It would be one or a mix of the following:
- reprimands, shaming, guilt tripping
- pressure to seek some sort of help and to talk.
I do not want any of that. The first, reasons I don't are obvious. The second, several defined personal reasons.
Some people called the police to check on me because I ceased contact with everyone. What's that gonna do if you don't show obvious, serious distress or they see other serious signs in your home?
I'll tell you what it did for me. I smiled politely and calmly, told them everything was fine, and off they went.
And then, I felt incredibly alienated, betrayed, unsafe, horribly raw and vulnerable, and intruded upon. For a long time, and especially that unsafe feeling never went away.
You bet it reinforced my reasons for and executing of the total radio silence. I mostly stopped posting here aswell because it could be unsafe.
One of the most brutal things was hearing and seeing my partner of ten years tell me, after the breakup, how much better they feel now. Several times in one meeting. I would say it destroyed me, but in reality there wasn't much left to be destroyed, and also it is utterly logical, understandable and foreseeable for them to feel that way. I just sat there looking at them. The first time I just replied "I know". The rest just washed through me, I already felt emotionally dead.
The singular thing that elicited a slightly positive feeling was single messages with an open offer to help, if I want. Two people did that, once each. That was the only sensible thing that happened. For a moment I felt seen and respected.
In essence it doesn't differ that much from before. I was still lonely, inside. Now there is no additional burden of the reminding of the feelings and needs of others, of which I am not able take care anymore.