Do you consider yourself a likeable person who should have friends?

[mistvissione11e]

I cannot give them what they want, but they force it from me that very little comes out and it all tastes vile. People notice my disingenuous appearance.

 

[hungry_ghost]

No. I am incredibly boring, and selfish.

I have an active inner life, and I like a broad range of things, but externally, I am very stoic, dead-pan, awkward.

To be honest, most people aren't that interesting to me, either.

 

[Nolan96]

I don't think anyone likes me. I have almost no friends and almost never get to see anyone.
I think I try to put up a front of calm and reason but most people see through it and recognize me for the emotional wreck I am.
The ones who don't probably just find me dry.
I'd like to think I don't deserve this but I know many would disagree.

 

[Sherri]

I do, the issue I don't want people show in my house uninvited. I like to take the initiative cause most days I just like to be alone with my boo and not shopping in crowded miles, I can't stand that. I don't have many friends, but I'm ok with the ones I have and I think they like me or have left me by now,

 

[Toonloon]

Nope. I feel like I'm a freak and nobody likes me.

 

[Death_of_a_Phynixx]

Yes, I evaluate myself to be a likeable person who could have friends. The only things is that I am so introverted and a huge hermit, so I'm not really inviting. Even though I am a great, prolific writer and communicator, I have always been socially distant, even before the plandemic. Even at work, I am awkwardly quiet and only task focused, whilst all my co-workers are chatting it up and having a good time with their small talk. In my being this way, this seems to make people even more curious about me and with a passion! I do enjoy speaking on topics that are passionate to me and very worthy of my vocal inputs. Small talk is exhausting and unbearably boring to me and unfortunately, that is what most of humanity participates in. Nonetheless, people would agree that I am likeable, though also very secretive, mysterious, and distant. Thanks for an interesting thread!

 

[come to dust]

Depends what you define as likeable. Am a kind person who tries to help others and is empathetic? Yes. Am I funny, charming, sociable or interesting? no.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Also no because there is not a lot to like about me I fear...

 

[Foresight]

No, If I'm being brutally honest I think I'm annoying and I'm ashamed of my own existence.

 

[KQuotientW]

Friends have ditched me when I really needed them, especially when I was looking after my terminally ill mother. Could have used the support. Even some people, who I hadn't heard from in some time, came out of the woodwork after my mother passed, with their hands out, hoping I'd been left a lot of money and that I'd give them some. I wasn't left a shit load of money and they were grubs.

Usually, I'm the doormat, used by other people without any regard for my wellbeing. They just think of themselves.

I've crocheted things for charity, worked in soup kitchens / low income meals, will sit with a stranger who is crying in the street and ask them if they're okay. Many say they love my well timed, dry sense of humour and my ability to sit down and talk with anyone from any walk of life, because we're all just human. However, I live in a shitty little country town where people prefer to make up vile rumours about others, inclisting me. I have to travel to other shires to socialise and tend to find kinder people there.

I'd say I'm a good friend, it's just not reciprocated. People see me on this forum, venting and perhaps have only seen that side of me, but I assure you that it took 49 years to get to this point. I'm worn out. I'm not out to harm others and even if I'm having a bad day, I'd rather listen to my music or watch a funny movie, than* drag others down. I don't want the world to burn, I just can't take it anymore.

 

[Brianiskillingme]

I am nice, loving , giving and caring but all I attract for men are cheaters or Narcissists. As for women friends, drama queens, back stabbers and abandonment for no reason. So I have no idea why I cant keep a guy for have friends, I would do anything for a person I love but all I get is driven down further.

 

[L I F E T O L O S E]

I consider myself hateful and disgusting

 

[Dida]

No, I'm a terrible person. I'm a coward, I can't socialize, I'm very judgemental. I reap what I sow.

 

[lofticries]

I'm emotionally unavailable and paranoid af.

So no.

 

[Shivali]

No

 

[scamper]

I think I'm a likeable person but I think it's important to draw the line between a fun person and a good person. I think I'm fun to hang out with, a good surface level friend. I've always been terrible at serious conversations about feelings and the like, though. I usually end up making things worse. I have trouble with empathy and processing the feelings of myself and others. I've had good friends before but they always end up knowing too much about who I really am and they always leave.

 

[vertigokandy]

I'm a relatively good person offline but I don't think I bring anything to the table and people can probably sense it. I'm also more negative with each passing year, but that's because I have serious issues that get worse with time. People say I'm funny but what's so good about being a clown? I come across as aloof so I guess that's bad too.

No, i don't think i do

 

[HyperdimensionLoser]

nope, I'm a horrible person yet there are people that tolerate my existence somehow and for some reason. Guess you'd have to be insane to enjoy the presence of someone like me.

 

[StolenLife]

No. I had a few chances where I happened to end up a bad friend. But I hate socializing anyway.

 

[unnormal9]

No. I have DiD and bipolar, I am one of the least likeable things. Doesn't matter how nice I could be. Illness = unlikable.
Also others, usually online, denote me as 'Schizo'.

 

[hhmmmm]

I don't consider myself likeable but I do have friends, mostly online though. I have two friends in real life but we haven't talked in a long time and that's because I tend to overthink that they hate me. Whether it's online or not I feel like the people I feel like everyone hates me. I wouldn't say I deserve them though, they're too good for me.

 

[Zegers]

At this point i am embittered and i don't feel like meeting anyone, also people are only interested in appearances and what you can add them and my life is a black hole, i feel like a ghost in social situations.

 

[Arachno]

No, I'm not likable in any way, I'm horrible at socializing and communicating, boring, gross, quiet, just straight up unlikable.

 

[MentalStefan]

I have no idea... I want to have friends and be likeable however I cannot make them. I'm terrible at socializing, I'm ugly, I am perceived as 'weird' and 'annoying', most people usually mock and avoid me. I think the main reason is that sometimes I really behave differently than other people because of my autism and I have serious problems with communicating. My only friends are animals.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I go by the logic that if I was likable and should have genuine friends, I would have them. Since I don't have any that put in the effort to interact with me, I guess I don't deserve any.

 

[NumbItAll]

No, I am boring, awkward, not personable, and have very little in common with most people. I am honest and caring but that doesn't really count for anything.

 

[gottablast888]

I see myself as a freakshow tourist attraction

 

[unnormal9]

No x2. I work better alone always alone. I stopped trying to be understood by others because I could never be.

 

[numbnesshuman]

I'm not bad but I don't have many friends…..I love to be alone

 

[targz]

i dont know if its my disorders or not but im fairly confident that almost everyone hates me. meh i hate myself

I've met a lot of people who hate themselves and weirdly nobody else does... Meanwhile lots of popular people I know have others talking about them negatively behind their backs.