Does anybody else feel distant from society and others?

[Depressed_Kettle]

I feel distant from most people. I have trouble forming friendships and maintaining them. I used to make friends much easier than I can now but I have been below average for maintaining friendships since I was young.

A lot of people don't keep in touch with me. Some of them I don't message them and they don't message me and we just go separate ways. There is only a few people who actually message me randomly to see how I am. Even family doesn't always check up on me. I seem to do most of the messaging of family members which I admit I don't always check on them often but most of them don't even check on me in between me checking on them.

I know that a few people is understandable but when many people are like that then it must be something I'm doing wrong. I want to have better relationships with people, I just don't know what to do. Some people it is easy but for others I just feel so distant from them now.

Does anybody else feel this way? How do I keep in touch with more than a few short messages? The conversations don't seem to go far for some people.

 

[FuneralCry]

I have always felt distant from people. I have always been very introverted and I have struggled to connect and relate to others. I have never wanted to be alive and I have never had any interest in living. I have always found it to be tiring having conversations with others. I hope you can find ways to have better relationships with people if that is what you want, I do not know anything.

 

[meetapple]

Some people don't care about anyone but themselves. They don't even try to listen to others. There probably is nothing you are doing wrong.Maybe you could join a hobby related group and then do something outside of the group with members.

 

[StevieNixs]

I feel distant from most people. I have trouble forming friendships and maintaining them. I used to make friends much easier than I can now but I have been below average for maintaining friendships since I was young.

A lot of people don't keep in touch with me. Some of them I don't message them and they don't message me and we just go separate ways. There is only a few people who actually message me randomly to see how I am. Even family doesn't always check up on me. I seem to do most of the messaging of family members which I admit I don't always check on them often but most of them don't even check on me in between me checking on them.

I know that a few people is understandable but when many people are like that then it must be something I'm doing wrong. I want to have better relationships with people, I just don't know what to do. Some people it is easy but for others I just feel so distant from them now.

Does anybody else feel this way? How do I keep in touch with more than a few short messages? The conversations don't seem to go far for some people.

I have become misanthropic so my distance from society is entirely self-imposed.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I have retreated to my couch… Intrusions from the outside world are Almost entirely frightening… I'm Howard Hughes without the money

 

[Pluto]

The problem is that we often can't be honest about where life is at without having people dismiss us for being 'negative'. Without some sort of validation, we feel even worse. And if we have to feign positivity, that is tiresome and unfulfilling. It isn't a very easy cycle to break.

 

[Chronicillness]

There's a feeling of disillusionment with society that's only grown stronger with time. I'm more dejected than distant. I think you need to be a functioning cog of society in order to be accepted and recognized as valuable, I don't function as anything but a total consumer, so this feeling of disillusionment is likely there because I was born into a genetically inferior body and therefore cannot create or provide anything for society, which in turn leads to traumatizing and disheartening interpersonal interactions.

Basically, I am a piece of shit, and get treated exactly as a piece of shit would get treated.

I hate my body, and my life, and life itself along with other sentient human bodies loathe me. A symbiosis of hate for my existence exists both inside and outside (society) of this torturous vessel that I am forced to pilot for the rest of my life.

 

[D&D]

In general people seek company of those that make them feel better or entertain them in some way, or both. Which is why most people perfect or at least try to do one or both of those things. Those that, for whatever reason, are either unable or unwilling usually end up alone, or if lucky, with a very small circle of people. Which is OK. The next 'step' is when life hurts so much that we have nothing to offer but dreaded 'negativity' ... when pain is all-consuming and it is all you can think about. When, even to yourself, you become a 'broken record' ... and you knew it. You can see it in people eyes, in their body-language, in their attempts to stir the conversation in a different direction. In tone of their voices. You start retreating. The more you retreat - the looser the connections become. Until there is none.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes. I do not feel like a member of my species sometimes.

 

[LingeringUnreal]

Yes. In the past few years anhedonia got so bad that meeting someone I'd known for years in person for the first time had me feeling nothing. I remember a time when being around people was exciting instead of just annoying, but not sure when that changed. The people I should enjoy being with the most just make me feel kind of alien when they interact with me. Doesn't help I'm very isolated from others where I live and don't like calls/video chats.

Like I guess humans are supposed to be social but my threshold for socializing is pretty low unless it's text only.

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

Yes, I avoid most humans, rarely go out and just avoid people. I have a very negative view of humans and society. It makes me very sad how the world is. I hate how selfish and superficial most humans are. People dying of hunger and living in poverty because a few narcissists feel the need to accumulate billions of resources. Honestly the world infuriates me. Going out depresses me because I get to see homeless people / poverty and it makes me feel devastes, and it triggers my cPTSD. I've become misanthropic and just have a general hatred towards society.

My old "friends"and family disappeared when I got sick. No one cares. People only care about you when they are getting something from you.

 

[odradek]

I was actually thinking about this today. I relate to this sentiment a lot. I've always felt seperate from everyone and this has lead me to struggle to maintain relationships in my life. I've disappeared from most people I knew as my depression deepened these past few years.

I don't have the energy or will to re-engage at this point so I think I'm destined to be mostly alone for however long I cling to this mortal coil. This doesn't distress me as much as it used to but I'm not sure if that's just the depression numbing the pain.

 

[RappyMaster]

This feeling you describe has been haunting me for the past few weeks. I used to have a lot of "friends" in high school, I considered myself a pretty sociable person, did not talk to a lot of people but they would come to me asking for help or just to talk a bit. Nowadays I feel extremely alone, I feel that I do not belong in my family, a group of friends and so on. The few people that care about me are really far away, I think their heart would break if I CTB but I hope they understand if I do it.

I love being alone, it´s the only way I can get to know myself and it helps me find out what I really want, but at the same time, I miss having people around me, it´s a little bit confusing. Anyways, at this point I feel completely hollow, I can´t express myself the way I want to.

 

[hans0solo]

alienation is not just a thought or feeling, its a vibe. typical people pick it up and run away. there is also saneism. if someone takes about their pain, if there is not a 'quick fix' or an ability to 'be positive', people can't handle it. if you can't be 'functional' and spend money, people run away. I found the disability community which mostly has a more welcoming space for people who deal with chronic hardships. Not all of it because some are just looking for people to 'positive' about pain, suffering, illness, suicidiality. Many people find solutions in medications or surgeries and they may find a way to rejoin the 'mainstream'. Others, like me, not so much. But being part of the disability community means that you don't have to compare yourself to typical people and find acceptance in what you do have. I find happiness in cats. You don't have to consider yourself less-than if you don't work full time or own a house or have swanky parties. I have found a few people who deal with trauma, chronic illness, people who are queer, trans, etc. who I can relate to more than the average white middle class 2-kid family.

 

[Bleak]

Sometimes when I watch the news and see all the misery and suffering around the world then I feel like part of humanity. But fake American society where you have to pretend that everything is great really makes me feel alienated.