Do you consider yourself a likeable person who should have friends?

[Kramer]

I'm a relatively good person offline but I don't think I bring anything to the table and people can probably sense it. I'm also more negative with each passing year, but that's because I have serious issues that get worse with time. People say I'm funny but what's so good about being a clown? I come across as aloof so I guess that's bad too.

 

[WornOutLife]

I'm glad you're a good person offline too. You seem nice.

As for me, I'm also "the funny guy", you know, I love making people laugh. Also, I'm a good listener and some people say I have the ability to attract people but guess what? My depression turned me into a NEET who doesn't want to be physically close to any humans.

To sum up, I feel like you but I think my current self doesn't deserve to be surrounded by friends.

 

[Kramer]

I'm glad you're a good person offline too. You seem nice.

As for me, I'm also "the funny guy", you know, I love making people laugh. Also, I'm a good listener and some people say I have the ability to attract people but guess what? My depression turned me into a NEET who doesn't want to be physically close to any humans.

To sum up, I feel like you but I think my current self doesn't deserve to be surrounded by friends.

The way you describe yourself and the way I describe myself is not the description of the average person, which probably explains our situations. The average person is loud, impulsive, selfish, unpleasant, willfully ignorant and proud if it. Somehow they attract friends like honey. I'm very negative, but I don't tell people my thoughts except family or a message board. Normies can't keep it in.

One thing that bothers me is that people misuse the word ignorant. People often use it to describe people they don't agree with.

 

[Life_and_Death]

i dont know if its my disorders or not but im fairly confident that almost everyone hates me. meh i hate myself

 

[DocNo]

The way you describe yourself and the way I describe myself is not the description of the average person, which probably explains our situations. The average person is loud, impulsive, selfish, unpleasant, willfully ignorant and proud if it. Somehow they attract friends like honey. I'm very negative, but I don't tell people my thoughts except family. Normies can't keep it in.

One thing that bothers me is that people misuse the word ignorant. People often use it to describe people they don't agree with.

i was a real reckless asshole in my early twenties and attracted a lot of people in this time. but at some point i realized it's not ok to behave like this and one of my guides became to treat others like i want to be treated.
terms like respect and acceptance became then very important for me.

being very shy and falling into depression after this manic episode of my younger years i then didn't have lot of friends. i even reduced them cause i discovered that a lot of this so called friends are pretty toxic. but i guess you harvest what you seed somehow.

but i also prefer it since then cause it seems that smoking too much pot damaged some of my "filters" and so social situations are sometimes too much to process for me. but maybe also a question to have fear to be myself anymore cause of deep self-hate. is a bit of a territory which i recently started to explore again.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Nope. And yet annoyingly I still do have friends.

 

[MrBlue]

I don't think I'm a bad person, but I don't have any friends so probably must be be an unlikable piece of shit regardless of how 'nice' I am.

 

[Bigpink]

I don't think I'm a bad person, I may come across as strident and say things you're not supposed to in polite society.

Probably a little full too, have just a few friends. Solitude is often preferable
Dull not full

 

[Deleted member 17949]

Not particularly. People tolerate my presence so I can physically be with people, but online and largely irl I find that I actually have nothing to add to anyone's life. It's not really that I am a horrible person, just awkward, not very empathetic, boring and depressed. Why would anyone want me around?

 

[signifying nothing]

I used to think I was evil, now I'm just a person (though sometimes I doubt that). I try not to judge or label myself one thing or another, nor anyone else. Doesn't always work, but I try.

 

[stygal]

I don't know...wouldn't describe myself as particularly likable.
I'm mostly uninterested in small talk (in real life) or listening to things I have no interest in.
Just like OP I've also gotten more negative/cynic as time has past and I recognized how fucked up life and this society really is.
So I just don't keep in touch with old friends and they stopped contacting me as well. I'm not mad about it though.

 

[irememberinnocence]

Not really. I used to be more likeable but in reality it was just people pleasing. I am a kind, sensitive and compassionate person but I also have a lot of issues, and am uncompromising, stubborn, and will always choose my beliefs over loyalty. So even though I do care a lot about others I tend to do it from a distance, if that makes sense, because my personal values and the battles I fight come first. Not very good friend material, as others have figured out.

So there came a point where I just stopped trying to make friends in the first place or allowing people to get close to me. I also don't trust anyone deeply due to my past and I'm terribly ill so in no position to socialise to the extent required for a proper friendship.

So no I'm not a likeable person who should have friends. But I also make it a point to not harm others and I try to be a good citizen of earth. I wish I could have friends but I don't have the capacity to give to others in that way, and I'm not comfortable with it being one-sided.

 

[MeltedJello]

I consider myself as the opposite. In real life, I have nothing to offer people & I'm boring, so I don't feel likeable at all. I don't enjoy being friends with people too, because it takes a lot of effort for me to maintain friendships. I prefer the lonely & quiet life.

 

[Shadowplay]

Not particularly, but I'm not especially awful either.

 

[netrezven]

At the moment friends for me a like literally brothers in arms. So it's not a deal for most people to offer or accept. But i can be likeble and lie to people and use them if necessary, like most people do.

 

[WrongPlaceWrongTime]

My presence is tolerated, so I can't be that bad. That said, I still don't have anything to offer their lives.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm not likeable at all. I cannot relate to others and I am very quiet. I have nothing to say. I do not want friends. I cannot stand people and I just want to be on my own.

 

[Manaaja]

I'm loyal and honest, but not hurtful or mean. I have a good sense of humor. I like helping people. I'm not a narcissist. I never bully anyone or make fun of anyone. I have lots of interests and I like to talk. I love animals. So yes, I do.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I'm perfectly likeable and can be very sociable but if you step on my toes, watch out. I also don't like to be bothered with people very often but I have a good heart. I'm not mean-spirited at all but I am sensitive and can get rough around the edges if you piss me off. But I guess overall I just prefer to opt out of everything and simply observe.

I often feel like a ghost. Just kind of invisible, hanging back and checking everything out without getting my hands dirty with life. I don't deserve or even want friends IRL though really because I don't put enough effort in and don't like to be bugged, for the most part.

 

[busternaught]

I'd consider myself likeable enough, I think the way you described it OP is very fitting.

I'm a nice person, I treat people with respect, I show interest in them. Whenever I make "friends" tho, it's usually with people who are very self centered, people who talk my ear off for several dozen minutes on end, without caring to notice that I'm just sitting there quietly nodding along. These friendships don't last very long ofc, as the other person has no interest in me, and I quickly lose interest in them once they've told me the same boring stories several times over.

I'm worse however. I don't even have any boring stories to tell. An utterly uninteresting person. So no, I probably shouldn't have friends.

 

[nex]

I seem to be likeable, I made friends who liked and trusted me a lot. But that was before I decided I can't have friends anymore. And the fewer people affected by my eventual suicide, the better.

 

[motel rooms]

I'm likeable. My life would have collapsed a long time ago if I wasn't. I like to think I'm a decent, funny person, but many gay men & women probably like me just because they find me attractive. I know a lot of people of all ages & a lot of people think they know me. I wouldn't be able to make a living if I lost the support of some of them. Most of them are gay & bi guys, & I've had sex with a lot of them, of course. Do I think of them as friends? Yes & no. There's only one person I can fully confide in.

 

[91Days]

No

 

[Scribble Fan]

No, years and years of complete isolation have made me socially awkward and boring. I'm basically just a hollow shell at this point.

 

[motyxia]

No. I'm a terible friend, I'm a weird sped. I think I should be allowed to vent about loneliness though, as long as I don't blame anyone. Which I don't, I completely understand, If I had the choice I'd avoid me too. But I'm stuck with myself until I die

 

[TriggerHappy]

I believe I'm a good friend, and have good friends.
⊙ but what's the point?
They don't really know how I feel, I spare them the gory details of my si.
I hide it behind my humour (I go so far as declaring my death-wish but in such a funny // dramatic way, they think I'm joking > when I'm not...*), my love and focussing attention on their dilemmas. People are selfish by nature, so they're easily distracted by their own stuff...
* afterward when I realise they have no clue about my feelings, I feel even more alone and desperate
⊙ I'm gonna have to toughen up and do it (started the planning/ methods and now to practice the run-through alone)**, no one will hold my hand when the time comes... that's how it'll go....
**but I have you guys, the anonymous (unconditional) friendship (from some of u especially!) means so much to me, you've no idea...

 

[Sprite_Geist]

I think that I am likeable to certain people, but to most people I am disliked mainly because my appearance does not fit the current male standard (long hair). As for the question of should I have friends? No. I do not want to have any.

 

[Enigmatic Sailor]

I don't like friends. Most of the time they'll stab you over something.

 

[stellabelle]

Nope. Because any time I was around someone they just wound up being little shit disturbers.

Or, I must inherently be doing something wrong.

Or if I wasn't, I must have been planning some great escape from the grasp of my terrible relatives or an unwanted sexual partner/living situation.

Or it's followed by "but please take your clothes off" and me pretending to "like" unwanted sex because I wasn't "making enough" to be alone.

Or it's "gimme gimme gimme".
So.
Fuck it. All of it.

 

[S like suicide]

I wish i had someone who cares about me,a friend.But no...i suppose noone want me as friend,i don't worth enough for people