Do you love yourself (enough)?

[ve.nin]

Cause I'm beginning to see that this is the key for me, if not for the most.

 

[King Ashoka]

I don't love myself.

I don't love my parents.

I love movies and good food.

 

[ve.nin]

I don't love myself.

I don't love my parents.

I love movies and good food.

I also hate my parents and the rest of my family

I wan't to love myself, but idk how

I love Gaspar Noé and reading. Especially philosophy and psychology.

 

[Hollowman]

No

 

[Alwaysdreaming]

No I hate myself self to the point I can't stand to look in the mirror. By no means do I think I'm ugly I just can't stand looking at myself. All I see is a failure in life that can no longer feel love towards himself, others, or life.

 

[tiger b]

Enough for what?

 

[ve.nin]

Enough for what?

Living the best life you can possibly live

No I hate myself self to the point I can't stand to look in the mirror. By no means do I think I'm ugly I just can't stand looking at myself. All I see is a failure in life that can no longer feel love towards himself, others, or life.

That makes us 2

 

[nicotineinvestor]

I think i love myself, but i hate my body and skin health. It's hard to figure out how to love yourself when all you see is the negative aspects.

 

[justcallmeJ]

I dont love myself, I hate myself actually. But some aspect of myself I like.

 

[ve.nin]

I dont love myself, I hate myself actually. But some aspect of myself I like.

What aspects do you like?

 

[justcallmeJ]

What aspects do you like?

Im great with computers and im a good cook. I dont think I am a bad person. Thats pretty much it.

 

[Cloud Busting]

I used to hate myself with every fiber of my being

Now? I'm just working on self-compassion. Self love is overrated.

 

[ve.nin]

Im great with computers and im a good cook. I dont think I am a bad person. Thats pretty much it.

That's a good start, imo

I used to hate myself with every fiber of my being

Now? I'm just working on self-compassion. Self love is overrated.

I used to hate myself with every fiber of my being

Now? I'm just working on self-compassion. Self love is overrated.

What would you need to make life worth living?

 

[MarsProxy]

I don't know if I've ever loved myself. I think I've definitely hated myself when I was more obese as a kid, but now I just exist and I don't really know if I want to anymore. Life is more of a struggle now than ever. I used to be somewhat optimistic before the 22nd happened.

 

[Some place nice]

I dont love myself but I love my partner and they love me. I think that's enough for me.

 

[Rouge4000]

No

 

[just_a_guy]

I try because I know how much damage self hatred can do to you, but I do find it difficult. There's a sick kind of comfort in self loathing

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I used to hate myself when I was a teen but not anymore. It's hard to say whether I love myself or whether I love myself enough, I struggle to see myself through the BPD sometimes...
I think my main issue is feeling so deeply depressed.

 

[sadwriter]

Definitely not. When I'm mad at myself I feel like I hate myself, but I otherwise just generally dislike myself. I have good qualities but I feel like the bad ones outweigh them. I used to like myself because I was in denial of a lot of my bad qualities, but that's over now.

I think at this point I just need to learn to forgive myself for mistakes better and have self compassion (as Cloud Bursting said). Liking myself can come later.

 

[traumer]

I think I love myself more than I should, my understanding of love is not really healthy though.

 

[King Ashoka]

I also hate my parents and the rest of my family

I wan't to love myself, but idk how

I love Gaspar Noé and reading. Especially philosophy and psychology.

Nice bro. I am post graduate in Psychology.

 

[アホペンギン]

I despise myself. I can't even describe it with words.
I hope to get my head bashed against the wall. I deserve it.

 

[Notwinnernotawin]

No. Not enough. I don't love most people to be honest. Somedays I don't feel like I embrace my mom and her efforts towards me. Somedays I don't feel like loving my cat.

 

[gogoprince]

I'm beginning to love myself and I'm saying it almost like a mantra, which I would have found ridiculous only a few years ago. I don't love myself because I'm such a fabulous person and everyone should be obsessed with me - that's what I thought 'love' really was at one point. Now I love myself because I know I deserve love no matter what. I know that sounds hokey and like bullshit, but I've spent so much time hating myself and gotten absolutely nowhere in life. It feels daunting, because I know if I started loving myself earlier I would be doing things I couldn't even dream of right now (I've hated myself for close to 30 years at this point). Regardless, I know I'm capable of so much more than I thought previously and I remind myself of that everyday by setting small realistic goals to meet; telling the truth always, so I never feel like there's anything I need to hide, or be ashamed of; and abiding by self-love by always forgiving myself when I fall short of my ideals.
A big boon to this lately has been coming to terms with my trans identity, and no longer living a lie admittedly, but I wouldn't have gotten there in the first place without giving myself the space to relax and accept myself for who I am and where I'm at. Self-love is absolutely foundational and you can have the greatest friends or partner in the world and still feel unworthy and alienated towards them because you don't think yourself worthy of their love, or any love at all for that matter.

 

[AllCatsAreGrey]

No. Definitely not. I'm quite cruel to myself. I try very hard to provide care to other people, but am not good at doing it for myself. I think in the past I felt by doing this I could earn the love of people and get the love I crave.

I'm just starting to learn I have to do this for myself. Most of the time this feels so sad to me. It makes me think of the wire mother experiment - pitiful, sad, and lonely.



Still, I'm trying to shift this. My start is trying to develop more self-compassion.

 

[Leavesfromthevine]

The older I get the more I hate myself. I'm always my worst enemy and end up self sabotaging any good situation I end up in. Not to mention my appearance, I've recently started to lose my hair and at only 22 I feel super insecure about it. I wish I loved myself because I see how much better life is for my peers who don't have as many insecurities seem to do much better in the areas that affect me so much

 

[D!psh!tMcgee]

meant to answer this earlier i love what i have become and my goals it allows me to enjoy what i have gives me a clear end goal and allows me to just say fuck it we do this now if i ever get to pissed and just want to CTB and i CTB honorably and end several pedo scum too for an added bonus i am ready to do what i was put on this earth to do any time i just need to wait for the right time to enact gods will

 

[cryone]

I do not love myself much, but I think that's deserved. I'm not trying to love myself more.

 

[edu0z]

Cause I'm beginning to see that this is the key for me, if not for the most.

When you love someone, you care for him, you want the best for that person. I think that's what self-love is. I don't think self-love is seeing yourself as a being of light or as the most attractive creature in the universe or being a shitty narcissist. I think self-love is about taking care of yourself, making decisions that are best for you and for the people around you since they are also part of you, not putting yourself down. I don't know, just like you would do with a person you love.

 

[Cloud Busting]

@ve.nin

To be able to overcome my problems rather than be defeated by them.

To quote Albert Camus, "The struggle of heights is enough to fill a man's heart."

Overcoming the pain and not being destroyed by it is what I'm working towards.

I think it's a lot easier to live if you accept who you are.

I really like what at @gogoprince and @edu0z had to say. I agree that self compassion and self love isn't about arrogance. It's about accepting your strengths and flaws and taking care of yourself and being the best person you can be in spite of your flaws. I'm working on doing that instead of punishing or depriving myself.

I don't think you have to like every aspect of yourself to be kind to yourself. That's not what it's about.