrolls their phone or laptop all day to make up for lack of social fulfillment?

MEEE!!

 

[KimKevorkian]

Books, YouTube, streaming music, pens, legal pad, cassette tapes ("What are those?"), cooking, medical appointments, food shopping, teeth grinding, this site.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

I only leave home to get food, weed, or for medical stuff.

At home I lay in bed all day and fuck around on my laptop. Scrolling, posting, playing games...

 

[Cosmic dust]

I would join a church, or find a bible study fellowship. It did wonders for me. Saved my life and now I have true friends. If u have to ask around to find a private home fellowship that might be a way u can find one. The home fellowships are really nice. Our society discourages this because, these things make u stronger and u get a support network. Everyone needs a support system of nice reliable trustworthy people in their lives.

But what if I am not christian and don't believe in god?

I have always been frustrated with this, churches always seemed a good way to join a community, meet people and form a network, but why there ins't a similar option that is not based on following a certain faith?

At least for me, there seems to be no option. In every place where I met people in my life, everyone is nice, but already has their own network and its not really interested in making connections.

 

[Justsogone]

I have been there so long, but I reckon I deserve it

 

[Oblivion Access]

More or less been my life since 8 or so with school, errands and homeless drug addiction for a fresh change of pace. What a life I've lived. Though unlike many I've had the luxury of many people loving me, but at this point I doubt I'll ever have the ability to love others.

 

[Spiritual survivor]

But what if I am not christian and don't believe in god?

I have always been frustrated with this, churches always seemed a good way to join a community, meet people and form a network, but why there ins't a similar option that is not based on following a certain faith?

At least for me, there seems to be no option. In every place where I met people in my life, everyone is nice, but already has their own network and its not really interested in making connections.

I was the same way as u before I became a believer. I decided to go to a fellowship one day and I was not immediately a Christian or a believer. Not for quite awhile. I was only going because they were really unconditionally accepting of me and made me feel wanted, special, and loved. That's the reasons I continued to go and after enough time I learned a lot about God and Jesus, how to get the Holy Spirit and then became a believer. I was using drugs and prostituting myself for a living when I first started going to home based Christian fellowship. They helped me heal and become saved. U don't have to change yourself to become a Christian, the changes take place gradually on their own over time. The reason it's hard to find non faith based fellowship is because most people without the faith are jerks and are often not behaved like people who understand how God intended us to treat each other. There is the law written in the heart for many people which does allow us to behave at least with some decency towards each other but true Christian people take this it to the next level. They really behave with love towards one another consistently.