Discussion do you hate your parents?

[nanfranci]

i think i will always hate my parents somewhere inside me, and i think i'm justified for feeling that way. i wouldn't mind if either of them died tommorow i don't know if i'd even feel sad about it honestly.
for all the neglect and abuse they subjected me to, that even continues to this day, i have removed myself from both of them mentally.
i complacent to their faces and this makes me resent them even more.

i am 18 and graduated now, but i have none of the tools to be an adult and it's their fault. i will be in their care until i am able to at least get some of the tools i will need to be able to be on my own. but who knows when that will be, or if i will even make it that far without ending it lol.

anyways, how do you guys feel about your parents? do you blame them for how you turned out? do you resent or even hate them?

i think that there's no reason to feel guilty for any of this, after all none of us chose to be born. but it's still okay to care and feel guilty for the hate and resentment, even i feel it sometimes.

 

[jonward55]

Yes, for putting me on this earth. Now I want to get off.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I just despise existence in itself, that's where the true problem lies.

 

[Rocinante]

Yeah, they were abusive and trashy. Two disgusting creatures. I also wish mine would die, the world would be a much better place. Don't even like calling the creatures "parents".

i think i will always hate my parents somewhere inside me, and i think i'm justified for feeling that way. i wouldn't mind if either of them died tommorow i don't know if i'd even feel sad about it honestly.
for all the neglect and abuse they subjected me to, that even continues to this day

i think that there's no reason to feel guilty for any of this, after all none of us chose to be born. but it's still okay to care and feel guilty for the hate and resentment, even i feel it sometimes.

You shouldn't feel guilty. You have no obligations to them or anyone.

 

[empty sighs]

I don't really think about my parents anymore on a daily basis. But I understand where you're coming from. I don't think most people are prepared to be "adults" when they turn 18. And I'm sorry you've had shitty parents, that's tough. If your parents hurt you don't be afraid to take this as as an opportunity to break from them and get some independence; make a new family for yourself with friends, and support groups you can count on. As much as I hate to say it, despite what society often tells us, blood isn't everything. Family is what you make it.

Maybe try watching… "Breaking From Your Parents" - Daniel Mackler …if you're interested in the idea.

 

[strigoi]

I feel sorry for you, I completely understand how you feel, I went through it too at your age. And I had to learn the hard way how to be a grown woman.
You are not to blame.

My parents were two irresponsible teenagers. My mother got pregnant at 15, I was born and she abandoned me with my maternal grandmother. My father, I never saw him, I only know his name. I'm not at all curious to know who he is.
I not only despise them, but I also feel disgust and everything bad for them.

 

[gar3z]

i do like them but sometimes i find myself blaming them for the way i turned out: a socially inept mother who needed reassurance 24/7 and a father i was only able to see once a year. i do understand that they didn't know any better and they tried their very best. i know they didn't mean any harm, yet can't help feeling kind of bitter about it.

being upset over it makes me so guilty. it's like they had to look after me for years and here i am still not satisfied, and still a burden to them. i truly feel ashamed and know i'm being ungrateful. i wish this feeling could go away.

 

[StaticCryBabye]

Definitely.

 

[ggetout33]

There are some grievances I sometimes harbor resentment for, but outright hatred no.

 

[Anonymoususer1234]

Absolutely. There's so much bullshit that my parents put me through. They are deeply prejudiced people who absolutely weren't ready to raise children. Me and my siblings have all suffered because of it.

I relate a lot to your situation. I am also young and not financially independent, I also probably wouldn't feel all that sad if my parents died.

 

[PinkyStat]

No, it isnt (really) their fault im here

 

[Jule_from_Germany]

No, I actually love them

 

[AerialBoundaries]

I don't hate them, but they're definitely at fault for the way I turned out. They were neglectful alcoholics during my formative years. Just because there were good times, it doesn't cancel out the bad.

I very much doubt I'll ever have kids, but if I ever do, I will never repeat the same mistakes they made. I have nothing but upmost respect for all the good parents out there.

 

[Livingvsdying25]

Yup. I hate them. I'd be semi sad if my Dad died but more so bc it would fuck with my brothers housing situation.

I'll be partying when my mom does.

That's just how much abusive and neglectful shit they put me through.
Some people really shouldn't have kids and especially not together.

 

[meandthebirds]

there were times were i felt such a strong feeling of hatred towards my mom, i felt ashamed when telling people my situation because i was always met by judgment. "how could one hate their own mother? she's the reason you're even alive" along with them always trying to excuse my mother's behaviour. i know that nobody can be a perfect parent. but some people just shouldn't get kids at all, because they just end up putting their children thru the same trauma they went through (if not worse).

 

[emptyheart]

I've distanced myself from them completely, they only contact me for emergencies. They are abusive and neglectful, both have untreated mental illness. I had to get them out of my life so I could try and sort my own shit out. There are few moments when I feel anything for them, they made my life a miserable experience. I'm done with them, don't know if I'll weep when they die, but I often doubt it.

 

[NoReasonToLive2023]

Not at all. I even dread how they're going to feel when I CTB.

Everything they did for me was out of love, they just didn't know how the hell to handle an Autistic kid back in the 90s.

 

[Al.ce]

Not at all, my mother is the greatest and kindest person I know, I'm more mad about the stigma surrounding suicide and the world in general. We should be allowed to go peacefully and easily if we want to.

 

[Suicidе]

I want to kill them for making multiple irresponsible and selfish decisions.

 

[blacktulip44]

they abused and neglected me when i was little, but i can see how they treat my sister now and though its not perfect, its way better. no physical violence, less gaslighting, less neglect. i resent them for what they did to me, but i dont hate them because they realised their wrong doings and activeltry to be better. i still feel like shit for what they did to me, but at least they wont damage the person i live the most in the world like they damaged me.

 

[kaleidoscopedreams]

I do. They chose to bring me & 3 others into this world, selfishly, as 2 drug addicts trying to work the government for all it had. The abuse that was endured by the hands of those who are supposed to protect & "love" you cannot be forgiven not forgotten. It has been a nasty mark on my soul

 

[oh_no191]

Yes, with an extreme burning passion. They're horrible. I don't think I've met people worse than them.

 

[magician99]

Yes. I hate them. They both abused me physically and emotionally for years, and because they never taught me anything, I had to learn everything on my own.
My father is physically abusive, homophobic, and a racist.
My mother is physically and emotionally abusive, and a narcissist.
I don't know how many times my father chased me through the house to beat me up with his belt, or how many times my mother beat me with the wooden spoon because of something as insignificant as homework.
I truly believe that some people should be never allowed to have children.
I'm glad that I moved out because I could never express myself while I was with them.

 

[Death is my goal]

no, even if they were the cause of my pain i still won't hate them.

 

[JusMe]

No, losing my mom to cancer is the reason I want to die. She was my best friend

 

[ThroughTheLight]

No, I love my parents, they sacrificed a lot for me. The fact that my parents would be devastated if I die is the main thing stopping me from ctb at the moment.

 

[sadandlonely99]

No, I just despise existence in itself, that's where the true problem lies.

Yeah and who brought you into existence?

 

[ringo99]

Love my mum hate my dad

 

[TooConscious]

It's hard not to hate at least aspects of them, their denial of terrible mistakes, but feel an authority to criticise you on your own life choices.

 

[Vizzy]

Yes I hate mine, when I think about my childhood