Discussion Do you feel like you get ignored?

[TheSoulless]

I always seem to get ignored. In group chats, conversations, everywhere. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like other people automatically have an indifferent attitude or even dislikes towards me.

 

[Life_and_Death]

i always feel like im at the back of the pack at social gatherings, the quiet one in the corner while everyone else talks and laughs. it wasnt something i did optionally, i just didnt want to interrupt and no one ever gave me a chance to speak. so yeah i understand being ignored

 

[Life sucks]

Yea I don't like being within groups or communities and I don't like to fit or follow their rules. People always ignore me specially when I use logic to explain something. I always have my own way of thinking and doing things so I'm automatically being hated because I'm different. I used to care about that and how everywhere I'm ignored or disliked, they hurt me a lot, but now I don't care about them anymore. It happens everywhere to me also and they ignore me in chats, conversations, etc

 

[elfgyoza]

I always seem to get ignored. In group chats, conversations, everywhere. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like other people automatically have an indifferent attitude or even dislikes towards me.

I'm sorry you've felt like this. It's hard, feeling lonely in a group of people, thinking no one will listen to you. I think I'm just like an NPC in a game sometimes, wondering around, barely ever heard from or seen.

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I feel like that a lot. I can relate to what others have said on here, especially @Life_and_Death I've been fortunate and have found people who seem to value my company, but it still hurts when others seem to ignore me. Just brings up a lot of that old pain.

 

[Caspers]

All the time. I feel like second best everywhere

 

[Mentalmick]

All the time. I feel like second best everywhere

Same hear. I'm super quiet and painfully shy/awkward which doesn't help.

 

[VisionsOfHell]

Yeah I've often been ignored and left out of social gatherings throughout my life. Hence I was forced to develop a sense of humour because the only way for people to aknowledge and take interest in me was to say something funny.

Happens on here too of course (why should it be different?). Humand are just very group oriented so I cant really blame them.

 

[StringPuppet]

Yes, that's partly why I don't bother putting myself out there

 

[demuic]

Yea I don't like being within groups or communities and I don't like to fit or follow their rules. People always ignore me specially when I use logic to explain something. I always have my own way of thinking and doing things so I'm automatically being hated because I'm different. I used to care about that and how everywhere I'm ignored or disliked, they hurt me a lot, but now I don't care about them anymore. It happens everywhere to me also and they ignore me in chats, conversations, etc

That's exactly how I am too. I consider myself an individual, I won't change myself to fit other people, but sadly that seems to be what you need to do to be accepted by others..

 

[MrBlue]

All the time when I'm with more than 1/2 people. Either the conversation changes at a pace that I can't keep up with while trying to take in everything else (and make sure I don't say anything stupid), or everyone involved just acts as if I'm not there and it becomes increasing awkward to stick around.

 

[drwt]

I'm sorry you've felt like this. It's hard, feeling lonely in a group of people, thinking no one will listen to you. I think I'm just like an NPC in a game sometimes, wondering around, barely ever heard from or seen.

I feel the other way. I think everybody else is the NPC. Their conversations are so mindless and boring oftentimes and it's almost like they're in a loop of saying the same scripted lines.

Don't worry though. If groups aren't your thing, don't force it. There will be guys (or girls!) out there that are like you and think like you and with who you can have amazing talks with and make fun of all the NPCs.

 

[NightmareTour]

I'm definitely a background character. I'm a chronic people pleaser, and I learned from a young age to just stay quiet and out of the way. I don't really have any talents, skills or interesting hobbies. Even when I've been with groups of people I'm more comfortable with, I've never had the same energy, physical ability or social skills. I'm not sure I even have a personality. Definitely big NPC energy.

 

[AprilsBlessings]

Yes since i was a kid, i think it's one of the reasons why i'm super introverted now

 

[Sprite_Geist]

Yes I think I am a ghost in the eyes of many others. This is not necessarily bad because I am often quiet and keep to myself anyway - I like being a background process most of the time actually. However there were a few times when I had meat individuals that I had a connection to, but they did not always feel the same way, and in those instances being ignored was pretty hurtful.

 

[TheHatedOne]

All. The. Time. It's the story of my life.

 

[Scribble Fan]

Yes, I've always sort of melted into the background. Never been anyone's proper friend, just some background noise until their real friends come along. I don't know why, maybe it's because I'm socially awkward, quiet, and boring :(

 

[FuneralCry]

I know I would do if I tried to communicate with others. I am incredibly boring with nothing to say. However I am incredibly introverted and I would rather just keep my distance from people. In general I cannot stand people, they are tiring. People can also be very cruel and can cause us lots of pain.

 

[stellabelle]

I always seem to get ignored. In group chats, conversations, everywhere. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like other people automatically have an indifferent attitude or even dislikes towards me.

Absolutely. In group projects when I was still in college, by family members, by miscellaneous people that listen to how they can cause me emotional distress or by ignoring me when I say no, I don’t want your “help” (they always create more problems for me - no I do t want to have sex, no, I don’t want to be bothered, no I don’t want your tweakers in my bathroom, no I don’t want my stuff stolen, and so on. No, I want to go to sleep. Etc. stop screaming at me, stop preventing me from leaving, stop stealing from me, so on. No, I’m studying. No, you ruined my life. No, leave me alone. Stalkers, creeps, perverts, thieves, people who just don’t stop, they’re so arrogant. I see it coming and they ignore me when I tell them no, leave me alone, get away from me, don’t bother me, and so on.