Do you feel you will never be loved by anyone?

[08nomore]

This is one of the main reasons life is worth living imo: being loved and share your life with anothers humans beings through your life in a affective/sexual dimension.

Do you get this feeling that you will never be able to experience this whole thing?

 

[LampShadeWax]

Yes, all the time; I actually have a lyric in a song I wrote that goes: "I noticed, love ain't guaranteed, but it's something that we need, and that's horrible to me." I really don't feel like trying anymore

 

[08nomore]

Yes, all the time; I actually have a lyric in a song I wrote that goes: "I noticed, love ain't guaranteed, but it's something that we need, and that's horrible to me." I really don't feel like trying anymore

I gave up too, my self steam is too low to even care at this point. And dont get me wrong but I am a good looking man by society's standards and this makes things even worse in my head. I could be with someone but Im not. People around me dont understand why Im not engaged with anyone.

Well, Im depressed for so long now .... SN is my method btw ...

 

[LampShadeWax]

I gave up too, my self steam is too low to even care at this point. And dont get me wrong but I am a good looking man by society's standards and this makes things even worse in my head. I could be with someone but Im not. People around me dont understand why Im not engaged with anyone.

Well, Im depressed for so long now .... SN is my method btw ...

Sorry to hear that man. Yeah, it makes it worse to because I live in a big city and I'm constantly seeing other people in what seem to be happy loving relationships and I just keep circling the same pit of loneliness. Every time I like a girl it's like she instinctively dislikes me back. People always ask me why I'm not in a relationship too as if it's my fault.

 

[Karma]

We are one in the same 08nomore, I am not too bad myself and a lot of people believe i shouldn't have any issue finding a partner.

But for some reason I do.

Unfortunately for this same reason I will ctb.

Not to mention, my life is utter dogsh*t.

And yes the feeling of knowing you will never experience anything, while others who are lot less worthy of it / don't deserve it but get it is extremely aggravating.

Makes me want to just do something, very, very, horrible.​

 

[Alan James]

I feel nothing and I have no empathy so seems I am not able to feel love. I am 31, I am a virgin, I have never kissed and do not know how to do this, never understood how people kiss? I also have a very small dick - it's just like some kind of joke or anomaly, it's ridiculous.

Maybe love is just the result of instincts that should be controlled? I mean, it may be good, you control your instincts - most of society does not (and does not try and does not want). And I don't know if "love" really exists?

 

[Roberto]

Yes. I'll never be loved by anyone. It's better that way. No harm to anyone (me & others)

 

[lone3wolf7]

I felt loved for a period of time. Craved love from someone I like for a period of time. Now I no longer need love of any sort. It's done. I am numb now.

 

[not_a_robot]

This is one of the main reasons life is worth living imo: being loved and share your life with anothers humans beings through your life in a affective/sexual dimension.

Do you get this feeling that you will never be able to experience this whole thing?

I think that's a false ideal used by society to keep us all chasing something we will never have. I've never met a person whose relationship was actually like that. They all pretend it is and sometimes the even fool themselves into believing it, but if you look close you can see they are all just disappointed fakers who are just going through the motions.

I know no one will ever love me but it doesn't bother me because I know the reality of human interaction is a hassle I don't want anyway.
Oxytocin is nothing but a hallucinogen that makes people imagine shit that doesn't exist. Studies have shown that peoples' intelligence and critical-thinking scores tank when they're in love.

It's all just a tantalizing mirage that only gets further away as you run toward it.

 

[ExitTheDay]

I've loved and have been loved, but lost it all... (way too many times to comprehend) so to me it's not worth the heartache to love or be loved ever again

 

[Mysterymeat]

I've come to a place in my life where I no longer desire this. Some time ago I felt it was almost impossible to find that somebody but after a really traumatic experience trying to have this, I no longer desire it. I don't want anything else from life actually.

But I do understand. During my long term relationships I never wanted to commit suicide. I think if you want to find someone to share life with, you will. It just takes time and effort.

I think that's a false ideal used by society to keep us all chasing something we will never have. I've never met a person whose relationship was actually like that. They all pretend it is and sometimes the even fool themselves into believing it, but if you look close you can see they are all just disappointed fakers who are just going through the motions.

I know no one will ever love me but it doesn't bother me because I know the reality of human interaction is a hassle I don't want anyway.
Oxytocin is nothing but a hallucinogen that makes people imagine shit that doesn't exist. Studies have shown that peoples' intelligence and critical-thinking scores tank when they're in love.

It's all just a tantalizing mirage that only gets further away as you run toward it.

This is, sadly, the truth behind it all and why I don't want it. Well said.

 

[not_a_robot]

I felt loved for a period of time. Craved love from someone I like for a period of time. Now I no longer need love of any sort. It's done. I am numb now.

I wish that were true for me but I am still very vulnerable to the hormones that make people think they're in love. If I meet someone I like, I have to get away from them quickly before my ovaries start shooting love-drugs into my brain and make me all stupid. It's not a pleasant experience for me to love guys. It's like being trapped on a rollercoaster or a bad LSD trip, my personality changes in ways I can't control and I can see that I'm becoming irrational but I'm powerless to stop it. Here is a sample of what happens in my brain when I like a guy:

LOVE BRAIN: that guy is so awesome. maybe it would be nice to leave a cute little gift for him or something, so he knows I'm really thinking about him.

RATIONAL BRAIN: you are not going to do that because it is silly and dumb and he will think you are becoming clingy and creepy, and you ARE, STOP IT!

LOVE BRAIN: I left him a teddy bear dressed in a soccer Jersey, he will think that is so cute!

RATIONAL BRAIN: Love Brain, you are a terrible roommate, you're ruining my life, you have to leave!

LOVE BRAIN: No! I'm on the lease! I'm not going anywhere! Let's go buy him more teddy bears!

 

[Mysterymeat]

I feel nothing and I have no empathy so seems I am not able to feel love. I am 31, I am a virgin, I have never kissed and do not know how to do this, never understood how people kiss? I also have a very small dick - it's just like some kind of joke or anomaly, it's ridiculous.

Maybe love is just the result of instincts that should be controlled? I mean, it may be good, you control your instincts - most of society does not (and does not try and does not want). And I don't know if "love" really exists?

I'm sorry.

 

[Oblivion Lover]

I suppose I'm loved by a few people, but it doesn't matter since I don't believe in the normal definition of love. If you think about it logically, love is just a chemical reaction on the brain that makes you think you care for others, but in reality all you want is for them to please you in some way or other. It also is a tool used by mother nature to promote social bonding, which increases survival and reproduction odds, which is all that matters for that psycho freak in the end. I try to not care about it.

 

[Bärchen]

Yes, i hate love. Its always one sided and i'm on the bad side. I wish a off button for this crap existed and its the main reason i want to ctb one day.

 

[Mort]

I fell in love with the most beautiful lass ever well to she was :) it was not just on the out side she had this inner beauty and you could not help falling in love with her. But new it was not going to work as she had sum one already but told her any way had to be honest i owe her that much . So we sat down one day and had a chat about it in the end she said all we could be is friends close friends i was happy with that as it ment we would stay in contact chat go out from time to time . But after seven years of being best friends she started to chat to me less and less and one she just stop returning my texts . I sent her a letter to but no reply i dont what i did to make her jusy dump me if i over step the mark and ended the friendship i like to know . Would you like to know if it happened to you. Well i know i never going to fall in love any more just to painful she was my first true love sum one i love with all my hart but sum how i let it get in the ways and ruined the best friendship i ever had. So from now on no more loving any one or just being friends just yo painful. Back to being the sad old loner sod emotions wish i could be like spock in star trek i know he just a actor in a tv show but all was envy him no emotions what they not to like? . Well love over any ways well say tata for now

 

[not_a_robot]

I'm sorry.

Love doesn't really exist but I still want to give you some.
You are right,it is all neurochemicals and animal instinct, but I know that is not much comfort when everybody else in the world seems to be easily enjoying something that you feel excluded from.
Lol, do you want to know what my loneliness cope is? It's embarrassing but fuck it, I will tell you.
Society is on a mission to flood you with images of happy breeders in love, and sexy girls to keep you horny, it's intended to keep you motivated to breed new taxpayers, participate and fulfill your role in the economy, etc.
The backlash is that it's actually very cruel to instill those longings in people who can't attain them.

i decided to subvert/invert that programming by flooding myself with the opposite. Images of the murderous, awful outcomes of fake happy couples. Miserable marital betrayals. It's not hard to find those stories by the dozens.
"Husband kills wife."
"Wife shoots husband".

I just felt like I needed to balance out the false propaganda with some harsh reality, to keep my psyche balanced. To remember what really lies behind those grinning Facebook posts.
I get a little mild enjoyment from the Schadenfreud, I make fun of them with horribly cruel comments to myself, it's really kind of asinine.

I wouldn't say it necessarily makes me feel "better".
More like, when you're flooded with pretty lies 24/7, sometimes it's good to annihilate them with a dose of the ugly truth.

sorry, I know this doesn't help much.

Google the phrases
"my husband/ wife gave me"
and look at the top autocomplete results, if you want to see what's really happening behind most happy wedding photos. Then you will see what you are really missing out on by not having relationships, lol.

I feel nothing and I have no empathy so seems I am not able to feel love. I am 31, I am a virgin, I have never kissed and do not know how to do this, never understood how people kiss? I also have a very small dick - it's just like some kind of joke or anomaly, it's ridiculous.

Maybe love is just the result of instincts that should be controlled? I mean, it may be good, you control your instincts - most of society does not (and does not try and does not want). And I don't know if "love" really exists?

The text above was meant as a reply to you, I hit the wrong reply button the first time.

 

[Alan James]

Love doesn't really exist but I still want to give you some.
You are right,it is all neurochemicals and animal instinct, but I know that is not much comfort when everybody else in the world seems to be easily enjoying something that you feel excluded from.
Lol, do you want to know what my loneliness cope is? It's embarrassing but fuck it, I will tell you.
Society is on a mission to flood you with images of happy breeders in love, and sexy girls to keep you horny, it's intended to keep you motivated to breed new taxpayers, participate and fulfill your role in the economy, etc.
The backlash is that it's actually very cruel to instill those longings in people who can't attain them.

i decided to subvert/invert that programming by flooding myself with the opposite. Images of the murderous, awful outcomes of fake happy couples. Miserable marital betrayals. It's not hard to find those stories by the dozens.
"Husband kills wife."
"Wife shoots husband".

Yes, that's right. This is all a hoax. Love is the result of the action of body chemistry - just like using strong drugs. Love and sex is part of a conveyor system for creating new slaves and consumers. The state and society deliberately promote this.

I have never suffered because of the inability to experience love - it was a problem for me that I live in a society that so brainwashed and degraded that I cann't be honest and say what i think, I voluntarily chose loneliness and retreat. If you are not engaging in sex and love, then you should not worry about it or suffer only for this reason (or kill yourself just for this reason), consider yourself inferior - you are simply not a drug addict and control your instincts, you should respect yourself for it.

Porn, virtual reality, robots for these purposes - all this helps to fight this disgusting conveyor system, use this as a way to fool those instincts, hack them.

 

[Rocksandsand]

I wish that were true for me but I am still very vulnerable to the hormones that make people think they're in love. If I meet someone I like, I have to get away from them quickly before my ovaries start shooting love-drugs into my brain and make me all stupid. It's not a pleasant experience for me to love guys. It's like being trapped on a rollercoaster or a bad LSD trip, my personality changes in ways I can't control and I can see that I'm becoming irrational but I'm powerless to stop it. Here is a sample of what happens in my brain when I like a guy:

LOVE BRAIN: that guy is so awesome. maybe it would be nice to leave a cute little gift for him or something, so he knows I'm really thinking about him.

RATIONAL BRAIN: you are not going to do that because it is silly and dumb and he will think you are becoming clingy and creepy, and you ARE, STOP IT!

LOVE BRAIN: I left him a teddy bear dressed in a soccer Jersey, he will think that is so cute!

RATIONAL BRAIN: Love Brain, you are a terrible roommate, you're ruining my life, you have to leave!

LOVE BRAIN: No! I'm on the lease! I'm not going anywhere! Let's go buy him more teddy bears!

So accurate... Get out of my head

 

[Ruffian]

I went through a lot of bad relationships and heartache in my day. I didn't find love until I was 43, and we are broke all the time & worry about becoming homeless. I had a lot to do with the situation with my bipolar, BPD and pain issues all combining in this nasty brew and me freaking out. I feel so bad for my bf sometimes and don't know how he stays with me. I agree with you all that the societal images and expectations are ridiculous. Love is more of an action than a feeling IMHO. And there's no happy ending to any love story - someone always has to die first. I remember my uncle telling me how unhappy he was after my aunt died - he went 6 months after her even though he had been relatively healthy.

 

[tomz323]

Yes

This is one of the main reasons life is worth living imo: being loved and share your life with anothers humans beings through your life in a affective/sexual dimension.

Do you get this feeling that you will never be able to experience this whole thing?

Never felt loved, never will. Why bother trying? Time to CTB.

 

[not_a_robot]

Yes, that's right. This is all a hoax. Love is the result of the action of body chemistry - just like using strong drugs. Love and sex is part of a conveyor system for creating new slaves and consumers. The state and society deliberately promote this.

I have never suffered because of the inability to experience love - it was a problem for me that I live in a society that so brainwashed and degraded that I cann't be honest and say what i think, I voluntarily chose loneliness and retreat. If you are not engaging in sex and love, then you should not worry about it or suffer only for this reason (or kill yourself just for this reason), consider yourself inferior - you are simply not a drug addict and control your instincts, you should respect yourself for it.

Porn, virtual reality, robots for these purposes - all this helps to fight this disgusting conveyor system, use this as a way to fool those instincts, hack them.

lol did you do the google autocomplete?
The answer to "the thing husbands and wives give eachother most" is:
(drumroll)
VENEREAL DISEASE!

 

[Alan James]

lol did you do the google autocomplete?
The answer to "the thing husbands and wives give eachother most" is:
(drumroll)
VENEREAL DISEASE!

Haha

"Life is a disease: sexually transmitted, and invariably fatal."

Neil Gaiman

 

[justanotherday]

We are one in the same 08nomore, I am not too bad myself and a lot of people believe i shouldn't have any issue finding a partner.

But for some reason I do.

Unfortunately for this same reason I will ctb.

Not to mention, my life is utter dogsh*t.

And yes the feeling of knowing you will never experience anything, while others who are lot less worthy of it / don't deserve it but get it is extremely aggravating.

Makes me want to just do something, very, very, horrible.​

yes, I will never understand why some people have it so good, but the rest of us don't.

I think that's a false ideal used by society to keep us all chasing something we will never have. I've never met a person whose relationship was actually like that. They all pretend it is and sometimes the even fool themselves into believing it, but if you look close you can see they are all just disappointed fakers who are just going through the motions.

I know no one will ever love me but it doesn't bother me because I know the reality of human interaction is a hassle I don't want anyway.
Oxytocin is nothing but a hallucinogen that makes people imagine shit that doesn't exist. Studies have shown that peoples' intelligence and critical-thinking scores tank when they're in love.

It's all just a tantalizing mirage that only gets further away as you run toward it.

I agree with you 100 percent.

 

[Bulletwbttrflywings]

This is one of the main reasons life is worth living imo: being loved and share your life with anothers humans beings through your life in a affective/sexual dimension.

Do you get this feeling that you will never be able to experience this whole thing?

all the time.

 

[Crushed_Innocence]

No. I fear I will never feel love for anyone who loves me.

 

[bakedbombshell]

for people with the chemical reaction shit, i think that's infatuation and when the bad comes eventually and you decide to stay, that's love

 

[Sweet emotion]

This is one of the main reasons life is worth living imo: being loved and share your life with anothers humans beings through your life in a affective/sexual dimension.

Do you get this feeling that you will never be able to experience this whole thing?

Oh I know it. I got sick at 20 with an awful pain condition called Complex Regional Pain Syndrome and that prevented me from having any kind of relationship with a guy. I'm 34 now and don't know one thing about what love is or what it feels like to be in love. That is one of the most important things this condition has taken away from me. Not the most important but it's pretty up there.

 

[NotMeant2B]

Kinda the reason I want to ctb. Not the complete story tho, but it's very important to me.

 

[pole]

nope. won't give someone else the opportunity to love me. wouldn't wanna inflict my heartache and shitty luck on someone else.