Flippy
Felis Sapien
- Jan 5, 2020
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I agree, though the definition of pushing back seems to be set at a low threshold. Even expressing a slight opposing view seems to be twisted out of proportion! It smacks of desperation. The other consequence to doing this is that if you struggle to assert yourself it teaches people that even their minimal attempt to defend themselves is unacceptably aggressive! Gaslighting again I suppose but it keeps us afraid of defending ourselves.
BPD is bad enough for people who genuinely suffer from it. It takes a special kind of fiend to literally use the same tactics their abusers used when they have made the leap of disclosing their trauma. It's like rescuing an animal for the soul purpose of committing the same abuse because it's been nicely softened up!
I've noticed this trend of "compliance" based diagnosis. Several people I know or know of have had their world's turned upside down when their bipolar diagnosis becomes BPD because they were suffering a relapse. Because as we all know people with bipolar are never anything but the bench mark of perfect mental health.
I think the behaviour towards people with BPD is disgraceful. I've heard of people being forced to sign contracts stating that if they harm themselves they will be refused hospital treatment. Yeah that sounds compassionate, let them bleed out so they "learn their lesson". I suspect this is why patients find themselves inexplicably assigned this diagnosis. They can impose this sort of horror on them rather than actually doing the work they claim makes them so "heroic".
I'm sorry that your family seem to want to use these diagnoses against you and are in cahoots with the psychiatrists :-( It is even worse when instead of trying to listen they add to the misery. My mother used to threaten me with all kinds of horrors when I displayed symptoms of (what I understood later to be) psychosis. This only made me find ways of hiding just how unwell I was. I don't know if it would have ultimately made any difference to how things worked out.
I found out that my mother was diagnosed with a personality disorder when I was a kid. What did the Saint of a doctor do? Help her? Refer her to a specialist? Offer her medication? Of course not, he sent her back to her kids to wreak havoc. If she was that unwell she needed help. Instead we bore the brunt of her distress. Maybe the threats she made were her maladaptive way of trying to protect me from these "professionals"?
I don't know how they can keep accepting payment for their "work".
BPD is bad enough for people who genuinely suffer from it. It takes a special kind of fiend to literally use the same tactics their abusers used when they have made the leap of disclosing their trauma. It's like rescuing an animal for the soul purpose of committing the same abuse because it's been nicely softened up!
I've noticed this trend of "compliance" based diagnosis. Several people I know or know of have had their world's turned upside down when their bipolar diagnosis becomes BPD because they were suffering a relapse. Because as we all know people with bipolar are never anything but the bench mark of perfect mental health.
I think the behaviour towards people with BPD is disgraceful. I've heard of people being forced to sign contracts stating that if they harm themselves they will be refused hospital treatment. Yeah that sounds compassionate, let them bleed out so they "learn their lesson". I suspect this is why patients find themselves inexplicably assigned this diagnosis. They can impose this sort of horror on them rather than actually doing the work they claim makes them so "heroic".
I'm sorry that your family seem to want to use these diagnoses against you and are in cahoots with the psychiatrists :-( It is even worse when instead of trying to listen they add to the misery. My mother used to threaten me with all kinds of horrors when I displayed symptoms of (what I understood later to be) psychosis. This only made me find ways of hiding just how unwell I was. I don't know if it would have ultimately made any difference to how things worked out.
I found out that my mother was diagnosed with a personality disorder when I was a kid. What did the Saint of a doctor do? Help her? Refer her to a specialist? Offer her medication? Of course not, he sent her back to her kids to wreak havoc. If she was that unwell she needed help. Instead we bore the brunt of her distress. Maybe the threats she made were her maladaptive way of trying to protect me from these "professionals"?
I don't know how they can keep accepting payment for their "work".
