Do you consider yourself a bad person?

  • Yes

    Votes: 52 66.7%
  • No

    Votes: 26 33.3%

  • Total voters
    78
peerlesscucumber

peerlesscucumber

Petting a cat might change my mind
Oct 27, 2023
70
If your answer is yes. Why?
 
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Gangrel

Gangrel

Specialist
Jul 25, 2024
377
Yes, i was shitty in the past and now i have anxiety issues because of it. Just treated people bad.
 
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Final_Choice

Final_Choice

Mage
Aug 3, 2023
544
I consider myself neither good or bad, sometimes I do bad actions unconsciously but I try to fix them and make it up to the person I hurt.
 
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BobSmoked

BobSmoked

Member
Aug 27, 2024
44
I didn't live up to the expectations placed upon me.
 
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whywere

Visionary
Jun 26, 2020
2,987
Yes, i was shitty in the past and now i have anxiety issues because of it. Just treated people bad.
That may be true; however everyone can change, and you are such a better person now and one's past is just that and you are so much more than that. You are like a beautiful new flower bed with wonderfully lovely new flowers in bloom.

You are a awesome soul.

Walter
 
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Gangrel

Gangrel

Specialist
Jul 25, 2024
377
That may be true; however everyone can change, and you are such a better person now and one's past is just that and you are so much more than that. You are like a beautiful new flower bed with wonderfully lovely new flowers in bloom.

You are a awesome soul.

Walter
You are very kind. Thank you šŸ«‚
 
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Holu

Holu

Hypomania go brrr
Apr 5, 2023
669
I answered no, only because I think humans are far too complex.

I have harm ocd and sadistic tendencies. In a vacuum I would say that makes me naturally "bad" but I also don't act on them or if I do it's very minimal because I do my best to control myself. I have made mistakes, ones that unfortunately harm to others. But intent wise, I never intended to cause harm.

I could say it's an example of good people doing bad things but truthfully I think we are just too complex to be bad or good.

But if I was viewing myself from an outsider, average morality person, I'd probably consider myself bad. Idk, I have a lot of self doubt and hatred, but I've never once questioned that my sense of morality was poor.
 
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Forever Sleep

Earned it we have...
May 4, 2022
9,403
No but I'm not as good as I think I am probably and not as good as some people perceive me to be. I'm fairly polite most of the time which gets confused with kindness. I suppose I care about people- which is good. But, I don't do anywhere near enough to show it- which has to be bad really. I probably had the potential to be much kinder. Plus, I've most definitely done bad stuff which I do at least feel bad about now I suppose.
 
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Plentiful_Despair

Plentiful_Despair

Experienced
Aug 23, 2024
265
If you ask 90 % of people, I'm an asshole cause I reject the entire capitalistic order of this fucked up world. I don't even work. But I don't really care about that, so, no, I consider myself to be good. Everyone has his own interpretation of morals.
 
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3/4Dead

3/4Dead

Peace, Love, Empathy
Feb 27, 2024
411
I've been told I'm a good person by the people who's judgement i take most seriously. and generally speaking i just agree with whatever they say so
 
derpyderpins

derpyderpins

Normie Life Mogs
Sep 19, 2023
1,795
No. I'm not perfect by a long shot but I know enough about bad people to know I'm at least better than that.
 
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GuessWhosBack

GuessWhosBack

The sun rises to insult me.
Jul 15, 2024
466
Bad as in evil, harming others, being an asshole? No.
Bad as in rotten, or damaged? Yes.
 
J

JustAStory

Member
Aug 30, 2024
12
I don't consider myself a bad person but I feel like, when I'm in a depressive bout, my empathy is at 0 and only care about myself.

This was accompanied by guilt, at first. Then, as in time I got to know the waves, I now know that no, it doesn't mean I'm bad.

And I believe, while bad people of course do exist, many people who is currently suffering may come to believe they are "bad", while they aren't at all: their mind is just overwhelmed at this moment.
 
SoulCage

SoulCage

Member
Dec 28, 2023
97
Yes, because there are some people I have to interact with who I hate so much, because they try to force their ideals and perspectives on to me as well as trying to belittle my choices and opinions. But I know they are not bad people and they just do it, because that's what they learned from the environment they grew up in. They may even have good intentions, just trying to warn me about certain things. But it just makes me feel like I have no freedoms and makes me believe I can't trust my own thoughts.
I ignore them or say mean things just so they would stop. But that's not what a good person would do, in my opinion.

Another reason why I am a bad person is that I get easily jealous when I see or talk to people who are so much more successful or have a nice life due to good circumstances (financial situation, caring family, intelligence, etc). I hate and avoid them, although they have not treated me badly in any way. I just can't stand being reminded that I have to live life in hard mode and that I have to keep suffering (and can't exit due to various reasons...)

Last but not least... I am a bad person, because I am sometimes too exhausted/lazy to socialize with people I actually care about. They tell me that they think I don't like them anymore, making them upset. I don't want them to suffer just because I am a piece of shit :(

Other than that I think I am very polite to strangers (because they haven't upset me yet xD) and try to help to the best of my abilities. I am only bad to people when they give me a reason to hate them (sometimes not even good reasons...)

I really hate myself for being like this.
 
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sugarb

sugarb

thief of silent dreams
Jun 14, 2024
798
I consider what a person actually does and the effects of that to determine their character, so no, I wouldn't say I'm a bad person. The worst thing I've done in the last month is raise my voice at my dad because I was upset over something inconsequential and we were both over it within 3 hours. I give myself a hard time sometimes but in reality I just don't really do much of anything harmful to others
 
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ham and potatoes

ham and potatoes

Just some hillbilly
Mar 27, 2024
404
Am i a bad person? i don't think so
am i a good person? i try to be, but really, it just feels like im faking it
so i dont know
 
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-Link-

-Link-

Deep Breaths
Aug 25, 2018
552
I didn't live up to the expectations placed upon me.
OK... With respect... Fuck expectations! (Or rather, try not to label yourself as a bad person based on other people's expectations of you)

If you ask 90 % of people, I'm an asshole cause I reject the entire capitalistic order of this fucked up world. I don't even work. But I don't really care about that, so, no, I consider myself to be good. Everyone has his own interpretation of morals.
Can count me among the 10%. (Is this the "bad" or the "good" in me talking?)

Bad as in evil, harming others, being an asshole? No.
Bad as in rotten, or damaged? Yes.
This is an interesting distinction.

"Rotten" is a strong word and I would equate that more with "evil".

"Troubled" or "chronically negative" might fit better with "damaged".

I don't think I'd label myself as "bad", but I mostly dislike myself... Other people seem to have a generally favourable impression of me, but their impression is only based on what they see of me, and when I'm around other people, I feel like I'm pretty much putting on a total act to conceal my depression. It makes me wonder how accurate their impression of me can be.

Make me commit one way or the other... I'll say I'm not a bad person... which is not quite the same as claiming I'm a good person...

I really hate myself for being like this.
Sounds like you fit more into that "troubled" category of "bad" than the evil one. This, I'm not sure is actually "bad".

I consider myself neither good or bad, sometimes I do bad actions unconsciously but I try to fix them and make it up to the person I hurt.
I could say it's an example of good people doing bad things but truthfully I think we are just too complex to be bad or good.
No but I'm not as good as I think I am probably and not as good as some people perceive me to be.
I've been told I'm a good person by the people who's judgement i take most seriously.
I'm not perfect by a long shot but I know enough about bad people to know I'm at least better than that.
I don't consider myself a bad person but I feel like, when I'm in a depressive bout, my empathy is at 0 and only care about myself.

This was accompanied by guilt, at first. Then, as in time I got to know the waves, I now know that no, it doesn't mean I'm bad.

And I believe, while bad people of course do exist, many people who is currently suffering may come to believe they are "bad", while they aren't at all: their mind is just overwhelmed at this moment.

I love all the insight being dished out in this thread.
 
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ijustwishtodie

ijustwishtodie

death will be my ultimate bliss
Oct 29, 2023
4,790
I voted no because I simply don't care nor do I think of myself as good or bad. I think that it's so exhausting to try and intentionally be good or bad. At the end of the day, I'm simply myself and that's it. Being anything other than myself takes a lot of energy away from me. I have no desires to be good or bad for people as I don't even want to interact or deal with people in the first place.

With that said, I don't think that I'm bad by being myself as I'm not really harming anybody
 
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slamjoetry

slamjoetry

Nobody likes you when you're 23
Apr 19, 2024
49
Absolutely. Everyone who ever loved me, I treated them poorly and pushed them all away. Acted like I was the only one that mattered. Now I'm paying the price, as I'm totally alone with no friends. I still have my grandma and my sister, but I can tell they really don't believe in me at all.
I'm trying to improve myself and become a better person, but I still feel these intrusive selfish thoughts all of the time. My mind is occupied by guilt and self-hatred.
 
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Sarros

Sarros

Student
Sep 2, 2021
111
I'm an awful person to myself. It hurts everyone who cares about me to drag myself through the dirt and it keeps me from feeling their love for me. But I don't know any other way. I just can't find anything to love about myself like they do.
 
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ayanti

ayanti

Death Seeker
Aug 22, 2024
37
I don't consider myself entirely bad. But I will admit that I am a shitty person in certain aspects.
 
ladylazarus4

ladylazarus4

exhausted
May 12, 2024
224
I definitely do but I logically know I'm not. There is always a logical part of me vs my real, often irrational, main thoughts.
 
YandereMikuMistress

YandereMikuMistress

you say falling victim to myself is weak, so be it
Apr 26, 2023
460
I couldn't explain even if I wanted to,
I just couldn't,
But I know,
I'm not a good person,
I know.
 
QteStimBnnuy

QteStimBnnuy

Qtpuppet
Feb 9, 2023
144
I'm equally as bad as a person as I can be good. Whether things that I've done or simply just hating myself leading me to feel that way. I do tend to try balance it out and do an equal amount if not more good to offset the bad that I may do. That or carry the weight of actions and require that I better myself to change from who I was. So somewhat by definition, I'm not a bad person. I just do bad things and like evil things. Doesn't make me feel less shitty at times though when my mental health takes a toll
 
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-nobodyknows-

-nobodyknows-

Arcanist
Jun 16, 2024
421
I have a tendency to bring people down, but I can't stand being on my own.
 
SteamaHorns

SteamaHorns

Member
Aug 2, 2024
54
I could've been a better person to those who matter in my life, but for some reason did some of the worst things that I could have done instead. It's not even that I necessarily did anything to directly hurt them, for the most part, but just that I had every chance and asset to be great to them, yet for some reason chose not to, even though I think a part of me did want to be that great person for them. Generally, I probably wouldn't be considered a bad person to most, but I feel like if one would deeply rationalize the kind of person that I am and the things that I've done under the specific circumstances that they took place in, that they would probably come to the conclusion that I should at least be considered a moral failure.
 
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