Do you believe in love?

[Magi129]

I do, but not in the fucked up way everybody seems to do nowadays. I do honestly believe in the both tender and cruel love others have spoke about in the past. And I am not talking about women, but about love itself. No one I know seems to feel such a thing as I do, although many have before. Does anyone still doing so today?

 

[DivineSpark]

I dont know, I have never experienced it but then again, I cannot express my emotions very well.

 

[Darkover]

no love isn't real just hormones oxytocin and chemical addition

I don't believe in love, I think it is just hormones that get humans to mate with a person we find attractive enough to create a healthy offspring, but with what we call love, I believe it is just wanting to mating with someone that is basically your friend and that you find especially appealing, so much that you want to live with them.

I understand that all of our emotions come from chemicals and that the only reason I am unbelieving of love is because I believe that it is just the emotions for lust and happiness at an amplified rate.

 

[Yume Nikki]

I think family love is real. Romantic love... not really. At least from what I've seen in my mom's failed marriage with my abusive father, and from my abusive ex discarding me after dating for 8 months, that bond unfortunately doesn't last for some reason.

 

[sadalways]

I do believe in it, at least i really want to, but it's difficult when you haven't really experienced it.

 

[Namelesa]

I do think it exists as I would say I have loved others now and in the past as I cared about them deeply, saw value in them and wanted to support them through whatever they are going through and them to get what they desire. Love can come in many different forms such as being platonic, parental, romantic, sexual, etc. It can be very difficult and require a lot of luck to find someone who would feel the same way towards you as some people are just asshole or you may not mesh well with that person.

Wondering what do you mean by love that is cruel? Personally if a type of love is labeled as cruel then that isn't love and instead a lie.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes, I have known people in love. I've felt love towards family and close friends. I probably had the potential to be in love at one point. Not so much now though. I've become too comfortable alone. I have too much distrust of others and, I'm too set on suicide to want to create more tethers to life.

 

[Electra]

I'm not sure about it. Maybe I should divide it into conditional and unconditional love. Conditional love definitely exists, unconditional? Unknown. Maybe between parents and children, but not between romantic partners. That's just my take.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I believe that love is about as real as any other emotion. From a more anecdotal perspective, the feelings I have towards my bf are very distinct from the feelings I have towards others and squarely fall in the romantic love category.

I understand that all of our emotions come from chemicals and that the only reason I am unbelieving of love is because I believe that it is just the emotions for lust and happiness at an amplified rate.

Love and lust are not the same and have distinct neurological aspects to them. Along with that, love can occur without there being feelings of lust. Pair bonding likely stems from similar neural circuits involved in parent-infant bonds. Lust has more to do with the hormones testosterone and estrogen, while love involves vasopressin and oxytocin, which are involved in forming bonds and attachments. While the two sometimes may intertwine with each other, they are both generally seen as distinct from one another.

 

[Alexsei]

Yes. Losing it can kill you.

 

[BecomingTired]

I believe love exists, just not that most people experience what I'd refer to as "true" love, whether platonic or romantic. You never truly know anyone, and in a sense I don't think most romantic relationships/friendships or anything similar have people who'd truly trust or care for eachother from the depths of their heart. Even if one person experienced that feeling doesn't mean their friend or partner will really feel the same, and honestly it's kind of unfair to expect that out of someone no matter how close you perceive them as because the way they see you is a completely different perspective that is built on their own world views, experiences, beliefs and emotions.

I don't think I can live with that prospect really; I just now realised I probably never had anyone that saw me as close as I saw them or even as a friend, most likely at best I was some form of cope/peace of mind for another person. Even in an irl relationship I felt as though I felt a different type of "love" as my partner felt, which ultimately led to a breakup. Despite that, it's honestly only a small part of why I am so depressed, though the loneliness and pain of it all hurts so bad.

It's not really any of their fault i just hold nothing of value, so I end up being a burden especially with how quick i can get attached to a person compared to others it just makes awkward situations where there is a huge gap in the amount of care for eachother; with how much I hold back on, and how much I struggle to show love to people i really care for it just makes it even more exhausting. I kind of suspect I am so inept in it because of how I just never was shown how to, and sort of just expect people to understand how I feel in a way.

It exists, but only for the right people.

 

[Pluto]

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I believe in the unbearable overwhelming power of deoxyribonucleic acid, oxytocin, and other insipid compounds that compel animals to breed.

 

[bieatmania]

I don't believe I can ever truly love a real human, they have motive to betray me for their own favor any time, and even if it does not happen right now at some point it will.
I believe the most pure love can only be founded on personalized form of one's ideal, like one's favorite cartoon character.

 

[zawmbite]

of course i believe in love. for me, it's not just a fleeting feeling like every other emotion i've felt, but something that exists in the way we care for each other, in the little gestures, and in the connections we share. love is in the moments when you lift someone up, when you listen without judgment, or when you just hold space for another person's heart. it's a force that can heal and transform, even when life gets hard. obviously it's not always perfect, but i believe it's real, and it's worth believing in. it's in the way people choose each other, time and time again.

but with love comes sacrifice, a lot of it, which is why for some people it might not be worth it. i have sacrificed so much for my partner, but i love him, so it's worth it.

 

[deadbidaylight]

I'm not sure if I believe in true, romantic love anymore. I think a lot of people feel and truly think they're in love, but who am I to say if it's actually a thing or not? My partner says he loves me, but he's an asshole most of the time and his actions don't align. I see it more as a serious codependence on his end rather than actual love. Before I continue, I am not a doormat. When he's an ass, he gets a mouthful every single time.

In another sense, I fully do believe in other forms of love. I have never in my life experienced a greater love than the love I have for my daughter. I don't even think my heart was fully beating until I saw her for the first time. I would lay down my life to see her smile. She is the sole reason why I'm even still here. The thought of breaking her heart to not have me around anymore and her believing she wasn't enough for me to stay alive is crippling. The love I have for my child is indeed true, unconditional, soul consuming love. Lately, there's been so many times I have come close to following through on the thoughts inside my head, but I picture her coming home from school and finding me, and it goes away. I'm hoping that continues to be enough to fight the will to die. I don't want to be without my little girl.

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

Yes, unfortunately. And fortunately. The real kind that makes you and breaks you. Gives life and shatters it. Never lets you go even when lost. Makes you whole and rips your whole world apart. That kind of love, the one you cannot live without.

 

[Haematemesis]

do I believe in the biological mechanism that leads you to reproduce and have a tribe? yes I do. anything beyond that? no.

 

[GlassMoon]

I believe unconditional love for children exists. Romantic love probably also exists, but I don't want to feel it at the moment. Too worn out.