Discussion do you guys also feel bad for not enjoying your youth?

[thankgodfor]

I'm 18 I feel very guilty for not being able to enjoy my life while I still have energy and physical health, I wanted so much to go out and party and socialize with more people but i just can't get over my shyness and i know I will feel very guilty about that when I get older.
I dont think I'm insecure tbh I really like the way I look, I'm just so shy to the point I can't even look at peoples eyes sometimes. I feel like I could be so happy if I weren't so shy cause everyone says that youth is like the best part of life and Im wasting it :/

 

[avoid_slow_death]

I kinda did. Met lots of people, lived a bunch of different places, had fun experiences, even got to do things few people ever get to do. However, behind the scenes, things were still brutal and terrible. Still being abused, betrayed, used, spiraling into the drug culture, suicide attempts and just a general sense of not fitting in anywhere, but longing to.

So yeah, I sure did have fun in my youth, but, like now, the ideation is THE predominant force in my life. Has been since I was a child.

 

[FuneralCry]

No. I am 20, and my youth has been terrible. I am tired of being alive. In my case, I have no interest in living and the type of things that other people enjoy. I want nothing to do with life. Ever since I was young, the only thing I have wanted is to not exist. I cannot stand people. I regret not ctb at an earlier age.

 

[motyxia]

I'm 19, I feel bad but I don't feel guilty. I did try but I'm not normal. It's too late now so I try to ignore it, no point in feeling bad about it, but it still bothers me a lot even though I know it's pointless. I wish I was normal. These lyrics from Endless Nightmare by Josh A & Jake Hill say it, you might relate to them too: "I wish for time back, I really gotta stop that / Because living in the past is so exhausting / I'm getting older, it's never stopping" It also scares me that people say it's the best your life will be when you're young, if that's true then life is going to get so much worse from here.

Do you feel guilty for yourself or someone else?

 

[whywere]

Hi! your post made my heart ache AND made me want to tell you about me, as I was the same way wat back when. when my folks kicked me out I was on my own, duh!, and I had never been around a lot of people and I was terribly shy. I too could not look someone in their eyes or anything like that.

I over came my shyness, it took some time and doing and I 100% believe in you as time moves on you will open up like a beautiful flower and be awesome.

I was 18 in 1974 and mention this because I still am shy to some degree but I have acquired skills to help over come, to some degree at least, my shyness and you will to. It takes some time and effort but you will do great.

Please feel free to pm me if you would like to as we are all together as a family here and I want only the very best for you, hands down.

Have a great day and smile as you are a beautiful, kind soul with so much to give everyone.

Walter

 

[TheAmazingCriswell]

Wasting your youth and missing out on the milestones associated with it is worse than growing old, since ageing is inevitable.
The man who enjoys his youth and the man who does not will both age. The latter may find happiness later in life, but the happiness of middle or old age will never be the same as the happiness of youth, and he will never have the opportunity to make up for it, as youth is a nonrecurring experience.

 

[Snake of Eden]

At 36 i did my best to enjoy it while it lasts. Now i hit a dead end where i dont have the same opportunities for enjoyment i once had. I dont regret trying though even if i couldnt enjoy it to the max

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I like the George Bernard Shaw quote, "youth is wasted on the young." It makes sense too, because you might have time on your side and your looks etc, but you lack the charisma and resources to really live large and enjoy it. I only ever wanted to hide away and play video games when I was a kid, only occasionally going for a night out or something. But I wouldn't really have done it any other way. I was never sociable enough to want to network all that much. Growing up I had a lot of friends backstab me, so cultivating relationships outside of an occasional hookup was not something I cared to do either.

At the end of the day we're all unique and do what we're most comfortable with in the moment. There's nothing wrong with that.

 

[ClownMe]

My youth was always bound to be terrible due to me having narcassistic and neglectful parents, if I could go back to my primary school or high school days all I would probably do differently is goof around a bit more and not take it as seriously.

 

[medjooled11]

I was thinking about this today. I've wasted much time, and had I not I would be much happier.
I had the means and opportunity for rich experiences yet I didn't. Instead I ignored my true self and devoted all my time to work and school.
In hindsight, I was always distracted.
I never stopped to think, to breathe, or to live.

Wasting your youth and missing out on the milestones associated with it is worse than growing old, since ageing is inevitable.
The man who enjoys his youth and the man who does not will both age. The latter may find happiness later in life, but the happiness of middle or old age will never be the same as the happiness of youth, and he will never have the opportunity to make up for it, as youth is a nonrecurring experience.

This response makes me want to cry. :(

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I hope you will be able to make some memories you can cherish, 18 begins to feel like an eternity away once you hit your twenties. I'm 22 now, and I think life is completely over for me.

I'm autistic so I can understand completely how being unable to make eye contact and lacking in confident, extroverted mannerisms damages your social life.

My childhood and teenage years were ruined by autism, illness, and trauma. Everytime I walk past a sixth form/college I see lots of younger people eating outside with their friends, or walking home together with them, laughing, chatting, having a blast and it cuts at me so deeply to witness these simple pleasures of youth that life deprived me of.

 

[ellieUK]

I didn't have any choice and feel like my youth was taken from me really.

 

[TheHatedOne]

Not really, it's just a meaningless time in my life, just as like any other. I'm just looking forward to death.

 

[deleted]

I turned 19 or two days ago and I didn't even care about the day, I just accept that all this is not for me, parties, friends, girlfriend, rich European stuff

 

[demuic]

I don't feel bad about it since it wasn't my choice to not be able to enjoy it. I see the past, present, and future as being a waste. There is nothing I want do anymore. Even if I did want to do anything, I would not be able to enjoy it or it would become ruined somehow.

 

[motel rooms]

I did my best to make the most of my youth. It's hard to enjoy it when you know bloodcurdling things about life that other kids don't. It's very bad for your brain health to be young & wise. There's a Suzanne Vega song called "Bad Wisdom": Too young to know too much too soon, bad wisdom, it's bad wisdom... You just wanna grab everyone by the collar & shake them until they realize they don't know shit about shit. I have to admit I humiliated more than a couple of arrogant jerks by seducing them & then acting like they didn't exist. Shed a tear, obnoxious asshole, you might grow a soul.

 

[stygal]

Don't feel too bad either. Life has ebbs and flows of "stuff happening" and for it to be the right time. You're "only" 18. If you wanted to you could make an effort to put yourself out there - build up a social circle or do whatever you still want to do later.

I had a few "party" years after school and then I was too sick to leave the house for a while - those years were really wasted and unenjoyable.

Now I'm still in moderate pain but it's getting better and even though I'm in my late twenties I could still do everything as someone in their early twenties (if I had the mental/physical strength for it) - life does not end once you hit 25.

 

[Cheers]

and i know I will feel very guilty about that when I get older.

When i— what?


sorry, had to take this opportunity, no offense op!

 

[TheAmazingCriswell]

This response makes me want to cry.

I'm sorry, that was not my intention.

 

[motel rooms]

the happiness of middle or old age will never be the same as the happiness of youth

You don't know what you're talking about, boy. Happiness of middle age is awesome. I guarantee you that you'll blossom when you hit 40

 

[Chockles]

I have believed for years its crippling physical issues I have. That indeed is my reason for needing to CTN ASAP bed ridden in agony but it's only recently I've fully realised how much my mental health affected me from a very young age not just my physical. At the time I thought my life was OK. Looking back I can see it was more shit than good

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Average youth fan vs average end-of-life enjoyer.

 

[Shadowplay]

Average youth fan vs average end-of-life enjoyer.

OK laughing at this a lot more than I should be...

 

[LonelyBrazilian]

Yes, i'm very shy too. I feel a little guilty when I remember that I didn't enjoy my youth and i know that will haunt me all my life. When I go out and see simple things like friends talking or couples kissing, it ruins my week.

 

[CFLoser]

the idea of "youth" and the idealized idea of it don't exist and haven't existed since internet existed.

We live in a world where basically, all men are mentally damaged from seeing porn when they were young, and women also seeing porn but also having social media and media in general take a big shit on them.

Okay, so in a world where 90% of people are damaged in some significant capacity, a normal "youth" isn't possible.

 

[thankgodfor]

I'm 19, I feel bad but I don't feel guilty. I did try but I'm not normal. It's too late now so I try to ignore it, no point in feeling bad about it, but it still bothers me a lot even though I know it's pointless. I wish I was normal. These lyrics from Endless Nightmare by Josh A & Jake Hill say it, you might relate to them too: "I wish for time back, I really gotta stop that / Because living in the past is so exhausting / I'm getting older, it's never stopping" It also scares me that people say it's the best your life will be when you're young, if that's true then life is going to get so much worse from here.

Do you feel guilty for yourself or someone else?

I don't know ecxatly, to be honest what makes me feel worse is when I watch some random teen movies and see people going on parties and doing crazy things with friends and etc. I do have friends to talk to and to go out but I feel like my life was always boring/mediocre, I know that I will get old and have no stories to tell abt my youth and I feel guilty cause I know its my fault that my life is like this, even though I didn't ask to be born shy and with no social skills lol
I know we are not here to read cliche advices but I can't help saying that you are still so young, its not too late to try again if you want to !!! also thanks for the song mention! I heard it and I really like it

Hi! your post made my heart ache AND made me want to tell you about me, as I was the same way wat back when. when my folks kicked me out I was on my own, duh!, and I had never been around a lot of people and I was terribly shy. I too could not look someone in their eyes or anything like that.

I over came my shyness, it took some time and doing and I 100% believe in you as time moves on you will open up like a beautiful flower and be awesome.

I was 18 in 1974 and mention this because I still am shy to some degree but I have acquired skills to help over come, to some degree at least, my shyness and you will to. It takes some time and effort but you will do great.

Please feel free to pm me if you would like to as we are all together as a family here and I want only the very best for you, hands down.

Have a great day and smile as you are a beautiful, kind soul with so much to give everyone.

Walter

such kind words, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart! reading about you really gave me hope to keep trying, if someday I reach your age I hope to be half as cool as you are Walter.

Yes, i'm very shy too. I feel a little guilty when I remember that I didn't enjoy my youth and i know that will haunt me all my life. When I go out and see simple things like friends talking or couples kissing, it ruins my week.

não sei se fico triste ou feliz quando encontro um brasileiro por aqui, pelo menos posso escrever em português hahahha
acho que vc não vai dar a minima pra o que eu vou dizer aqui, mas vc ainda é muito jovem e tem muito muito tempo pra tentar se vc quiser, apenas seja gentil consigo mesmo e não fique se culpando por coisas que vc não escolheu ou não tem como controlar. tudo de bom pra vc e pode me chamar se quiser conversar ou desabafar em português :)

 

[Shadowplay]

I was suicidal; anyone displeased with me about not enjoying me can contact me so I can give you the coordinates to my nutsack.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Not so much not enjoying it, but not having as much freedom as I would have liked. Sometimes I feel like my mother lived my youth for me. I cannot reclaim those years.

 

[LonelyBrazilian]

não sei se fico triste ou feliz quando encontro um brasileiro por aqui, pelo menos posso escrever em português hahahha
acho que vc não vai dar a minima pra o que eu vou dizer aqui, mas vc ainda é muito jovem e tem muito muito tempo pra tentar se vc quiser, apenas seja gentil consigo mesmo e não fique se culpando por coisas que vc não escolheu ou não tem como controlar. tudo de bom pra vc e pode me chamar se quiser conversar ou desabafar em português :)

Obrigado pelas palavras, mas é muito difícil ter esperanças e continuar tentando, ainda mais vivendo nessa sociedade de hoje em dia.

 

[Futile]

Yes, I'm not particularly old but I constantly think about the life that could've been