Obivoulsy it would not be the main purpose for being a member on here. I even know a case where someone found a longterm partner in this forum. And I expect that more people have found a loved one in this forum. But I am not sure how high the rate is. I don't think this happens to many people.
I recently read a thread where someone described his or her intention to find someone. The person was a new member. And I could relate to it. When I was new on this website I also hoped to find a partner here. But I have lost this interest. Or at least I cannot really imagine it anymore. I think it was healthy for me to lose this interest and that I stopped to think about it. WIthout this ulterior motive I can talk more openly about my anxieties and sorrows. I don't have to care what others think about me.
I think maybe it is something which one should not try to force. Especially not in a suicide forum. The most people on here have pretty big problems and some are really vulnerable. It is normal wanting to find someone. But I personally also fear to experience the suicide of someone who is close to me. This is why I try to maintain a certain distance to members of this forum. If you have many friends on here it is not unlikely that one day some of them will kill themselves. And I am quite scared about the pain of experiencing like that. I am scared to become traumatized because I met people who could not cope with the loss.
Moreover I am paranoid as fuck about journalists. I honestly cannot trust any of one of you fully. I have some paranoid theories about this forum. Some are kind of unrealistic but for example the bugs seem suspicious for me. But it is likely I am just a really anxious mentally ill loner.
I have seen too many people in extreme agony and torture in this forum. Getting to close to someone on here could break my heart. it is kind of selfish of me. But I need this protection. Personally I hope the society will stop looking away when people collapse and reach their individual limits. The society is full of hypocrites. In my country most citizens are in favor of assisted suicide but the stupid politicians resist this wish.
To conclude on the inital topic. I think it is not a bad thing to find a loved one in such a forum. But one should not expect to find someone. Many people are too busy to handle their own problems.
There are different philosophies on the following point: some say people who experiece hell need to find someone with similar problems. Because only these people can understand and feel compassion for each other.
Other people say. 2 people with similar problems cannot work. There needs to be someone who is stable enough to handle the problems of the vulnerable partner.
Personally I am not dogmatic on any cerain approach. I think both has advatages and disadvantges. One time a crush of me said two people who are mentally ill don't fit to each other. I think this was lie of her. I was really socially awkward to that time. I wish I could meet her again and show her that I have made progess. Though she would likely be not interested in me. Despite the fact she laughed a lot about my jokes.
What is your philosphy on that? And what do you think about the dating aspect of this forum?
I recently read a thread where someone described his or her intention to find someone. The person was a new member. And I could relate to it. When I was new on this website I also hoped to find a partner here. But I have lost this interest. Or at least I cannot really imagine it anymore. I think it was healthy for me to lose this interest and that I stopped to think about it. WIthout this ulterior motive I can talk more openly about my anxieties and sorrows. I don't have to care what others think about me.
I think maybe it is something which one should not try to force. Especially not in a suicide forum. The most people on here have pretty big problems and some are really vulnerable. It is normal wanting to find someone. But I personally also fear to experience the suicide of someone who is close to me. This is why I try to maintain a certain distance to members of this forum. If you have many friends on here it is not unlikely that one day some of them will kill themselves. And I am quite scared about the pain of experiencing like that. I am scared to become traumatized because I met people who could not cope with the loss.
Moreover I am paranoid as fuck about journalists. I honestly cannot trust any of one of you fully. I have some paranoid theories about this forum. Some are kind of unrealistic but for example the bugs seem suspicious for me. But it is likely I am just a really anxious mentally ill loner.
I have seen too many people in extreme agony and torture in this forum. Getting to close to someone on here could break my heart. it is kind of selfish of me. But I need this protection. Personally I hope the society will stop looking away when people collapse and reach their individual limits. The society is full of hypocrites. In my country most citizens are in favor of assisted suicide but the stupid politicians resist this wish.
To conclude on the inital topic. I think it is not a bad thing to find a loved one in such a forum. But one should not expect to find someone. Many people are too busy to handle their own problems.
There are different philosophies on the following point: some say people who experiece hell need to find someone with similar problems. Because only these people can understand and feel compassion for each other.
Other people say. 2 people with similar problems cannot work. There needs to be someone who is stable enough to handle the problems of the vulnerable partner.
Personally I am not dogmatic on any cerain approach. I think both has advatages and disadvantges. One time a crush of me said two people who are mentally ill don't fit to each other. I think this was lie of her. I was really socially awkward to that time. I wish I could meet her again and show her that I have made progess. Though she would likely be not interested in me. Despite the fact she laughed a lot about my jokes.
What is your philosphy on that? And what do you think about the dating aspect of this forum?
