Do you ever plan on having children?

[Retroguy]

No, never.
I will never be a father.
Life is a nightmare and I don't want to force anyone to live it like I was by my parents.
When you have a child you are opening him to endless potential suffering.
Look at me I suffer greatly because I have no friends and no gf and I feel lonely and anxious most of the time.
If my parents didn't decide to have me I wouldn't be suffering right now.
I don't want my potential children to suffer which is why I will never have them.

 

[アホペンギン]

Thats just cruel to have children, there is the undeniable existence of unlimited potential of endless and treatment resistant suffering in this world, even if your life is somewhat good for the first years or even for the majority of it. Its extremely cruel in my opinion to force this unnecessary suffering onto someone who was previously immune to all harm. Its tragic how people are so unaware of this truth and still bring people into this world, even those who know that their children will suffer still force them to endure this agony.

 

[リンさん]

Absolutely not.

I am autistic. I have sensory issues and can't handle pets, a child would be even worse. I don't desire to have a second job on top of my already shaky position. It's an enormous responsibility, bringing a new being into existence and devoting the better part of your life to raising it.

The world also sucks. It's not getting better. I live in one of the worst countries to add insult to injury. My kid will end up being extremely miserable and hateful of their parent.

I don't hate people who choose to reproduce responsibly. It's not my business. If it wasn't for my circumstances, I think kids could enrich my life and bring something nothing else can.

 

[MatthieuFrederickW]

Lol nope not in this world. Maybe in the next life…

 

[Dayrain]

I think that's a thread for the Recovery section...

 

[Agon321]

Apart from the fact that I plan to do CTB by the end of the year, I would probably never have children anyway. I'm not much of a family person, let alone settle down. I wouldn't want to have children (or even a girlfriend) if I couldn't provide them with a very decent life. Of course, if everyone thought like me, we would have become extinct a long time ago.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I never intended to have children.

 

[FailureToAll]

No.

I used to really want children when I was younger it was probably one of the only things I knew for sure I wanted.

I don't know what exact moment everything changed but at some point I realised how uncertain the future is and how much suffering there is in the world and I realised I had also become a bad person unfit to be a mother. I'm too mentally unstable. It hurt a lot when I first had these thoughts I felt like I was grieving my future. But now I feel content with not having children. And I don't want to live long enough for that anyway, it would be cruel to bring a child into the world and then leave them

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I want to be a child myself never to have children that would scare the shit out of me I feel old enough as it is.

 

[MatthieuFrederickW]

No.

I used to really want children when I was younger it was probably one of the only things I knew for sure I wanted.

I don't know what exact moment everything changed but at some point I realised how uncertain the future is and how much suffering there is in the world and I realised I had also become a bad person unfit to be a mother. I'm too mentally unstable. It hurt a lot when I first had these thoughts I felt like I was grieving my future. But now I feel content with not having children. And I don't want to live long enough for that anyway, it would be cruel to bring a child into the world and then leave them

Same I always thought I was going to have several kids and be a cool dad and teach them lots of cool stuff. Oh well, it wasn't meant to be, not in this lifetime at least.

 

[ayaneechan]

I cant have childs myself, so cant even plan it (i not want to adopt)

 

[rabbitmalice56]

never wanted one

 

[pthnrdnojvsc]

No. never. Not only would my children (gag) suffer regularly throughout life but they could have children and so on leading to maybe millions of sentient beings that will suffer . I would be responsible for every bit of pain , suffering , problems, torture they suffer. Trillions of sentient beings suffered , and were tortured and tortured to death because around 3.5 billion years one cell reproduced.

I'm a male chimpanzee . but still I don't think there is an instinct to reproduce for humans. Like everything else most things are learned imo. I never had any such instinct and many people also . the birth rates are declining in many countries.

There might be a sex drive but that's not the desire to procreate or have offspring ( the horror ) . just another mindless constant need constantly hungry for food , horny and other crap

dna based creatures are just made up of cells : lets just say it's nothing good to me

 

[NoLongerHuman.]

I never wanted to have a kid of my own. The only way I would ever see myself having a child is by adopting a child that nobody else would want to raise. And even then, I would have to do something close to impossible, which is to recover and free myself from my trauma, suicidal tendencies, etc. I would want to protect said child from the world that harmed me, but if I don't heal from my pains that poor kid would just suffer. As of now, I'm not fit for parenting. Plus, this world is getting worse.

 

[FuneralCry]

I've never wanted to be a mother and never will be, the thought of forcing an non-existent being out of the ideal state of non-existence and burdening them with the ability to be tortured endlessly is absolutely disgusting and criminal to me.

The non-existent should just be left alone in peace, it's compassionate preventing unnecessary suffering by not forcing life here as after all procreation is the ultimate source of all the torment humans have experienced all throughout history. This cruel, evil world could never be a desirable place worth existing in, to procreate into this reality is a tragedy, realistically this human species should go voluntarily extinct.

 

[never mind me]

No, because I would be worried that I would treat them as horribly as my father treated me. Besides it wouldn't suit my lifestyle, because then I would need to work a lot more to provide for them, have no time for myself, my friends and my hobbies, not be able to travel anymore and this would surely make me extremely unhappy. And that's not even taking into account that I couldn't imagine to stop taking drugs for the duration of 9 months or even longer. And giving birth doesn't sound appealing either. So a big no from me.

 

[sserafim]

No because I've never wanted children in the first place, ever since I was young I never wanted them. I don't see a need for having them. Also I'm aroace if that matters, I don't want a partner, to get married or to have a family. People are like "oh you'll grow out of this phase" but it's not just a phase. I just don't desire these things. I've never had a partner in my life and I don't feel like I'm missing anything, and I sure as well don't want a family of my own in the future.

I hate how society tries to force these norms and expectations onto people. My dad is like "you will get married and you will have children. You have to continue the family line." Fuck off, I don't give a shit about the family line. This expectation makes me so annoyed….

It would also be cruel to bring new life into this world, especially without their consent. No one chooses to be born, yet here we are. I didn't ask to be here, and I never wanted to be here. It's not fair to force life onto people in my opinion, which is another reason why I will never have kids.

I've never wanted to be a mother and never will be, the thought of forcing an non-existent being out of the ideal state of non-existence and burdening them with the ability to be tortured endlessly is absolutely disgusting and criminal to me.

The non-existent should just be left alone in peace, it's compassionate preventing unnecessary suffering by not forcing life here as after all procreation is the ultimate source of all the torment humans have experienced all throughout history. This cruel, evil world could never be a desirable place worth existing in, to procreate into this reality is a tragedy, realistically this human species should go voluntarily extinct.

Same, I've never wanted to be a mother either, and I definitely won't be one. I hate how society expects us to

 

[sserafim]

I want to be a child myself never to have children that would scare the shit out of me I feel old enough as it is.

Same, I wish I could be a kid again. I hate having to be an adult, I never even expected to live this long. I wish I could go back in time to when things were simpler. I hate adulting, ever since I was young I never even wanted to grow up

 

[rainseahorse]

i'd consider it if i somehow found a romantic partner and somehow became financially well off. i know that i'll have to work extra hard to be a good parent, especially since i grew up under rather garbage parents

 

[EternalShore]

I know this opinion is certainly unpopular around here, but if someone told me rn that'd I'd never have children, I'd immediately start toying with the microwave! xD Just the near-impossible idea that I could get to raise children one day is all that keeps me alive. :(

I want to be a child myself never to have children that would scare the shit out of me I feel old enough as it is.

Relatable! :( You don't understand it at the time, but the first dozen years of your life are the only good years you'll get, so you better use them! >_<

 

[d3j3ct3dl0s3r05]

not a popular opinion here but I have definitely thought about it but what stops me is not wanting to pass my mental health issues/disabilities down and I absolutely refuse to raise a living being in an unstable home (and also because I know deep down, I would still experience thoughts of CTBing and the idea of a parent taking their own life is utterly horrifying to me)

 

[passivethought121]

I've thought of adoption, but also I don't want a kid in the likely event that I don't really get better and I decide to CTB when they're around.

 

[CuteThing]

i have tought about having kids but the only reason was that i wanted my kids to like me and be a good father because my father lives across the country and we never were together a lot, he is a good father but were absent for most of my life, also i dont think i would be a good father so no what the hell what happened with the font

 

[leloyon]

I wouldn't even if I found someone willing to have children with me.
Both my parents have suffered from mental illness since before I was born. Not only have I experienced growing up in a household where everyone is mentally ill, but I've also suffered from the genetic predisposition aspect, which basically means if you're born to someone with an illness you're more likely to get that illness via genetics. Two people with mental illnesses gave birth to me, I had very high chances of developing these illnesses, and then I had a nice healthy dose of trauma throughout my life to kick things off and trigger those shitty genetics.
The game was rigged. The odds were stacked against me. I couldn't possibly do this to another person. It's a death sentence. Just so they can do what I did? Just so another eight year old can write me a suicide note? Just so another eleven year old can get kicked out of school because they're too depressed to even get out of bed? Just so another twelve year old can sit awake, contemplating whether to slit their wrists? Just so another thirteen year old can hold a kitchen knife to their neck and realise they have no fear of shoving it in? I could keep going, but you get the picture.
If I really want kids, I would rather adopt, but even then I know I would be like my father. It's for the best.
And even ignoring all of this, people can't consent to being born, and generally when given the choice between doing something that will greatly effect someone's life without their consent, and not, I think the best option is to not do that.

 

[nolifezzz]

oh no. bringing a kid with my dna into this world? im not cruel like that. also i just cant get along with kids and dont really like them in general. and im pretty sensitive to sounds so their 24/7 screams cries and tantrums are literal torture for me (while i dont have kids i have nieces so i should know) i just cant really see anything positive about them at all. even if i get hit really hard in the head got ran over suffer from amnesia brain damage and or by miracle i happen to suddenly be ok with having kids ill probably adopt one. i really would rather not bring anyone with my dna into this world at all.

 

[SnowWhite]

Even if I wanted to my epilepsy is sensitive to lack of sleep. Don't think I'd do too well dealing with my hypothetical baby crying at 5am

 

[woh6]

I don't plan on living long enough to get to that phase in my life. Even if I did I think it would be unfair as I wouldn't be stable enough to raise a child.

 

[strawb12]

Definitely not, that wouldn't be fair to them because I don't plan on living long enough to give them a happy childhood. & that would be even more unfair to my partner for leaving them.

 

[outatime_85]

First, I think those who have done whatever work is necessary to get their lives to a point where they can handle the responsibility of a child should go for it.

As for me, I am deemed a nonviable option for such an endeavor.

 

[Forever Sleep]

No. I haven't always ruled it out though. There was a time where I very much wanted a partner and to be in love. If they had wanted children, I may have considered it.

Probably good it didn't happen though. I don't think I would have given them the strength and optimism they would need to survive in this world. I couldn't bear to see my own child suffer. I'm so grateful I haven't had to.

It's weird really. A friend of mine who has children is grateful every day, whereas, I'm grateful every day that I don't have them. I think from my late twenties upwards, I've grown to be more and more antinatalist.