Do you ever hate your parents for bringing you into this world?

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

When I was a kid, my Dad would brag to me how he forced Mom not to abort me when she was pregnant. He was trying to manipulate me into hating her--she wanted me dead, he wanted me alive.

Didn't work. I hate him even more because he 1) controlled Mom's body and 2) caused me to exist.

 

[meetapple]

No, they were well educated and had the best of intentions when trying to have a child. Plus my sister turned out well so maybe my problems are my own fault.

 

[Fish Face]

I don't hate them for having me. I was planned to the degree I know when I was concieved (St Albans, June 1971, about 10 minutes, thanks, mum, TMI, but unfortunately not a boy). But they were not not good parents to me. They left me in the care of my sister whilst they were just at the pub until 3.00 am every day. They found parenthood boring, which made me feel I was boring, which is a difficult thing to feel if you are so introverted. I just wished for any affection or attention from them. They were just not interested. How can somebody vote at 18, drive at 17 after a test but can just have sex (legally) and produce babies they just cannot care for from age 16?

 

[Painless_end]

I feel sad. For myself and for them. I truly feel sad.

They probably hoped for someone who would grow up to be smart and driven and everything.

Instead they got me.

 

[rosie93]

I've changed my mind. I hate them for my childhood. But I hate myself for my adulthood.

 

[In2thewoods]

We are just people. We don't know shit.

 

[Deformationalplagio]

I feel so angry at my parents for bringing me into this world. I just hate them and don't even care anymore. I'm done with everything and I wish more than anything that it was all over. That's all I want is to just go die and go to that void of existence. Everything in my life is a problem and life itself is worthless and dreadful. My god damn parents are just wanting to lock me up for being unhappy. They're "tired of putting up with my crap" and my mom said I'm a psycopath worse than my elementary school principal who bullied me. I will not be writing that little bitch a goodbye note. Theres a lot of things I wanted in this life that will just never come to pass. I wanted to be skinny, I wanted to be a succesful graphic designer, I wanted a nice condo at meadow brook park by my house. But none of that was ever going to happen anyways. I just don't think this life is worth living. Every time I try to live it I just end up gaining weight or one of my friends ditches me or something else goes wrong. I'm tired all the time and everyone is done with me. No one even wants to say good-bye. ...this life makes me sick, this life is dead to me.

I am DONE.

Yeah i hate my parents too they bringed me to this world and gave me a skull and face deformity called plagiocephaly because they didn't care for me. Really fucked up people

 

[eureka8]

Yes, my mother.
She wasn't in any position to have a child, yet did so anyway and caused me - and herself indirectly - quite a bit of pain and suffering. I never got to know my father because he fled from her before I was born, but don't blame him knowing what my mother did to him.

Not sure how to describe this without writing an entire novel. I grew up facing alternating phases of abuse and complete neglect from her. My first memories as a child consist of her battling child protection services endlessly, only to end up at a whopping seven different group homes/foster parents within the span of a couple of years, only to eventually move back to her at age thirteen as a completely broken child, only to face various new forms of abuse and neglect because she hadn't changed at all.

That was coincidentally around the time I started doubting life itself. Now - more than ten years later - and luckily away from her, my life still feels empty and purposeless. I lack any family (because my mother broke with them decades ago), never completed any education aside from high school (despite trying repeatably), never held down a serious job and lack many social skills most people seem to have.

 

[deflationary]

I hate the world for bringing me into this world. My parents were just the unknowing tools of it.

 

[RedEther]

I was sapose to be aborted but...get this...Pro life family members forced my mom to have me. Neather of them where ready!
Fucking prolifers! Cant excape em!
Same kinda people who say im leaching off the goverment while also not giving me a job, but we aint got time for that here

 

[Istanbulite]

Used to, not anymore, no

 

[Spiritual survivor]

I don't hate them but I do wish I had never been born. It has been mostly painful. I really destroyed myself.

 

[edu0z]

I love my parents... it is not their fault that I want to die, they did everything they could to make me have a good life and be happy.

 

[Foresight]

I don't hate them. I don't admire their choice. I do judge people who have kids, sorry.

 

[Crazy4u]

yes I hate them. They brought me and my siblings to the world knowing they are incapable of raising kids. They failed miserably as parents. None of my siblings is living a good life. We all live in misery.

 

[Nolan96]

No, never.

Tension with your parents is extremely difficult though. I'm sorry you're going through that. I hope things work out in your relationship.

 

[sanction]

Yes, definitely do!! For example, lets say a stranger bumped into us on the street, then doesn't say sorry, instead acts like an asshole. That simple few second and literally harmless encounter, is already enough for us to feel completely turned off, and dislike that person. Or lets say while you're driving, someone cuts you off, and even honks at you rudely or sticks the middle finger at you. Once again, will already be offended and may get angry or frustrated with that person.

Now think about ALL the troubles we have to endure simply due to our parent's selfish decision. How is it possible for me not to hate them?? I understand the part where most parents didn't do this intentionally, they just didn't know better. But same as the example I just made above. Literally NONE of those people acted like that intentionally as well, they also just don't know better. But for some reason, we are more understanding to our parents (of course I understand why, its human nature) even though they forced us to endure WAYYYYYYY MORE bullshit than any stranger on the street (example) can ever put us through. Lets say if even one day we're on the street, and we get killed by some stranger. If you really think about it, if our parents didn't bring us to this world in the first place, we wouldn't even have to go through that. When they give birth to a human, they're exposing them to the potential of literally unlimited amounts of suffering.

But of course I'm directing this to mainly the shitty parents only, not the good ones. Also, whoever is on this forum that is also a parent, I'm not directing this to you in any negative way as well, but yeah. I definitely hate my parents for bringing me to this world, and now just left to rot, surivive, and die on my own. As much as I want to understand that "they don't know better"..... but what about me??? Where is the understanding part for me??? I'm just forced to play the nice guy while I'm being fucked 24/7......... its not fair AT ALL

 

[miserable_existance]

I feel so angry at my parents for bringing me into this world. I just hate them and don't even care anymore. I'm done with everything and I wish more than anything that it was all over. That's all I want is to just go die and go to that void of existence. Everything in my life is a problem and life itself is worthless and dreadful. My god damn parents are just wanting to lock me up for being unhappy. They're "tired of putting up with my crap" and my mom said I'm a psycopath worse than my elementary school principal who bullied me. I will not be writing that little bitch a goodbye note. Theres a lot of things I wanted in this life that will just never come to pass. I wanted to be skinny, I wanted to be a succesful graphic designer, I wanted a nice condo at meadow brook park by my house. But none of that was ever going to happen anyways. I just don't think this life is worth living. Every time I try to live it I just end up gaining weight or one of my friends ditches me or something else goes wrong. I'm tired all the time and everyone is done with me. No one even wants to say good-bye. ...this life makes me sick, this life is dead to me.

I am DONE.

yes i always do , even though my parents both have no mental illness , on both sides have siblings with mental illnesses . DNA genetics work , their carelessness

 

[Looooser]

I hate that my parents weren't loving or supportive! They definitely screwed me up but I also learned how to be a better parent.

 

[heirofvoid]

Yes I hate both of them. My father left us when I was young and got a new family. My mother did stay but I could tell from the way she talked about when me and my sis were babies is how she couldn't wait for us to grow up already. I don't get why she had kids when she used to tell us she took care of our uncle when he was young and she hated every second of it. I literally don't get why she had us then.

 

[markimobzzdeasui]

Yes I do hate them. More than anything in the world. Father is a serious covert abusive narcissist and mother is batshit crazy/psychotic/delusional. Entire childhood and even my adult years upto this point are riddled with abuse after abuse and trauma after trauma. They were literally not capable of raising children other than providing them with basic amenities and making them pay for those through different psychological and physical abuses. My mother never shared her dark past until few months ago when she said that she had about 2-3 abortions before my sister was born. I am only guessing what happened before I was born as she used to remind me repetitively in my childhood how I shouldn't have existed and also the fact that she was suicidal when I was in her womb taking different medicines.
I hate them even more knowing how easy it is to have children when you have some money and then use them for your own sick pleasures and narcissistic supply while abandoning and neglecting them. I can have a child now and not care while that child grows up being suicidal and in mental hell and always thinking why he/she was even brought into this world.

 

[Darkover]

i hate all life on this planet i wouldn't let this evil hellhole exist exercising power in a cruel way i feel sorry for all the animals being forced to live out their misery in this shithole\hellhole, someone should find away to turn off all this life in this universe, it's just to evil to be alive here facing certain death all the time eat or be eatten, doing all this hard work just to survive and for what nothing in the end, or worse anthoer trip in hell through this hellhole universe who the fuck would want to live like this enslaved in this awful shit

 

[StarryStarry]

Yes. When my Dad was dying of cancer he shared with me that my mother didn't want me (they already had my sister). She wanted an abortion, even though she was catholic. My father convinced her that I would be a boy and then they would have the perfect family. Needless to say that was the beginning of her disappointment in me - as I am not a male. I wish she had had the abortion. I wouldn't have suffered all the pain I had to go through.

 

[PerpetualPain]

I don't blame them at all and they gave me a wonderful loving environment to grow up and flourish in.

I do however feel resentful that I was cursed with such terrible genetics. I have GAD, BDD, OCD and I am attractive but I am a short male. I struggled over the years to carve out a comfortable life for myself. When I finally had my dream job and condo and was happily independant, I started losing my hair. I freaked out because while I was still able to get plenty of girls despite being a bit short at 5'8", I thought if I went bald I would become very unattractive and with my BDD I would potentially become a recluse. So I took finasteride for hair loss and I got a severe case Post Finasteride Sydrome and now I suffer every minute of every day with it's dibilitating symptoms and have lost everything. I am now a rational suicide as there is no cure. I figure this disease is genetically driven. So yeah fuck my genetics, I wish I was never born. Atleast I never had any kids so these genetics die with me.

I still love all my family dearly though and will miss them and hate that my CTB will devastate them.

 

[Ligottian]

I think the poem "This Be The Verse" by Philip Larkin addresses this whole issue quite well.

 

[hopelessgirl]

Yes, totally

 

[NumbItAll]

No I don't hate my parents, but it does frustrate and baffle me to no end that everyone wants to have kids and doesn't even think of the potential consequences. I was watching Married at First Sight (lol) and all the couples were going round the table saying how many kids they wanted to have, like it was no big deal. I do not understand how I am a member of the same species as them. Life repulses me and I would never subject anyone to it. I really wonder what it's like to think this is all normal, good, and fine.

 

[justtiredofit]

Yes. There was no love between them or ever shown to us. In fact, they made it very clear (physically, verbally, and emotionally) they didn't want children and resented every moment raising us. We were, as they put it: "burdens, punishments and disappointments."

 

[Josuyo]

I both do and don't cus I know they didn't mean to bring a depressed mentally ill disabled kid into the world but also they said they had me for the purpose of keeping my older sibling company and its like, wow, you could have just got them a pet or sumn. I feel more angry at the fact they think they can dare tell me to live my life and "keep going" I did not choose to be here and whilst I know part of me wants a child myself I actually have the sense to consider that bringing one into the world can be incredibly cruel and its driving me over the edge that some people made a bad call with having kids but think they can control me and tell me things will work out when they're from a very fortunate generation who don't have to deal with the unfixable mess that they and their parents have left for all the broke and depressed younger generations. Like no wonder half of us want to die. Honestly I think if anyone truly cared about what I want they would fight to give me the option to be euthanized or something. I hate that people would rather I suffer on a daily for their own peice of mind and force fed "morals". They call us selfish for wanting to die but they're all so fucking brainwashed by the idea that everyone can be happy in a very corrupt and arguably dystopian world. Just because they've reaped the rewards of their lifetime doesn't mean there's going to be anything left for us. Society is stagnating and I'm praying something will kill me ASAP because I've been fighting my whole life and I'm tired, I don't want to fight anymore. Life shouldn't be a constant battle and people who feed that idea to others are insidious.

 

[ampsvx321]

I used to hate my parents for being underwhelming and worse, but this hatred is past me, we don't get to choose in this world, if whatever is hidden behind the curtain of death wants you to exist and suffer, not much you can do. Life is forced upon us, and it is likely to be so again, in different settings, don't spend too much time blaming ur parents, and focus rather on the infinity that is hidden behind the scenery of life, existence and self awareness...